Men, why don't you want to get married? (Page 3)
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Why is this even a debate? For hundreds of years, there have been many people, both men and women, who did not want to get married, and many who did want to get married. We're all different, with different needs and preferences in our individual lives. Why can't we just do our own things and stop criticizing each other?
I WOULD LOVE TO, the thought of settling down with the love of my life is unparalleled. Often with the trend of society, relationships come and go & it tends to make you think if this was the right women for me? Maybe it has to do with the lack of two parents in childrens lives and the burden they felt as a child.
I think people just don't want to settle down too quickly, they can say "I will never gett married" when they're in their early 20s because at that time they want to be single and go out and party, but then usually change their minds once they get older and more mature
Must mess around in 20's, must start looking or cohabitating in 30's and 40 settle down.
Is it worth it? What's the point?
I haven't been married or even been in a proper relationship but the view i get of marriage is that for us guys its the end of the road. Married guys are always shown as weak, dumb and just general idiots. Our society makes fun of married guys and i know you will argue that in real life this isn't true. But for someone like me who has only been exposed to the views of society and how it views married men, it's enough to make me stop and wonder if it is really worth it.
This question must get asked about once a week. The reasons are given, for why marriage is the worst deal most men ever make. Women are to blame for turning the deal sour, and men are beginning to find out.
Read this one:www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1372759-marriage-rate-decline
Most marriages either fail or become unbearably miserable for the man, because women (80% or so) have evolved to be unsuitable for a long term relationship with the same partner. Most can't stay in love with the same man more than about 4 years, before her body chemicals end that loving feeling for that man. Women are suited to a series of short term relationships, and drive their partner away to end each one. That's just instinctive, and there's little she (or he) can do about it. No surprise that "I don't know why, but I fell out of love and divorced him" accounts for 44% of marriages. This leaves men financially ruined and wondering why the person they loved deserted them.
There are exceptions, just like some women who are lesbian or asexual, but only about 20% of heterosexual women can stay in love with the same man forever, even if he's better than ever. This also causes a lot of unhappy marriages that don't end in divorce, but are devoid of any affection.
If I'm going to marry someone it's not going to be because the girl has begun to get bored of me and says I need to ask otherwise she'll leave. If you're going to leave me because your bored now, then what's stopping you from leaving down the line where it most likely be rougher on me?
This does not apply to all girls, I know that but I've seen several marriages where it only happened because the women was getting bored so the man made a hasty decision.
You see I would like too but I don't want to be divorced where my kids will be taken away and given to their mother just because she's a woman. And it seems like women or people of this generation don't work things out as soon as they get tired they just leave so I don't want to go through all of that. So even though I'm still young I think about marriage but not getting married outweighs me actually getting married.
I got no problem with marriage, but for that I need to find a decent girl, a girl who is upto my leave of moral standards. And it's difficult to find that kind of a girl these days. But if I do find 1 and she is interested is a proper relationship I'll be more than willing to settle down with her.
Well We men get burned in divorce, women take our kids, hard earned cash, house, car and all that. If she was the one at fault for the divorce (she cheated or something of the like) guess what? she still takes our , money kids...
Men get ZERO yes ZERO, none, nada benefits from getting hitched. Sex is easy to get (for some) desperate women are dime a dozen. so whats the point? love? love fades and the most gentle woman will turn into a hellish devil as soon as we are not in good terms anymore
I don't see that many women wanting to get married neither.
Besides, why would a guy want to waste his time buying an expensive ring for someone that will only manipulate him him for the rest of his life when guys can have an independent well paying, successful career?
That's a bit of a cynical way to look at it, isn't it? lol
@Kiwedin
It's a pretty logical reason actually.
It's not. You're expecting the worst out of marriage. Your opinion seems as if you're just assuming that your "future wife" will be a horrible person. Why would you marry someone like that in the first place? Just leads me to believe that you have divorced parents or some girl seriously broke your heart. Not all women manipulate men, or even want an expensive ring to begin with, and you can have a successful career with or without a wife.
@Kiwedin
With all the increasing divorce rates in the world, of course marriages are not working anymore. "Future wife"? I don't even have that planned, so obviously I wouldn't marry a woman like that anyway. Nope, no one has broke my heart nor have I divorced parents. I'm just simply not interested in marriage. :) Maybe I will be in a committed partnership, but marriage seems like a complete waste of time to me. Not all, but many of them in today's society have been exposed to radical feminism and misandry, causing them to expect more from guys. The thing is, I don't understand why it's okay for a woman to say she doesn't want to get married, but for a man he supposedly "screws" with women or is a "sexist"...
It's not sexist to not want to get married, it's sexist to assume that if you marry a woman she'll ruin your life lol.
@Kiwedin
No, it's not. It's a general thought that men and women will have.
Not really though ;).
Marriage is just beautiful if the person you are marrying is beautiful to you and shares similar wavelength with you.
It makes no sense for men to marry a girl who want steady ATM machine and the girls slept with lot of other guys earlier.
If you can't have desirable girl to marry then it would lot rewarding to man to not to marry.. it opens lot option to man without responsibility.. of household life.
I dont see the need to have a paper to tell me that i want to be with this person for the rest of my life. I have quite a few friends acquaintances, and my brothers that have gotten married and it did not work out. I dont have anything against people who want to get married, but i dont think its for me.
I'd love to get married, unfortunately it's a financial deathtrap for a man in 2015, especially considering how much a woman could flip-flop within one.
Men are just scared of it these days, and rightfully so.
I just enjoy being single and living life for me. such as it is.
Do you ever feel like one day you'll wake up and want a woman in your life?
I do like the idea of having someone it's just the way my life is I wouldn't really know what to do with a GF. that and all the issues that come with having a bad girlfriend are too much.
Ugh, where do I begin? Love doesn't last forever... get all my shit taken away after divorce... have kids, and pay a quarter of a million dollars from ages 1-18 (excluding college)... losing custody of my kids... paying alimony... dealing with today's women who are all feminazis...
Like, why should I get married?
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Well say you found a great woman who didn't want your money, loves you just for who you are. And all that stuff you mentioned didn't matter to her.
This may not be realistic but if you found someone like that would it change your mind?
I have yet to met the right women in my life. I like being single for now, it could change later on in life. But i think the reasons for not getting married are I worry about if I would fall outta love with the women I marry. Marriage takes a lot of work and that's another thing as you have to both work in order to make the marriage work. Plus their children and that's another issue. I knew plenty of people who married the wrong person then got divorced then remarried again and are happy.
If you’re committed to each other, what does a legal marriage actually change? Nothing.
If it all falls apart, you can get taken to the cleaners.
You can be just as happy together forever without a piece of paper and a ring as ‘proof’.
Don't think it is a gender thing but I never saw point of marriage - Would have no problem cohabiting, having kids without marriage.
Every guy I know who gets married turns into this pussy-whipped slave. Sounds really sad, but they got themselves into that mess. They joke about getting away from their wives and such, but you know deep down they don't want to go back there. Plus all you have to look forward to is a woman who keeps getting older and older, and if you're lucky a blow job on your birthday, Christmas and maybe Valentine's.
Can't wait to get married and get fat.
Lol... "I want to get old and fat together!" Sounds oddly romantic.