Happy belated birthday!
What you described certainly doesn't sound good. It seems like things aren't good between the two of you. Has it been like this since the beginning or did it change at some point after you got married?
Why is he wanting you to spend more time with friends? Is that so he doesn't have to spend time with you and you won't be upset about it?
At the time you got married, how much time did you spend together? Has that declined a lot? How about the sex life? Has that gotten less frequent too? If so, it seems like the two of you are losing the connection you had. Did something happen that got him mad at you or is he just someone that doesn't want to spend a lot of time with his wife?
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He was showing off in front on his friends and bring a dick at the same time.
If I tried that with my wife she would smack me and make me look like a fool. So I don't dare to disrespect her. She has no problems return what is giving.
I feel your pain, however you need to stand up for your relationship with your husband. First off a drive through is definitely not a birthday present and neither is homekeeping!!!
The vibe I get from what you've said are you both intimate? Is HE working full time as well? ( I hope he is) "doormat" coming to mind I would be pissed if it where me.
Well I advise you from the 💓 .
Sit him down and tell him exactly what you need feel and want from him, and ask him the same. But please stand strong do not be a doormat x
Your husband needs a reality check, and i dont think he knows how to treat you right. You are not asking for much out of him, so tell him off if he keeps telling you that you are not greatful. Its not right of him to say you need friends, you got your own ways to live your life so does he, but both need love and understanding and communication is extremely important in a relationship.
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I think he is struggling with something within himself. He may even feel he doesn't deserve you. What I mean is, women have theoretically evolved to be hypergamous meaning they date up. It's thought that women have had more evolutionary genetic influence the entire species than men have due to their power to select. Given the environment of women's hypergamy, men have theoretically evolved to be polygamous and therefore more importantly, to date down. So when a woman demonstrates more competence than her male mate, it could cause and deep evolutionary phsycological discomfort where he feels not good enough.
I could always be wrong on that account, but I will say I think you are a rare and progressive woman as well as your relationship. But the two of you should really sit down and have a discussion of how things are going, no ultimatums, accusations, blame, victimhood, etc. Just use facts and feelings, and be willing to be compasionate. At the same time, think seriously about what real boundaries you have and establish them with him as soon as you can when you are sure. Then be prepared to enforce them by making certain comforts you give him scarce. Just because men respond much better to action.I think perhaps you are thinking that he is a man and therefore should be doing the shelf building thing. Possibly a little bit sexist but I don't know, perhaps you are doing the cooking and cleaning thing - I don't know.
Either way it sounds like you want him to be more wage about DIY. I doubt he will be. Why not just use taskrabbit or one of those locks handy man apps and save yourself the arguments?
As for the drive through - I'd be more pissed about that to be honest.Maybe you said with a wrong tone thank you. It might sounded that you are complaining. Sometimes people don't see when someone do something for them. That they often complain about things and be nagging that everything is wrong.. You put this wrong you done that wrong. I lived with a Spanish girl as renting in the same house. So she was always complaing everything is wrong and i bet she probably dosn't even notice that.
He’s an asshole sweetheart you sound like you remain pleasant and positive even though you have a lot on your plate xxx
Spouses are supposed to put each other first. At least in this instance he did not. It is also unacceptable to criticize in front of others or to let others go unchallenged when they criticize your spouse.
Something else is going on. And he's bottling it up probably because he's scared to hurt you by telling you it.
You sound like an angel. I would have put that bookshelf in the middle of his favorite room with a note "put me together" after the first week! Honestly he sounds like a lazy ass and he needs to start treating you better.
Go to couple therapy. It seems that your issue is more deep that just a simple comment.
So the thing was no one wanted to put the bookshelf together?
Maybe a couple therapy would help. Get a therapist and give it a try.
You sound ungrateful.
he is being a dick.. and a little immature
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