Ladies and Gentlemen, in terms of marriage which type of partner do you prefer to have?

[FinalFantasyBro]

At first I originally wanted to be a traditional man and marry a housewife but not I am officially leaning towards a working woman. I definitely think having two people bringing in income is so much better compared to only one person but that is only my answer. What about you men and women do you do to have your future partner be a breadwinner or a home maker?

A career driven man or woman

A stay at home mom or dad

[GreenLanternI0I]

I will give you a life example that I am experiencing right now. Nature intended for men to work his ass off so he can bring as much food as he can, build the best shelter and give as much protection to his entire family, where women sits home and raises her children to be smart and strong using all the resources that men provides, until a certain age where man starts to teach his son or daughter how to be a strong successful man or a women, by leading by example and sending them to best possible not schools, but situations where they can expand their knowledge and minds (super costly) Now, let's throw a wrench in the machine. You working, your wife is working, who is raising children? Nanny? and the government? (kindergarten, junior school, high school who are deliberately raising children to be dumber, angrier and a whole lot more depressed) and you expecting to raise strong, smart ethical children? Raising children is a full time job, you not going to be able to raise your kids properly when you and your wife are exhausted every single day of the week from your full time job making money to full time job raising kids. Impossible, something eventually will give off, either your marriage (destruction of your family and emotional cracking of your kids), or you completely loosing sight of your children and their life path.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Not really interested in children that much but if I did I kids I personally believe one of us should put the job on hold for a while until the kids get older to attend school.

[hahahmm]

@FinalFantasyBro You say that but you don't really know how you will feel in 10-15 years so my advice is if you pick a wife make sure she's good mom material. And women would be wise to make sure they only marry guys who are good dad material.

[hahahmm]

@GreenLanternI0I Side note... We'll be lucky if society survived another 20 years in my opinion, because so many people make choices that only benefit themselves with no care about the stuff you mention which actually will have an impact on the larger society in how your kids behave as they grow up and as adults.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Thanks for the useful advice @hahahmm I make sure to remember this advice.

[GreenLanternI0I]

@hahahmm I know exactly what you mean, because I already see and feel the great division. Kids who are being raised in a Nuclear family (a small minority) and kids who are being raised by the State and the Streets.

[t-8900]

Well here's the thing I could take either one. I just want them to be genuinely happy in life. But my girlfriend is career driven and more successful than me. I'm going be with her being a breadwinner. We all have our own set of unique circumstances and today the world gets ever harder and more hectic to navigate and provide for children. The US has one of the highest taxes citizenry in the world... Actually I believe we ARE the most taxed... And we make less per hour than any other developed nation in the world. Our tax dollars get wasted on overspending in the military and foreign aid. Tbh we have enough money in this country to prevent a single homeless person from living on the street, a child going hungry, a cancer patient struggling to cover the costs of their chemo, etc. But we have some rat bastards in office making life difficult for all of us in both political parties. Anyways I'm happy to be with this amazing woman who has made me feel things I never thought existed. She's career driven and I'm more of a home body and it just works out that way. I thank God she's come into my life. What an absolutely amazing woman.

[Prettygurl12]

I am career-driven. I have been the breadwinner for my entire marriage. My husband just got his first ever job in September 2021 (we've been married for almost 4 years now and he was in law school) and his annual salary is double mine now but he hasn't outearned me yet lol

I am happy that he's working because he seems to love his job. I also was happy to support us on my own. Everyone probably thinks that I'm thrilled not to be the only earner in my relationship or that I'm excited my husband makes more than me but... I straight up had an identity crisis when he got a job 😂

I have worked full time since I was 16. I have paid for everything for our entire 11-year relationship. I get (probably an unhealthy amount of) my self-worth from being good at my job and providing. So when he got his job and started making 6-figures I had an embarrassingly long crisis moment lol

So... to answer your question... I don't care. Whatever makes him happy, but I need to work.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Why is your husband going to law school is he trying to become a lawyer of some sort?

[Prettygurl12]

He is an attorney now. He was in law school up until May 2021. He studied for the bar over the summer and started at a firm this past fall.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Damn that sounds super impressive

[Prettygurl12]

Lol yeah I think he's pretty cool.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I selected career driven but in reality I don't want someone whose 'overly driven' or whose first priority is their career.

I don't want someone willing to relocate their family on a 2 months notice or working at 1am on a weekly basis because of their 'career'.

I want someone who has a stable job from which they derive satisfaction and a routine paycheck. I want someone who is willing to get that promotion but isn't compromising their mental health to get there. I want someone who isn't so burnt out that they are 'too stressed out' to come home and face chores.

Dual income, dual housework. I want a partner who can take ownership of certain tasks without me having to pester them to do the bare minimum.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Career driven man. I’m a fairly career driven woman as well, but I will 100% be willing to be stay at home when I have children, if finances allow me to.
If not a stay at home mom, I plan to work at least part time so I can care for them a few days a week instead of sending them to daycare everyday. When they are older, I will probably go back to working full time.
Something I will discuss with my partner when the time comes.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Nice, and yes I definitely approve it might be beneficial in terms of one parent staying with the kids when they are quite young.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am past the chd-bearing, child rearing years, so I don't need a stay at home mom. My girl works with me and I guess it works well for us because we are both still alive!

[FinalFantasyBro]

That is great to hear

[hahahmm]

I always set high enough goals for myself that I would never feel that I need a woman's money. There was an analysis done of how much money men made back when most income was just from 1 spouse and, guess what? If you adjust for inflation and look at these modern combined incomes, they're actually just barely or even less than what 1 person used to earn. Are future generations going to have 3 and 4 spouses to try and keep up? Smarter to focus on earning more than trying to add incomes, in my opinion. Then your kids see your role model and they're going to be better off down the road too.

[MCheetah]

A mix of both. Neither one on their own is desirable to me at all. If I wanted to marry a "career driven" workaholic, I'd just be gay and marry a man. And a stay-at-home mom isn't bad, but it's not what I personally want. At least, not at this stage in my life. Maybe 10-15 years later. Luckily, I don't want to get married anyway.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Yes I can imagine having a perfect balance is always great. Don't want to be with someone who is completely independent because they are more likely to constantly annoy you, while being with a person who is only dependent on you just seem like they are only a servant and not an actual partner.

[Apple1996]

My SO is a workaholic and I'm a stay at home mom. I'm very happy with this situation! I love being able to be there everyday for my kids and he loves to work and provide for his family

[FinalFantasyBro]

Nice relationship it is always great to play to each other strength for the good of a family.

[InventorofWarp]

Career but she has to want to fuck often still. I have a high sex drive.
I actually always wanted to be a stay-at-home husband/dad but it's rather ironic that my career is now on the cusp of taking off and I really don't see myself wanting kids anymore in the future as a result. Too many goals and dreams to be achieved.

[Anonymous]

Somewhere in the middle like me. I view work as a means to an end. I'll never understand people that are defined by their careers. I don't care how high you rise in life whether you make minimum wage or whether you make 6 figures as the CEO of a company. You're still just somebody's b****.
I prefer her goal to be like mine financially independent. Not a stay at home mom nor a corporate drone.

[DizzyDesii]

We both need to be working. But i prefer we both work a 9-5. Kids often get out of school by 4pm or before so i want us both home by 5 so we can have quality time with eachother and the kids. Money isn't everything

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I would personally be fine with both but I already know which my ideal partner would be. I can't honestly imagine a better situation for me personally. I know most people honestly just stay in between of the two categories but if you're having children, someone has to take care of them so both parents can't be workaholics.

[MzAsh]

Yeah, a lot of guys learn real quick that being able to afford to support a housewife is not going to be easy.
And women learn real quick that being a dependent housewife is risky in the case that shit goes sideways and she’ll have nothing.
I’m definitely a modern woman and gladly help my man financially.

[NathanDavis]

I've never been married but also, never been with, not even met someone that is just does nothing for themselves or on their own but who knows... I don't actually have a preference

[exitseven]

My wife has a career but stayed home for 11 years when we had kids.

[DaveToo]

The kind of woman you should have is the one that you love with all your being and she loves you the same. Remember, you work to live. If you live to work you're not devoting your entire life to living.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

So happy to see that the world is changing for the better. Men wanting women who bring more to the table.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Unfortunately there are still a quiet a few men out there who do still think women shouldn't work. 🤷🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Sadly. But both have a lot to gain from that. Men have a financial stable partner and no need to pay much after divorce (since both have jobs and many guys here complain about that). And women get to be able to provide for their home and be indepenent.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Yes, most people men and women complain about the lack of income but they prefer to live comfortably and not make their own income. And what you stated is also a definite in terms of divorce don't want to have give over a couple of my money based off of a shitty law that should really go extinct.

[Citizenkirk]

I'm not into outmoded, inflexible marriage stereotypes, I see marriage as a partnership that requires flexibility and an open mind.

[msc545]

The type that is not going to try to wreck my life would be nice.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I can definitely understand that there are quite a few untrustworthy women out there.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

A career driven woman

[taco_truck]

For me I rather have a stay at home wife so she can take care of the kids and she can have a day off when I’m off so I can take care of the kid or kids and she can do what ever she wants

[Anonymous]

Career women all the way for me!

Sorry housewives but not for me. But there are plenty of blues wanting a housewife.

[Jamie05rhs]

I want her to have a job. If I have a job, she should have a job as well. I won't partner with anyone who can't contribute financially.