Ladies and Gentlemen which sort of romantic relationship would you prefer to have?

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Male Led Relationship: Just the usual traditional marriage where the man is in charge. The guy gets the final say while he is the one who makes the money and make the decisions. His wife is essentially his responsibility and she usually stays home and do the cooking, cleaning and raising of the children. He is basically the boss!

Female Led Relationship: This is essentially the reverse of the traditional male leader and women follow relationship. In the female led relationship the woman is in charge and have the most say at the house, she will most likely be the main breadwinner and her husband is her responsibility. Her husband might take up the traditional feminine job of being home maker but still she is the boss and have the final word.

Partnership Relationship: In this relationship there isn't really a main leader because both the man and woman equally have a say in the couple. This relationship requires more compromise but still both the guy and girl have the same amount of power so no one is the final decider.

So men and women in terms of finding a potential partner which sort of lady or man is in your mind?

Personally myself I prefer if me and my future girl compromise and share equal say and responsibility I don't favor this one gender lead and the other gender follow concept. I rather choose a partnership but what about you men and women which relationship look more appealing in your eyes?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I tried male led but if he makes bad decisions and won't listen to your advice you are FUCKED. He financially ruined us both and started using a bunch of drugs because it "wasn't my place" to discourage him from using them. I think most men are too immature to handle that kind of power and it just goes to their heads. He was raised to be traditional and responsible but things like internet porn and redpill (woman-hating) ideology poisoned his mind and his heart. He rebounded with a sex worker, just did a complete 180, and started disrespecting his family and friends once I was no longer around to take all the abuse.

Now I am in more of a partnership situation, although my fiance does provide most of the money. I still have a career of my own and since he is a bit more established than me, and a bit older, he obviously makes a lot more money. He also comes from a wealthier background than I do as well so he had a much better start! So that factors into our relationship but he encourages me to build my career and we make decisions jointly. I don't think any relationship where only one side is completely in charge can really be healthy. Having tried both I am infinitely happier now. My fiance won't even get a haircut without asking my opinion and I find it really attractive that he values my input. We do have cleaning staff (that's what he's used to) but we both enjoy cooking and it's so much fun when we can cook together and goof around in the kitchen, that's one thing I wish everyone had, as simple as it sounds.

letuswaltzforthedead · Accepted Answer

Equal partnership would probably not work for me.

I wouldn't mind either A or B, but if I wouldn't be able to make every single decision on my own in a FLR. like, I'm a pretty indecisive bastard sometimes.

libsaretards · Accepted Answer

I picked option C because it is the closest to my view.

However, no relationship is ALWAYS 50/50. There are times when one partner is struggling more than the other. In that case, the other partner should step up. In the event BOTH are struggling, I believe it is a man's responsibility to step up and shoulder more burden and in return the woman can use that opening to get herself together and then become his pillar.

Beyond the 2 instances listed above, I usually let my woman have most of the say unless it is something I feel very strongly about. It is NOT that she has power over me or me over her. It is simply that I don't care about most things (part of battling depression) so it is nice to have a go-getter type of woman, but if I stand firmly on something then she needs to know when it is time to back off. Basically, if I offer no resistance than she is free to proceed but if I say something like "We really need to discuss this further before making a decision" or if I'm like "No fucking way", then she needs to realize that to mean we need to discuss it and come to a compromise or at least weigh the pros and cons together. Essentially, I let her make most of the decisions but I am not her whipping boy.

Looksnicholas · Accepted Answer

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BlueScorpio · Answer

I don't mind a man taking the lead, but the second he starts treating me poorly cause he's leading or starts power tripping/taking advantage of his role in anyway, then we will have problems. I will walk away the second he becomes mentally, emotionally or financially abusive towards me. But if he's loving and helpful then I see no issues.

DizzyDesii · Answer

We both need to be working and I’d be fine with us having equal income. I don’t care about who the breadwinner is. But we both need to have similar schedules so that there's time for eachother (preferably both free no later than 6pm and after). But I can be bossy. So i like to make the final decisions though I will always ask his input. I like to be the planner, scheduler, etc when it comes to trips, vacations, home decor and all that. I’d like for him to be the cook and driver. We can share responsibility with the cleaning and raising kids. I like to take over during foreplay (like seduction and oral) but I need him to dominate when it comes to the sex itself

NathanDavis · Answer

PARTNERS hip... . is the only one I've ever had, and the only one I would want like I always say... not behind, not ahead, I do NEED a lioness by my side  breakfast time...

Lliam · Answer

Totally 'C'. Equal partners.

I won't be bossed by anyone and I don't expect my partner to take orders from me. Neither of us has the final say. We have to either reach consensus or compromise.
We do things for each other and to help out as much as possible because we want to and because it's in both of our interests.

I never looked at a relationship as if it was a business in which I kept a ledger to insure that I benefited more than my partner. There are some selfish, mercenary, capitalist types who always seek maximum profit for themselves. My mind doesn't work that way.

If my partner and I are both happy, our relationship will last.

HighValue · Answer

I'll lead, but when it comes to the kids, I'd prefer her to do most of it when they are 0 to 7. I will do most of it when they are 7 to 14, and we can both work more closer to an equal team (60/40) when they are 14 +. I am really good with kids 7 and older, but the really young ones get on my nerves pretty quick, especially 1st grade and younger kids.

Nomina · Answer

I wouldn't say I have a favorite. I've read all three types and so long as the story was well-written, it didn't matter.

menina · Answer

I definitely want a partnership relationship. That sounds fair and healthier to me. It takes two people to make a couple, so both should have a saying.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Partnership is the one that leads to the most arguments and fighting. With no clear leader to make the final call, it's just who wants it more and who gives in. So yes arguing could definitely see you get your way and so people do it.

Personally I like a peaceful home, I grew up with a "partnership" style parents and I thought it was the worst thing ever. I'd be single before ever considering that.

Then since I'm a capable high earning leader of a man, it makes no sense to consider being a submissive role so the answer has always been clear to me that I need to lead and she needs to follow.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm the main wage earner and am most likely to make the big decisions such as buying the house or car happen.
I don't have it all my own way, or need to, and such decisions will go through 'appropriations'.
She will be consulted, may set the agenda and requirements, and may sway the decision.
Life is more complicated than your options. There are times when I lead, there are times when I defer. The best any couple can do is make the best use of the super powers each of you have, and do stuff that you both can at least tolerate.

tenor55 · Answer

When we first married (at 16 and 17) we were male led, more accurately male dominant. This was due, in part, to the type of church we were in and it’s patriarchal influence (complimentarian). Today, we are in a total partnership (egalitarian). I much prefer the latter!! We are a team. We discuss issues and make compromises and have mutual love and respect. 50 years, by the way.

ShellyB · Answer

Kind of a hybrid of how A and C are described is what I prefer, that is, I want the guy to take charge but I want him to do so based on what is best for me and us, I do not want to be exploited or treated poorly. I voted A but I wanted to explain that I do not see male led as being oppressive if it is done with love.

Datboi65 · Answer

Men should take the lead. Male leadership is not synonymous with abuse, I don't know why people are putting it that way. If you're in an abusive situation you should always break up and call 911. However, I believe if we are talking about healthy relationships, the one's that last the longest are usually the ones where the man is in the lead. There's a reason why the average marriage now doesn't last as much as it did back then.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I like to take the lead but I expect the woman I'm dating to be able to handle things herself too.

The idea of one of us being above the other just isn't what I'm after. I want someone who is as incredible as I think I am lol

RobT312 · Answer

Partnership. Aren’t most marriages like that anyways?

i think the other 2 options are minorities -male dominance is old fashioned or seen in conservative cultures, and women dominance occurs when the male in the relationship is a pussy

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Partnership Relationship (Both man and woman has an equal say in the couple.)

LazerBean · Answer

We have a traditional relationship. He has the final say when one is necessary, but that happens pretty much never. In our daily lives we both consult eachother equally, which is pretty typical of every traditional relationship I've seen.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know what a "female led" relationship would even look like but it sounds unappealing.

The kind of men I am attracted to are confident, strong and successful, and I'd say that's true for most women. I've never understood why women want a man like that and then expect him not to be dominant. You can't have it both ways.

Fuentes · Answer

It would have to be male led why cause I hate to be bothered unless I wanna fuck, if not most shit annoys me lol so if she can respect that we good. I am also not into emotional stuff so I ain't gonna talk about my day. I also don't wanna hear women have emotional nagging Rollercoasters they randomly come out of left field with so it would have to be male led.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Definitely partnership

Anonymous · Answer

Well B is a hard no, for obvious reasons. No female led relationship was ever a happy one for either partner.

So it's down to A or C. I'm fine with either, as long as I'm treated with respect, appreciated as a man, allowed to BE a man, and not expected to act like a woman in any way.

amccart19 · Answer

I would only be in a relationship of equality, though I would let the male take a bigger lead than me because I'm very indecisive... In a healthy relationship both people need to feel respected and heard. Everyone pulls their own weight as well. Maybe he does the dishes she does the cooking. He does the laundry she puts up the clothes. Everything should be equal.

Labokachulaa · Answer

I would almost always choose a MLR, however, in today's time that isn't realistic anymore. Especially not for me, so if I had the choice, I would say the last option where we're able to compromise.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I'd probably go with 50/50, although some things sound better in theory, so it's hard to know for sure.

MCheetah · Answer

Option C, with me doing the manly stuff and her doing the girly stuff, but me not simping to her and buying her crap when she has her own job.

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

In C the guy is still dominating the girl that’s clearly the ideal pic and the man is the dominant take note ladies and men too

msc545 · Answer

All of these "relationships" leave the man extremely vulnerable legally if the woman decides she wants a divorce. No thank you.

CA4444 · Answer

Voted C but I would still very much like power exchange in the bedroom.

Ninania · Answer

Partnership. Sure we can play with different D/s dynamics, but I'm not into 24/7.

Downhill20 · Answer

Equal, because of my culture. If we're to be together for life, then we're partners. And partners have to cooperate as a team.

alice55 · Answer

Male Led Relationship Cause i want to be a housewife

RavVid · Answer

A ship should have only one captain. Ladies like strong male leadership.

Pudsmucker · Answer

Dual relationships is the best. You're always talking. Sharing feelings. Feeling each other's pain and joy.

Dnice1 · Answer

Partnership relationship for sure

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Partnership relationship.

4ngelic · Answer

equal but slanted towards the guy

AsaKyo · Answer

A is ideal, but I could do C as well

moviedude714 · Answer

I wonder if option C is truly possible

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Partnership! #Equality

MountAverage · Answer

Options A and B are toxic.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Partnership relationship

Minahh · Answer

Partnership

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

C. I ain’t sexist.

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