
Are your parents still married? If not, how old were you when they got divorced? Did they remarry?


My parents married in 1990 at the ages of 32 My mother had me at 37 in 1995 and my brotherat 40 in 1998. My mom told me that she didn't find out about my dads terrible temper until 11 years after she married him. She tells me you never know who you're truly married to until years into the marriage. They definitely fight a lot over petty things. Its turbulent marriage at times and i believe the only reason why they are still married is because my mother is a pushover and handle being yelled at by my bad tempered father.
They do still have a lot of chemistry but my mom recently told me that if she was still young and had the chance to marry another man, she would have married someone else. I never told my father because i know it would hurt him greatly. But he told me he has no regrets marrying my mom and that he couldnt have asked for a better wife
That's tough when you love them both so much.
@TrueConfection
they were both abusive parents. My mother was a narcissist. She was jealous of my attractiveness and intelligence by the time I hit high school. As a result she bullied me a lot. My father felt obligated to also bully me in order to please his wife. My father would avoid walking beside me, or even going outside with me to run errands. From the years 16-24, I never had a close relationship with my dad.
Now that I'm 26, things are starting to look a bit better. But not entirely.
I only love my parents because they're the only ones who ever cared about me. My grandparents , aunts, uncles all didn't care about me. Without my parents , I would never be here as a full fledged adult. I do not love them intimately at all but I do love them, for all they have sacrificed to raise me. Now they are at an elderly age, I worry about not having anyone I can rely on after they die. My parents are my only safe haven.
I didn't get along well with my dad until I was an adult. Maybe it will be the same for you. ❤
I have no plans on getting along with him. In 2 years , I will be moved to another state 800 miles away. I'm starting a new life on my own, creating a family of my own. Parents don't always need to be in your life. You can make the choice. In my opinion, all relationships expire at some point. If you're lucky , they may never expire.
A fresh start is always nice!
I never thought of it that way, but I definitely see your point.
Mine are still married, in fact in my entire family and extended family there has only been one divorce, from a cousin... my living grandparents have been married 58 years, the other side was almost as long too.
Interesting how people that got married at 16 and 17 managed to stay married and so happy for so long.
In fact in my ENTIRE family I'm the old maid, being 26 and not married, everyone else was married by 21, many at 19 or so.
Yes! That's a great point! A long time for grandparents too. ❤
My parents were married for 34 years and divorced in 1983, when I was 28 years old.
My father remarried eight days after the divorce was final and his "prize" was Satan's Spawn, who looked something like this.

He remained unhappily married to the bitch until he died in 2007. She died about one year later.
My Mother remarried in 1995 to a man who I think is not a very good husband but she seems to be happy with him. They are still married; he is 92 years old and she is 91.
Those are long marriages!
Yes, indeed!
Unfortunately dad died 4 months before their 60th Wedding anniversary
I'm sorry to hear that. 60 years is a very long time.
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Divorced when I was 4.
They each got together with new people, yes. Whether that is good, worked out well, is debatable.
You're back! ☺
Well, I'm happy to see you. 😂
WELCOME BACK AMANDA! WE MISSED YOU!
My parents separated when I was 13, but the divorce wasn't official until I was 16, almost 17 at the time. It sucks. It was really rough especially since it happened in my teen years. I was put in the middle a lot between their fights and disagreements. It did cause me to have depression (not very bad though), but only because I didn't know which parent to listen to and I knew there was a part of me that still needs my dad in my life. By the time I was 18 or 19, I stopped caring because I know who's who very well and of course I still want to have a very good relationship with my dad and he's not a bad person. My dad remarried to my now wonderful step mom. At first it was hard and there was a bit of jealousy from my mom, but that's in the past now. Now we all get along very well and better, even my mom gets along with my step mom very well. I myself really want to get married more than anything, have a life long lasting marriage, have children of my own, be a great mom that I wanna be so bad, have so many adventures with my future husband and kids, and grow old with my husband!❤️
Sounds like things turned out for the better. ❤
My parents are still married. They met when my mum was 18 and dad was 21. For married in their 30s. They unconditionally love each other and I can’t imagine either of them living life without one another.
One thing I’ve learned being around them is in order for a marriage to work, both partners need to put in a LOT of work. They trust each other 100%. You could say they trust each other blindly. When they fight, they give each other space and always respect each other. And they never betray each other in any way. They’re on the same page of who they want to be and what kind of marriage they want to be in.
Basically marriage isn’t easy but if two healthy individuals get together it’s wonderful.
Such a great example!!!
Thanks!! Wish I could apply that to my love life but it’s easier said than done
My mother found her soulmate. He forced them to split when he learned he had terminal cancer, not wanting her to go through it. She loved him so deeply, as he had her. The way she spoke about him made me hold out until I found something similar in feeling.
She ended up marrying my father. She should have stayed alone. I think she would have been far happier. It was just settling. They had stuck it out though, my poor mum…
That's a bittersweet story.
Never married. Only engaged before i was conceived and up until i was maybe 2. My grandma wasn't a fan of my mom going off with him, so she planted some shit to make it look like he was cheating...
Granny was like


By time my dad figured out what happened, it was too late for him to be like
I mean who stays engaged for 2 years anyways 🤷♀️
Oh boy!
My parents divorced in 2001 when I was 11. My loser of a mother recently got remarried. I did not attend, nor did I send a card or anything. I have not talked to her in years and I did not tell her I was engaged. She is not invited to my wedding. She was the apple that fell farthest from the tree, dragging her parents' memory through the dirt, far as I'm concerned
Dad never remarried. He dated a few girls, one of them serious but in the end he chose to dedicate all his time to me. He will now be moving in with us where he can be well taken care of.
Congratulations on your engagement! 💍
My parents were never married. I do not know the full story, but have heard many different versions of what happened. The most credible version is that my mom was partying like crazy and got drunk with both of the possible people that could be my father. She was 14 when she got pregnant and 15 when I was born. Both of the possible candidates were 18. This is why I am adamantly against abortion and why I'm adamantly against sex before marriage. Had mom gotten an abortion I would not be here and I enjoy this life. Also, I wish to be a good father to whatever kids I may have.
Well said!👏 I myself am also against abortion and waiting till marriage to have sex. And I wish to be a good mother to my future children someday!😊
I think they finally broke it off when I was around 5, I was the reason for their horrible mistake of marrying each other. .
My father remarried 4 years later, they're still together - have little to no contact with them; most of my fathers side of the family really can't stand my stepmother. Neither can I.
My mother entered a couple of rocky relationship, ended up marrying an alcoholic; happily divorced a couple of years ago & is now finally enjoying her own company.
Ok, well something wonderful came out of their relationship. ❤
My parents are no longer married, they divorced when I was in elementary school.
The divorce & subsequent custody battle was messy & resulted in me getting a DNA test after my father accused me of not being his child, which in turn ostracized me from his side of the family, even though I look like his sisters to a fault. I have been disowned so many times & in turn call him by his first name a majority of the time.
My mom hasn't remarried & I doubt she will remarry even if she found "Mr right" (My vote, as she knows, is for her lifelong friend Mike, who has been in love with her since middle school & even though they both agree they would be a great fit, they worry about ruining their amazing friendship if got together & then broke up).
My dad, on the other hand, did remarry & even though we are no longer on speaking terms, we had to wipe out hands of one another because of the toxicity of our relationship, I wish him & his woman the best.
My parents divorced when I was five. My dad never dated but had an old girlfriend that he grew up with move in with him the last two years of his life and they called each other soul mates. It was pretty sweet and I have a love and appreciation for her because she took good care of him when he was sick. My mom ended up marrying a guy she knew for two weeks in Las Vegas. The marriage lasted two months.
Wow! That's quite the story!
Yes, they are still married. They've been married 31 years I think?
That's long!
My parents are in their mid 50s and will have their 30th anniversary next year. They're not perfect but I think they have a great marriage, of a kind that seems increasingly uncommon now. I think there are a lot of reasons for that but it's sad and makes me worry about the future of society.
Nice! That's a long time.
It’ll be 25years of being together 🥰🥰🥰 I’d like to have what they have never seen them argue I’m sure they do just not infront of the kids. My dad is not confrontational he lets my mom take the lead. Happy wife happy life😂😂😂
Yes! Nice long time.
My dad left the day I was born ( says a lot lol ) . so they were separated then and they finally divorced when I was 10. Neither of them remarried , my dad had lots of other women. My mum was so hurt and betrayed she stayed on her own.
So divorced when I was 11 and neither of them remarried.
I was 11 when my parents separated back in 2004. My mom cheated on my dad and she got with the guy right away before the divorce was finalized. I am divorce lol and just going to focus on my kids and future.
That's the best gift you can give your kids. 💕
Yes definitely , I will make sure they get the best. I grow up with a narcissist mom with really high unrealistic expectations and if I disagree with her she would go on for hours. It wasn't until my aunt had a serious talk with me and told me that my mom was a control freak that I wasn't an object that my opinions and thoughts matter too as a human being. My mom went all crazy about beauty queen peagents bleaching my hair at only 7 years old I was at that time.
Wow!!!
My parents would most likely be together still after 35 years if there was not a death to separate them.
I'm sorry.
My parents are still married. It was arranged marriage for them still. It has been 15 years to their marriage.
Nice!
My messed up life started when my mom got pregnant by one of the many guys she hooked up with. She doesn’t even know his name or which guy it could be. My father figure was the string of boyfriends, and one night stands she’d bring home every night. By the time I was six I stopped trying to remember what their names were or what they looked like. Because she probably couldn’t either.
Was she very young when she became a Mom?
It depends on what you mean by very young. She was a teenager but above the age of consent in our state.
Teen is young.
No ny parents are still married 60 something years, they should have divorced decades ago.
That's a very long time.
Ouch
We had that growing up too. We were in the public eye until the split, but the attitudes didn't change. There's still some junk that goes on and I stay as far away as possible. My dad and I are good friends now though.
I can understand. Not many people can though!
No one in my life knows who my family is. 😂
Of course, that's probably why they don't understand. I've been judged a few times for not having a relationship with my family. Weddings and funerals are enough. Actually, I skipped all the relatives weddings. I have to show up for funerals.
Yikes. Can you just refuse inheritance?
My parents remained married until my father's passing. They were together for 51 years
Wow! That's a very long time.
My parents knew each other for 8 years before they were married, and were about 2 months shy of their 50th wedding anniversary before my mom passed away.
My dad never really went out much or got remarried.
They are both together now.
50 years is a very long time. ❤
That it does!
Yes. My folks are still married to this day they got married before I was born back in 1967 if I’m not mistaken. They never remarried and still love each other to this day
That's a LONG time!
Sure enough! I’ll be happy when I marry one day to someone for that long!
They are still married and the only one evidence I know that love exists.
Sweet!!!
No. My father died when I was age 10. My mother never remarried.
I'm so sorry.
My parents got married when I was 3 and are still married
Sweet! Who disagreed with you? lol
Sometimes I wonder if people realize it means "disagree". Someone thinks your parents aren't married? 🤔
They where never married, she was 17 and he was 19 when i was born. And they stayed together for maybe 1 year after. But splitt. Was for the best, trust me.
I trust you.
My parents have been married for over 30 years. Quite a rarity if you ask me... are they soul mates? Probably not. My mom wanted to divorce my dad when I was 5 but that never happened.
30 years is a long time!
My parents separated wen I was three years and my dad remarried and we got one sis unfortunately he has divorced the second wife, my mom remarried and has seven children
Seven! I always wanted a huge family.
But I don't stay with my mom
Happily married. My dad is my mom's first man. My mom has never even been on a date with any other person.
❤❤❤❤❤❤
mother alive.. father dead since 2002 (20 years this October) married in 1974. Never divorced even though my father was a prick bastard
28 years is a long time.
@TrueConfection nods
My parents are still married and have been married for 38 years without any big conflicts.
Beautiful 💕
They are still married.
They have been married for 27 years.
Long!
my parents were 21 when they married itll be 21 years this may!
Nice!
My parents were married close to 60 years when my father passed away.
Wow!!!
My parents got divorced when I was in high school. I was 16 when they split up. My father got remarried and had a daughter with his new wife.
Are you close with your sister?
@TrueConfection MY parents have both died. I have not seen my sister in almost 20 years. She sent me something about how she got married. She didn't go by my last name. When my father died her mother went by her new married name and she went with that. I read this thing over twice because I was not sure who the hell these people were.
That's such a strange feeling, isn't it?
@TrueConfection It was bizzarre. Evidently I have nephews I have never met too.
Same.
My parents were married around 25 years before they got divorced. My mother's personality changed drastically and they grew apart. And my dad was abusive to me. So that was the larger factor really.
I'm sorry to hear that.
It sucked but I'm over it. Helped me grow up and be who I am now.
My dad said my mother's personality changed too.
Not sure. Never asked my mom. I think I was 1 or 2 years old when they got divorced though.
I know they were married for 9 years though if I remember correctly.
She didn't remarry?
Yes she did.
They surprisingly still are, but this year has been their worst year. If they can overcome this year, they are unstoppable.
Yes... well, until my mom died but they were still married.
I'm sorry about your mom.
Sad to say, deceased from cigarettes due to illness.
I'm sorry.
Thank u, sweetheart. Such a shame too.
My parents separated when I was 13. They were supposed to reunite in Puerto Rico. But my father found out my mother was being abusive. He eventually took us away starting with me first. It was hard for him on his own. He was at first living in a studio. Slowly he made enough to get a bigger home. Afterwards They never lived together again and officially divorced when I was 19/20
Still married, been married since 1984, and dated for 7 years before that.
7 years was a long time to wait!
Hahaha! He knew she loved him!
They were still married. They made it to their 50th anniversary shortly before my mom past away.
Sweet 💕 My condolences on the passing of your mom.
Both parents have passed away. They never got divorced. They were married for 41 years before my father died.
Mi parents get married when she was 18 & he 20. Hey stay together. Get divorce when I was 17... But they remarried 5 year later.
They when together until my dad passed away, when he was 47. 8 yeas ago from now. My Mom don't have intensions to get remarried. This year she sat thinking to get a boyfriend. But nothing yet
funny that I do not know exactly... but they have been together for 40 year or so... lol
They were married for 45 years before my mom passed away.
very long
I think I was a pre-teen when my parents divorced. My father got married I think it was either early this year? Either that or towards the end of last year. My mom has stayed single. Like me. Except I jokingly say that she's seeing Jesus. 😅
My parents got married when I was 6 and they’re still married now.
Nice!
maybe around 13 years old or younger. they tried to be separated which prolonged the pain felt and finally just got divorced. i'm still not over it. they'll never get remarried but they're both in relationships 🙄
I was 16 when the6y got divorced.
Both had relationship later on.
Mom did not marry again.
Dad - I'm not interested to find out :D - he must be dead meanwhile; but I'm not sure.
My parents are 66. They got married at 24. They can't live without each other.
That is so sweet to hear ❤
Yes my parents have been happily married for 31 years
That's long!
Mine should have divorced, however one dead and other in a home now.
Ye unhappily married. Codependency and Stubbornness all that's holding them together. That's why I believe marriage is bullshit. That's why I believe family values are bullshit. That's why believe most people don't belong having children unless they're ready to sacrifice 20+ years on those little hoes.
Look how many people here have parents that stayed together 20, 30, 40, 50, and even 60 years. There are indeed some bad examples including your own, but many many wonderful and healthy examples.
@TrueConfection possibly there are some healthy examples. I just don't believe that the nuclear family is a functional unit anymore, people, children, adolescents need more than just two authoritarian role models in their life.
No they were divorced when I was 1 I didn't meet my real dad till I was 27
My parents were married for 56 years when my Dad passed away.
That a really long time!
It's a shame they didn't make it to 60, but they had a good run!
No and yes. My folks divorced in '83. Both remarried. I'd like to keep the details at that.
Understood!
I was 18 when my parents divorced. They are both remarried
I think I was 19, don’t remember as I wasn’t living at home.
No, they didn’t remarry.
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