Yes, I know I’m young and that marriage is still a long, long way off, and that I could be thinking (and writing) about other things, but stuff it, I decided to write about this anyways.
A little explanation: I am all for people being who they want to be, but personally, I support traditional gender roles, to an extent. That’s just what appeals to me. But at the same time, I think a relationship or marriage should be equal or 50/50 for most things, because it’s a partnership and it takes two.
**WARNING: TACKY STOCK IMAGES AHEAD**
1. Be a Good Friend
Everyone has their own opinion about what makes a relationship and what breaks it, but I think it’s important that every strong romantic relationship is built on friendship, with some sharing of common values, morals and interests. If I can’t be his best friend, I’d like to be a good friend, but without taking away from his other mates either.
2. Communicate Well
I don’t know that much about relationships, but as of now, I think this is the key to having a successful one. I hope that regardless of how little/long we’ve been married, that we’ll always be able to communicate well and express how we’re feeling or what we want clearly.
3. Be Affectionate
I’m affectionate, and I’d want to show this with plenty of hugs and kisses (although not excessively). But, I’m not one for public displays of affection (PDA), so these moments would generally be kept all to ourselves.
(Us on GaG together lmao)
4. Be Supportive
If he’s having a tough time or has even just come home from a long day at work, I want to be supportive of him and share the load that’s weighing on his shoulders. And while a lot of the time being supportive is about being there for someone, if he needs his space, then that is totally fine as well.
5. Still Have Fun
I don’t want to become the ‘fun police’ and lose all sense of my inner child, I still want to be able to occasionally joke around and playfully tease each other too, and keep things interesting.
6. To Cook for Him
I may not be a Nigella in the kitchen, but there’s something satisfying about placing a meal in front of someone and having them enjoy it.
7. Take Care of the Housework
I’m a strange one, but I actually don’t mind tidying up and cleaning, it gives me peace of mind and is actually quite calming (I’m also a tiny bit of a neat freak). I want him to come home to a clean house that he’s proud of.
8. Be Comfortable at My Worst
No, I don’t mean letting myself go, but I want to be able to occasionally wear my trackies and t-shirts, not have to worry about wearing makeup every day (which I don’t think will be much of an issue lol) and sometimes just chill in my uggies.
I’d want be okay with being at my worst, not just physically, but emotionally too, and to I know I can always rely on him to support me as well.
9. Take Pride in My Appearance
Sort of contradicts the above point, but I try to take pride in looking my best (and being my best) when I can, and hopefully this won't change.
There’s also nothing wrong with ‘date night’ once a week or whenever we decide to have it, I definitely still want those glamorous, sexy moments too!
10. Not Let Myself Go
I want to stay in good shape and not let myself go, for both my health’s sake, and his sake. I see tons of questions on here from men asking what to do about their SO’s who have let themselves go, and I don’t want to be one of those women.
11. Please Him
I'd have a strong desire to please and to keep him happy, which I don’t think is inherently bad, as long as I’m not constantly forfeiting my own needs and opinions either. I'm no push-over!
12. Try New Things
Now, I’m really hoping I don’t get reported for adult content again (happens every time, I swear) so keeping in line with the GaG posting rules, I’m going to keep this short, sharp and sweet.
With the limited experience I do have, I like to think I’m very open minded and would be willing to try many new things with him, both in and out of the bedroom. ;)
13. Have a Good Work Ethic
Even at a young age, I’ve got big dreams and lots of ambition for my future career, which is something I’d hope he has too. I want to be in the workforce alongside him, until raising a family comes into play, and I’d like to have the first few years of being a mother off of work. When the children are older, then we can alternate between who’s the main bread-winner and who isn’t. But, in saying that, I don’t want to neglect my family either, so if the finances support it and said husband would like me to be a stay at home mum, then so be it, family is the number one priority.
14. Be a Mother
I want to have his children, and experience the ups and downs of motherhood with him. I’m not fussed on the sex or how many (at least, not yet) but I hope that we raise our children well and instil the right values in them.
15. Grow Old with Him
Yes, I want one of those cliche rom com moments, but I want to see our kids develop into adults, and to watch our grandkids play while we sit on the porch, old and frail, still very much in love like we were when we first got married. (That was cheesy, but it's true, so imma leave it in).
Hope you enjoyed :)
Also, some of you may notice the similarities between mine a take that ElissaDido posted a week or two ago which I am aware of, but I’ve spoken to her about this and I can assure you that I didn’t write this with the intent of copying her.
P.S. yes this might be a little naive, but I'm only 17 and this is how I feel right now :P