I've been wondering about this for years.
What does this image really mean to you? Think about it for a minute:
This image sparks a whole lot of reactions, doesn't it? I just wonder if, among our millennial population, it's seen as a sign of bliss or jail?
I think there was a time when women would respond favorably while men, well, not so much. But times have changed, haven't they? I'm seeing a lot of my female friends in their early 20s swearing off the idea of marriage for a lot of different reasons. In fact, I'm starting to wonder if women are frowning on marriage more than men are these days. But then I saw this and went, okay, maybe things haven't changed that much:
But then my ex watched this and just shrugged her shoulders and said, "yeah, I get that." I wanted to know why and she launched into this huge explanation I just wasn't prepared for. By the time it was over, I could only picture one thing: Me offering her a wedding ring and her picturing that ring as if it was this:
And maybe it is. I wasn't going to propose anyway; the relationship was pretty much done. But I keep thinking I MIGHT propose if the right person came along, and then I wonder: "What if that 'right person' just despises the idea of marriage?" I'd never even considered it before. I bet a lot of men haven't. I know one guy - an old coworker - who was shocked to see his long-time girlfriend of four years turn down his marriage proposal as gently as possible, with a similar explanation the one my ex gave.
The word "jail" or "prison" does seem to pop up a lot in such conversations. And of course, men use it plenty as well.
Funny, but I guess we have to wonder: Maybe we're all too interested in staying kids and not growing up. Maybe marriage is more a symbol of maturity than anything else, and we run in the direction because we're a bunch of kids.
Then again, maybe there are perfectly legit reasons for avoiding the rings, as many intelligent people will tell you. And hell yeah, I think I qualify as intelligent. I don't think agreeing or disagreeing with marriage makes you any MORE or LESS intelligent. Still, there is that maturity factor...
What do you say, fellow GaGers?
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lol... people really compare it to jail?
I want everyone who says that it's like jail to actually go to jail and see what it's really like. I bet almost everyone would prefer marriage after experiencing that.
I understand people not wanting to get married, but comparing it to jail is kind of ignorant. It is not the same thing. When someone is in jail, they can't just walk out on their own, and their free will is stripped. In a marriage, people do it all the time if they aren't happy... they just walk out the door, maybe into someone else's arms, and gets a divorce. Sure, there's a penalty to getting a divorce, which is the biggest reason why I think people don't like marriage, but it's nothing in comparison to having your freedom stripped away. No one forces you to stay in a marriage, and you still have your free will/can do whatever you want to do (Unless you are from the middle east).
I just find it ridiculous that someone can say that it's like prison, but I digress.
Personally, I love the idea of marriage. I want someone to be my life long partner, and the symbolic meaning behind marriage is wonderful. Obviously, there are easy way outs, but I would never enter into a marriage with that in mind. I only want one marriage, and I want it to be with the right person. I want everything that a marriage represents - family, undying bond/connection, forever partner, unconditional love.
I love my fiance very much and I can't imagine a day when I won't wake up with him beside me. I can't imagine ever having a day where I don't see his face or hear his voice. I want to make memories with him and grow old with him. I want to face our difficulties together and become stronger because of it. And I want that ring that symbolizes our connection. Because that's all it is, really. Yeah, unless you have a prenup you will split your assets down the middle... but depending on the relationship and how long it lasts, that's the only way to do it. You put your time and money and faith into this person when you mold your lives as one. Splitting it will not be an easy thing, and it shouldn't be. You should be serious when you make those vows, willing to work out every difficulty you may face.
Obviously there are exceptions, such as being cheated on, or if you're partner kills or rapes someone (god that's a horrible thought). I don't even want to get into that topic, though, since it'll really rile me up.
I'm pretty sure the "jail" part isn't to be taken literally. You know what people mean when they say it, I'm sure.
Well, to me, it just sounds ignorant to say something like that.
It's only ignorant if the person actually means marriage is anything like being in prison. And I seriously doubt anybody thinks that.