Just because someone does not want to get married does not mean they want to stay single for life. Also, being married won't fix your boyfriend if he treats you bad now marriage won't fix that. It's not just a piece of paper marriage is not something to be taken light as a fairy tale. It's a responsibility and you have to work on the marriage. To assume that people run from marriage is a stupid generalization
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I notice you are getting real defensive in all your replies. No one is trying to force you not to get married. Maybe you just hang out with the wrong group of men.
The term 'single' refers to someone who is unmarried. There is no box to check on your govt. or informational forms for "dating indefinitely" so that is the 'single' I am referring to. As far as your other statements, maybe you are speaking from your own experience or something and projecting that towards me, but I absolutely know marriage won't fix a person. If you did indeed read all my comments, you would be aware that I know that, and have clearly stated that marriage for me is not about some fairy tale. Your last statement is not a generalization, it is where this take started from, from someone telling me reasons why they didn't want to get married and trying to convince me it was useless and the outcome of that is I have always known, and still know what I want, which is to get married, so there is and there was no convincing me otherwise.
There is nothing wrong with people wanting to get married and there is nothing wrong with people who don't. Just a difference of preference.
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I don't know dude, to me, marriage is huge bear trap. I'm very safe and sound until I actually step on it. I honestly believe marriage is a very very bad idea, but to each his own, good luck to those who do want to marry.
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Yawn, whatever. So the demographic that marriage benefits wants to get married? Shocker.
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Bitter much? Your sort are so wrapped up in "its a money deal and nothing more," but my entire life I have been surrounded by nothing but successful life long marriages from my great grandparents on down. If my guy wants a pre-nup, I'll give him one b/c I have my own money, my own savings, my own business. If you don't want to get married, then don't. I'm not out there looking for you in the same way you sure as hell wouldn't be looking for me, so truly in the end, what does it matter to you, how I feel about wanting to get married.
You realize that divorced men have their children ripped away form them, their lives become those of an indentured servant, non of their rights are enforced in the divorce, they loose their home, they loose their retirement and their depression and suicide risk skyrockets. Reducing this reality to "Bitter much? Your sort are so wrapped up in "its a money deal and nothing more" is totally wrong.
The only bad thing from divorce for the average divorced woman is heart ache, they also get cash, long term financial support, the kids, the house. If the only thing men risked was heart ache then most men would likely be happy to get married.
But here is the thing. I read an article that said while men usually are the ones to stay away from marriage, they are the ones who largely benefit from it. They experience greater sexual satisfaction, better overall health, access to greater promotions at work, perform fewer household chores. Where it is the exact opposite for women. That is why 60% of divorces are started by women.
We live in diff times... Marriage is considered a high risk investment and an emotional detriment since people change quickly and realise its just a phase.
Well, again, at 18, we all say/and do a lot of things, but you have yet to experience years of living and hard life decision making and meeting all sorts of people, that's just fact. Many of my friends who said the same thing at 20 are now years married at 30, so really I take it with a grain of salt when someone in their 20's is like 'this is how my life is going to be.' LoL. Who knows, either way, but again, we'll see...
Men, just like women, have free will, and despite what you may think, you cannot force a man to get married if he doesn't want to. There are at least 50% of men who are married on this planet and who continue to stay married. Why do something where there were according to you, zero benefits? Why do something, as in the case of my won parents for FORTY years, if there were zero benefits for my father. Clearly that makes zero sense. If a couple is married, odds are the vast majority are sharing responsibilities, both parenting, both attending to the bills, both in committed sexual relationships with each other, and both committed to loving, supporting, and caring for one another in whichever way works for them. Even research on the subject of married men points out one of the biggest benefits to men who are married is they live about 10+ years longer then their unmarried peers.
why would I marry (support) a female who got ugly, fat and old and who was fucked by a full wagen of dicks? And then get divorced, robbing me 50% of everything and taking my children. JUST FUCKIN LOL @ marriage.
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Just because someone does not want to get married does not mean they want to stay single for life. Also, being married won't fix your boyfriend if he treats you bad now marriage won't fix that. It's not just a piece of paper marriage is not something to be taken light as a fairy tale. It's a responsibility and you have to work on the marriage. To assume that people run from marriage is a stupid generalization
I notice you are getting real defensive in all your replies. No one is trying to force you not to get married. Maybe you just hang out with the wrong group of men.
The term 'single' refers to someone who is unmarried. There is no box to check on your govt. or informational forms for "dating indefinitely" so that is the 'single' I am referring to. As far as your other statements, maybe you are speaking from your own experience or something and projecting that towards me, but I absolutely know marriage won't fix a person. If you did indeed read all my comments, you would be aware that I know that, and have clearly stated that marriage for me is not about some fairy tale. Your last statement is not a generalization, it is where this take started from, from someone telling me reasons why they didn't want to get married and trying to convince me it was useless and the outcome of that is I have always known, and still know what I want, which is to get married, so there is and there was no convincing me otherwise.
Nope I'm not projecting any experience of mine towards you. Again you seem defensive. I hope you get the help you need
Divorce is just way too easy to wage against it.
Plus lol @ - 30% if you make more then 100k a year. We're not debunking any myths today.
find a man who shares you views.
It's an excellent take. There is nothing wrong with your thinking.
I think some men get married just to stop their girlfriends from whining about getting married. hey how's Ashley Madison going 😂
Marriage is for real niggas only
Only tough people survive
Get bent softies
There is nothing wrong with people wanting to get married and there is nothing wrong with people who don't. Just a difference of preference.
I don't know dude, to me, marriage is huge bear trap. I'm very safe and sound until I actually step on it. I honestly believe marriage is a very very bad idea, but to each his own, good luck to those who do want to marry.
Yawn, whatever. So the demographic that marriage benefits wants to get married? Shocker.
Bitter much? Your sort are so wrapped up in "its a money deal and nothing more," but my entire life I have been surrounded by nothing but successful life long marriages from my great grandparents on down. If my guy wants a pre-nup, I'll give him one b/c I have my own money, my own savings, my own business. If you don't want to get married, then don't. I'm not out there looking for you in the same way you sure as hell wouldn't be looking for me, so truly in the end, what does it matter to you, how I feel about wanting to get married.
You realize that divorced men have their children ripped away form them, their lives become those of an indentured servant, non of their rights are enforced in the divorce, they loose their home, they loose their retirement and their depression and suicide risk skyrockets. Reducing this reality to "Bitter much? Your sort are so wrapped up in "its a money deal and nothing more" is totally wrong.
The only bad thing from divorce for the average divorced woman is heart ache, they also get cash, long term financial support, the kids, the house. If the only thing men risked was heart ache then most men would likely be happy to get married.
But here is the thing. I read an article that said while men usually are the ones to stay away from marriage, they are the ones who largely benefit from it. They experience greater sexual satisfaction, better overall health, access to greater promotions at work, perform fewer household chores. Where it is the exact opposite for women. That is why 60% of divorces are started by women.
You're a woman. Of course you want to get married. No risk proposition.
What you left out were the statistics on the divorce rate as you stay married.
i agree with you, whenever the man finds a girl who understand him and take care of him, then marriage is the best choice
According to the scale I have almost <5% chances of getting divorced!
Not everyone gets to experience 'true love'. :P
this is absolutely true, however it doesn't mean you stop looking.
We live in diff times... Marriage is considered a high risk investment and an emotional detriment since people change quickly and realise its just a phase.
not sure if I wanna get married now
i don't think at 18, anybody is like 100% sure they want to get married. I would expect at your age to be unsure and not want to be married just yet.
no I mean like at all
Well, again, at 18, we all say/and do a lot of things, but you have yet to experience years of living and hard life decision making and meeting all sorts of people, that's just fact. Many of my friends who said the same thing at 20 are now years married at 30, so really I take it with a grain of salt when someone in their 20's is like 'this is how my life is going to be.' LoL. Who knows, either way, but again, we'll see...
I want to get married when I'm thirty.
Modern marriage & relationships are SHIT
Money maybe but college? It is unrelated.
marriage = only benefits for woman
Men, just like women, have free will, and despite what you may think, you cannot force a man to get married if he doesn't want to. There are at least 50% of men who are married on this planet and who continue to stay married. Why do something where there were according to you, zero benefits? Why do something, as in the case of my won parents for FORTY years, if there were zero benefits for my father. Clearly that makes zero sense. If a couple is married, odds are the vast majority are sharing responsibilities, both parenting, both attending to the bills, both in committed sexual relationships with each other, and both committed to loving, supporting, and caring for one another in whichever way works for them. Even research on the subject of married men points out one of the biggest benefits to men who are married is they live about 10+ years longer then their unmarried peers.
why would I marry (support) a female who got ugly, fat and old and who was fucked by a full wagen of dicks? And then get divorced, robbing me 50% of everything and taking my children. JUST FUCKIN LOL @ marriage.
Bitter much?