I will give you a life example that I am experiencing right now. Nature intended for men to work his ass off so he can bring as much food as he can, build the best shelter and give as much protection to his entire family, where women sits home and raises her children to be smart and strong using all the resources that men provides, until a certain age where man starts to teach his son or daughter how to be a strong successful man or a women, by leading by example and sending them to best possible not schools, but situations where they can expand their knowledge and minds (super costly) Now, let's throw a wrench in the machine. You working, your wife is working, who is raising children? Nanny? and the government? (kindergarten, junior school, high school who are deliberately raising children to be dumber, angrier and a whole lot more depressed) and you expecting to raise strong, smart ethical children? Raising children is a full time job, you not going to be able to raise your kids properly when you and your wife are exhausted every single day of the week from your full time job making money to full time job raising kids. Impossible, something eventually will give off, either your marriage (destruction of your family and emotional cracking of your kids), or you completely loosing sight of your children and their life path.
Well here's the thing I could take either one. I just want them to be genuinely happy in life. But my girlfriend is career driven and more successful than me. I'm going be with her being a breadwinner. We all have our own set of unique circumstances and today the world gets ever harder and more hectic to navigate and provide for children. The US has one of the highest taxes citizenry in the world... Actually I believe we ARE the most taxed... And we make less per hour than any other developed nation in the world. Our tax dollars get wasted on overspending in the military and foreign aid. Tbh we have enough money in this country to prevent a single homeless person from living on the street, a child going hungry, a cancer patient struggling to cover the costs of their chemo, etc. But we have some rat bastards in office making life difficult for all of us in both political parties. Anyways I'm happy to be with this amazing woman who has made me feel things I never thought existed. She's career driven and I'm more of a home body and it just works out that way. I thank God she's come into my life. What an absolutely amazing woman.
I am career-driven. I have been the breadwinner for my entire marriage. My husband just got his first ever job in September 2021 (we've been married for almost 4 years now and he was in law school) and his annual salary is double mine now but he hasn't outearned me yet lol
I am happy that he's working because he seems to love his job. I also was happy to support us on my own. Everyone probably thinks that I'm thrilled not to be the only earner in my relationship or that I'm excited my husband makes more than me but... I straight up had an identity crisis when he got a job 😂
I have worked full time since I was 16. I have paid for everything for our entire 11-year relationship. I get (probably an unhealthy amount of) my self-worth from being good at my job and providing. So when he got his job and started making 6-figures I had an embarrassingly long crisis moment lol
So... to answer your question... I don't care. Whatever makes him happy, but I need to work.
I selected career driven but in reality I don't want someone whose 'overly driven' or whose first priority is their career.
I don't want someone willing to relocate their family on a 2 months notice or working at 1am on a weekly basis because of their 'career'.
I want someone who has a stable job from which they derive satisfaction and a routine paycheck. I want someone who is willing to get that promotion but isn't compromising their mental health to get there. I want someone who isn't so burnt out that they are 'too stressed out' to come home and face chores.
Dual income, dual housework. I want a partner who can take ownership of certain tasks without me having to pester them to do the bare minimum.
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Career driven man. I’m a fairly career driven woman as well, but I will 100% be willing to be stay at home when I have children, if finances allow me to.
If not a stay at home mom, I plan to work at least part time so I can care for them a few days a week instead of sending them to daycare everyday. When they are older, I will probably go back to working full time.
Something I will discuss with my partner when the time comes.
u I am past the chd-bearing, child rearing years, so I don't need a stay at home mom. My girl works with me and I guess it works well for us because we are both still alive!
A mix of both. Neither one on their own is desirable to me at all. If I wanted to marry a "career driven" workaholic, I'd just be gay and marry a man. And a stay-at-home mom isn't bad, but it's not what I personally want. At least, not at this stage in my life. Maybe 10-15 years later. Luckily, I don't want to get married anyway.
I always set high enough goals for myself that I would never feel that I need a woman's money. There was an analysis done of how much money men made back when most income was just from 1 spouse and, guess what? If you adjust for inflation and look at these modern combined incomes, they're actually just barely or even less than what 1 person used to earn. Are future generations going to have 3 and 4 spouses to try and keep up? Smarter to focus on earning more than trying to add incomes, in my opinion. Then your kids see your role model and they're going to be better off down the road too.
My SO is a workaholic and I'm a stay at home mom. I'm very happy with this situation! I love being able to be there everyday for my kids and he loves to work and provide for his family
Career but she has to want to fuck often still. I have a high sex drive.
I actually always wanted to be a stay-at-home husband/dad but it's rather ironic that my career is now on the cusp of taking off and I really don't see myself wanting kids anymore in the future as a result. Too many goals and dreams to be achieved.
Somewhere in the middle like me. I view work as a means to an end. I'll never understand people that are defined by their careers. I don't care how high you rise in life whether you make minimum wage or whether you make 6 figures as the CEO of a company. You're still just somebody's b****.
I prefer her goal to be like mine financially independent. Not a stay at home mom nor a corporate drone.
We both need to be working. But i prefer we both work a 9-5. Kids often get out of school by 4pm or before so i want us both home by 5 so we can have quality time with eachother and the kids. Money isn't everything
I would personally be fine with both but I already know which my ideal partner would be. I can't honestly imagine a better situation for me personally. I know most people honestly just stay in between of the two categories but if you're having children, someone has to take care of them so both parents can't be workaholics.
Yeah, a lot of guys learn real quick that being able to afford to support a housewife is not going to be easy.
And women learn real quick that being a dependent housewife is risky in the case that shit goes sideways and she’ll have nothing.
I’m definitely a modern woman and gladly help my man financially.
s I've never been married but also, never been with, not even met someone that is just does nothing for themselves or on their own but who knows... I don't actually have a preference
The kind of woman you should have is the one that you love with all your being and she loves you the same. Remember, you work to live. If you live to work you're not devoting your entire life to living.
So happy to see that the world is changing for the better. Men wanting women who bring more to the table.
My wife has a career but stayed home for 11 years when we had kids.
I'm not into outmoded, inflexible marriage stereotypes, I see marriage as a partnership that requires flexibility and an open mind.
A career driven woman
For me I rather have a stay at home wife so she can take care of the kids and she can have a day off when I’m off so I can take care of the kid or kids and she can do what ever she wants
The type that is not going to try to wreck my life would be nice.
Career women all the way for me!
Sorry housewives but not for me. But there are plenty of blues wanting a housewife.
I want her to have a job. If I have a job, she should have a job as well. I won't partner with anyone who can't contribute financially.
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