OlderAndWiser

Disagreements are inevitable in relationships and, hopefully, you will be able to resolve them and continue moving forward with your partner. Sometimes, it just requires talking and a willingness to compromise and, suddenly, you've broken past the log jam. But what do you do if your efforts are...

When I was a child, I had a mother who wanted to do everything in my life and allowed me to do almost nothing. I didn't know how to operate a washing machine until I was 16 years old and leaving for college. I was required to do very little housecleaning and I knew just a little bit about...

This site provides a venue for frequent discussions about the merits of marriage. Most of those who write are young to middle-aged men, and it appears that most have been married but are now divorced. They preach that marriage is evil, it has no benefit for men, it exists solely for the benefit...

I recently posted an opinion on this topic and received great feedback so I thought I would expand the topic and elaborate on some of these issues. If you have a first date with someone you have known for a while, these "rules" (suggestions) probably don't apply to you, because you should...

When I was a young man, my generation thought that we were radically different from our parents' generation, we did things differently, and they were simply incapable of understanding anything about us. We didn't want to listen to their advice and we learned all of our lessons the hard way....

One of the long-standing debates on this site concerns whether you should try to maintain a friendship with an ex after a breakup. The PC approved answer, if you are into regurgitating answers, is "of course you should. It's a sign of respect." Let's think this thing through! First, are you...

In Obergefell v. Hodges, 576 U.S. 644 (2015), the US Supreme Court ruled, by a vote of 5-4, that the right of homosexuals to enter into marriage is protected by the US Constitution. Writing for the majority, Justice Kennedy stated that "the Constitution promises liberty to all within its reach,...

[I am a lawyer in Florida and I have a good general knowledge of Florida law. I know something about the law in other US states but I am not licensed to practice law in any state other than Florida. My purpose with this myTake, and others which will follow, is to give you an understanding of...

[This is a continuation of two myTakes posted over the past two days. See Part 1 here: Online Dating: If You Haven't Had Good Results...Read This! (Part 1) and Part 2 here: Online Dating: If You Haven't Had Good Results... Read This! (Part 2) 13. Don't focus on one user as the object of...

[This is a continuation of a myTake posted yesterday. See Part 1 here: Online Dating: If You Haven't Had Good Results...Read This! (Part 1) ] 7. Post pictures; lots of pictures! a. Yes, really post pictures! Profiles with no pictures get very little attention. Most of us think the same thing...

Online dating is here to stay. Some people use it and have great success while others try and only experience disappointment. If you're not a believer, consider this: a recent survey of couples (dating or married) indicates that 19% of all couples met online. This number is higher than the...

I understand that many G@Gers are not Christians, or are not religious at all. This myTake is NOT about religion or religious beliefs, but it does begin with a Bible verse about men and women: Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and...

How many of you actually have a concrete set of criteria for a marriage prospect? I’m talking about criteria that are so specific that you could write them on paper like bullet points. And, then . . . how many of you actually think about those criteria when you are considering a dating...

@elizabeth1103 posted a question in which she asked about other users' first kiss experiences. I thought back to my first kiss - 55 years ago. When I was a toddler, my mother thought that I had great academic potential. At that time, there were no kindergartens or pre-K classes in public...

A few minutes ago, I learned that one of my fraternity brothers has suffered the tragic loss of his 18 year old daughter. I will not reveal any personal details because I greatly respect his privacy. The photo above is not his daughter; it is a photo that I found in a Google search. If you...

I am writing this myTake in response to a poll posted by @CoachTanthony. He asked, " Why are there more VIRGIN men today then ever before? " As usual for the Coach, that is an excellent question. As I started to draft a response (I don't always just dash off a quick response,) I realized that my...

Since February, 2018, I have been dating a lady who is . . . different. She says that she is devoted to me, she adores me, and I am the love of her life. However, I have realized that her actions don't match her words. I don't think she is trying to deceive me, lead me on, use me, etc.; I think...

When I was younger, I was advanced academically and, therefore, much younger than my classmates. My social development suffered. By the time that I was 19, I dated occasionally but not frequently. As I developed in my 20’s, I began to develop more confidence and I dated more than previously, but...

Occasionally, I read a post in which a young user describes their circumstances and then asks, “Will no contact work in this situation?” Sometimes, I read about a failing relationship and I recommend that the user break up and have “no contact.” I did not take long for me to discover that “no...

Yes, I am 63 years old and I am old enough to be the grandfather to most users on this site. I have been a user on G@G since April 10, 2015. Why am I here giving dating advice to young people who could be my grandchildren? What do I know about what happens in relationships in your generation?...