Would you sign a prenup?

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It would be like the other person is acknowledging there’s a chance it won’t work out. Which is kind of a bad way to start things off

Curmudgeon · Accepted Answer

Actually, I used to doubt prenups, but now I am a believer.

A neurotic ex-wife insisted on one. I initially wondered about it, like, isn't it a built in self-destruct device to a marriage? But I went along.

Eight years later, she is doing much better having finished her nursing school (although she will be paying off student loans for years to come), and she is just vaguely dissatisfied, and she can't conceive, and so she wants a divorce.

It turned out the prenup saved my house, my assets and my retirement accounts, the debt for her school was still on her, and the prenup made the separation no muss and no fuss. Good luck to her finding fulfillment with someone else, as she will likely accuse him of all sorts of things he never did as well, and she will blame him for not filling the voids in her life. I can't fault her for doing my wrong financially, on the contrary, she was downright beneficial there.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Never ever ever , enter into a marriage if one has far less in assets than another WITHOUT a prenup , you simply cannot take that risk.
Other than that , just never marry anyone who is poor or poorer than you , these are the only options. But , you just can't take the chance of marrying below you Status WITHOUT a prenup. Its just like any business , treat it seriously , and always remember at least 50% will fail.
Thats why a prenup is required for ANYONE marrying down ( Still not never a good idea ) .

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Best to draft and sign a prenuptial while you're still lovey dovey and not hurt/angry/ being a vindictive penny pinching miser.

If someone cheats, they should know exactly how much 'getting caught' will cost them. If someone sacrifices their career for the family, the provider should be willing to acknowledge what it costs to raise a family. If someone just gives up on the relationship for no reason (no fault divorce) and it's not mutual, that person should know the cost of killing someone's happily ever after.

I think folks that talk about what's at stake if they divorce may be more likely to stay together. Because $$$$$ in the back of your head says you should try. You should try to be a better person or you should try to avoid expensive temptations.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I just read a hilarious reddit article about a couple that did this when she wasn't making much money and he was and they never discussed their finances outside of joint rent payments. Then she started making a lot of money which he found out when she bought a car outright and he wanted to ditch the pre-nup, and she was like, YOU wanted the pre-nup dummy.

Anywho, I would sign one. Why not? Marriage is a contract after all anyway, so what is one more that could actually help to protect your assets should you break up because in this day and age with divorce rates on par with marriage rates, you'd be more or less a fool not to.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

"It would be like the other person is acknowledging there’s a chance it won’t work out." Regardless of whether you acknowledge it, there is a possibility that it won't work out. I think it is more healthy to acknowledge the potential problems in a marriage and to address them directly.

HighValue · Answer

A prenuptial agreement is a requirement for me to ever consider marriage. Even then, she would have to be something really special to marry her.

I'd want it to include me keeping my home (I'd make all house payments because I would keep it 100% mine), my vehicles with my name on them, financial accounts/investments, electronics, gaming stuff, books, movies, tools, firearms/weapons, appliances, and any pets that I purchased.
Each person can have their own separate account they keep their own money in and a joint account to pay other bills from (or just agree who pays which bills). That way is one person is more of a saver and the other is more of a spender, they won't spend the money the other one is working for and trying to save.
Credit card accounts would be kept separate too in the prenup.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I get it when one person has more assets than the other, wanting it. If your both fairly equal, I do not understand the need there. I would sign it, but I also have a life hoping for the best but planning for the worst.

If you do not plan for the worst, IF it happens your screwed. Some will say planning for the worst means your expecting it to happen, I disagree. I am just being prepared for something I hope will never happen.

OpenClose · Answer

Yeah I would.

It's one of those things like agreeing how you two are going to pay for a date night before you actually go out. It isn't the actually result of what you agree to, so much as it is taking this debate out of the experience. Now you just get to enjoy the date without the awkward moment of her expecting you to pay and you expecting you each to pay for yourselves. (The latter of which I think should be the default in nearly all cases.)

Кураж · Answer

I would not marry without one.
Any proper grownup ought to acknowledge that a relationship may not work out.
If they can't do that, I'd frankly think they are not emotionally mature enough to marry in the first place.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Me and my husband signed a prenup. We love each other very much, we want to stay together forever, we both imagine getting old with each other.
but we talked about it and we agreed that realistically, we don’t know the future. I’ve heard of couples getting divorced after being together for 30+ years. When they got married that couple thought they were gonna be together forever too. We WANT to be together forever but we can’t 100% guarantee that we will be, especially since we got married so young.

It’s not like either of us own property or have a ton of money anyways but we were like “eh whatever”

Fireguy17 · Answer

when we got married I had one.
There is a large disparity between incomes and her spending habits, so we put x amount into a joint account each month, and that covers the house payment, insurance, taxes food etc.
The rest of what we each have is theirs to do whatever each of us want to do with it.
No arguments over money at all.
She is fine with it, as well as I.

SnakeBoop · Answer

i don't plan on marriage, but sure, prenup is just good sense in this day and age. but maybe thats because i tend to err more towards pessimism rather than optimism.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Prenups do not mean IT won't WORK OUT. Prenups are just a backup plan in case IT DONT WORK OUT. He better sign with me otherwise i wouldn't marry him

SkyCastle90 · Answer

Of course. I brought it up to my fiance and offered to sign one, he was surprised and had to explain that he 100% sure he won't need it with me.

Anonymous · Answer

As would I put on a helmet when being in a construction yard or riding a motorcycle.
Or putting on the seatbelt when being in an automobile or airplane.
Or wear protective goggles when grinding with power tools, welding or cutting onions.
Or cover all my orifices when aerial health hazards are detected.

In short: I am not an idiot.

SaoirseS · Answer

As a practical matter yes, sure. Especially since I own my own businesses.

Sargentcaptain · Answer

If you're still thinking that your potential spouse isn't going to love you, or is even capable of effectively stealing your belongings, you should not be marrying them.

SamA_nold · Answer

I would want a prenup  Nothing against the other person, I’ve just seen the bad side of good people and I’d rather prevent that early

Heartache0405 · Answer

It’s the only way I’d ever consider getting married if at all ever

Browneye57 · Answer

Uh, no, it's not. If either party has substantial assets on the outset of a marriage and wants to protect them, any reluctance by the other party is a giant red flag.
You don't leave a marriage financially enriched unless you contributed.

Adam1978 · Answer

Yes, any person not demanding a prenup is a fool or a loser since they clearly haven't accomplished anything on their own. so I expect both to sign each others prenup.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I did not get one, I never planned to get one, and I would never counsel or encourage anyone to get one.

hhadeshatesme · Answer

I don’t plan on ever getting married but hypothetically speaking yes

Ironic_Method · Answer

Yeah I'd sign one. If my partner made a bunch of money and was worried I was dating her for that, then this is an easy way to earn that peace of mind.

Dargil · Answer

If she brought a lot of wealth to the marriage, I would. If I had committed my life to this woman some amount of compensation would be included in it.

desidoll · Answer

No, but I understand if others want to get one. It is not something common in my culture though.

whatever932 · Answer

If u r going to marry, prenup is the first thing in todays generation

robocop666 · Answer

Donald Trump says without one he would have been screwed. Sadly I live in Ireland and the law is more pro woman than any other place on earth so I don't think it matters here.

exitseven · Answer

My wife and I were both broke when we got married. We made a big joke about it.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no way I would get married without one, and any woman who has a problem with signing one is eliminated from consideration.

Shiningtempest · Answer

I'd sign a prenup as a contingency plan in case the relationship backfires.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

There's ALWAYS a chance it won't work out! Open your eyes, dumbass! Don't be a fool.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I wouldn't think of getting married or living together in an LTR (common law/automatic marriage). Im the type of guy who was meant to be a bachelor forever.

EaterPeter · Answer

That tells me right up front that some one is not all in

Anonymous · Answer

Hell yes. lol I plan on getting one whenever I marry

poof_22 · Answer

Hell yeah I would, everything will be separate.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

I would insist on one.

Guanfei · Answer

Sure would, even tho I don't have much.

MrSmithee · Answer

prenups often get thrown out

wowzao23 · Answer

what is a prenup by the way?

Better_off_here · Answer

i am not sure it depends on many things.

Tomsta · Answer

It's only logical

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I would

Anonymous · Answer

I already have.

Babygirl_S · Answer

No..

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