Have you ever saw someone and thought “yea I’m going to marry them” ?

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WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

Lust should never be confused with love. Some people may marry someone just based on looks, but that is just not me. Personality and compatibility are just as important as looks, if not, even more. We never know if we are going to end up with someone just by looking at them. This sounds like a storyline for a badly made Hallmark movie.

I have been infatuated with several men, but I would never claim that I was in love with any of them. I am not being overly cynical, but that is just the truth. To truly love someone, it takes a lot of time.

I’ve gone out with two men, been in relationship with one, and I was NEVER in love with either of them because we did not date for long and I could not form that sort of attachment in a short while. It will take some while for me to determine whether I truly love them or not. I will only fall in love with someone I’m in a serious relationship with. The potential they have to become a long term partner is also an important criteria.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I met this girl 10 years ago, I was 23, fresh out of college, she was 18 and waitressing to get by. I knew then we were lifepartners.

Over the last 10 years our lives have crisscrossed and intertwined, she has been my assistant, my apprentice, then a junior partner in my company, a coworker, doing freelance jobs during covid, and now is my bosses personal assistant.

Somehow over the last 10 years we've managed to develop a relationship without stating one exists to the extent that when I was talking about building my new house on my property by myself (I have built all of my other structures by myself) she told me that she was going to help me build OUR house since she knows I am too stubborn to ask for help.

So, its taken a decade but I'd say we are exactly where we are meant to be.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Nope. Never. How would I know that just by looking at someone?

I wouldn't ask someone out or date them unless I thought they had the potential to be a long term partner or spouse. But it takes a while to determine if someone is the one I want to marry.

People who fall in "love at first sight" are projecting their own feelings onto the other person. They don't know the difference between love and infatuation.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I used to do this a lot. I'd look at a woman and imagine if I can see myself married to her. If not, for ANY reason, I wouldn't waste my time talking to her. Of course, I no longer want to get married in today's climate, but in 2012, I was once engaged, so came close to it. The world is a lot different - and worse - than it was in 2012, though.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , but it’s not love it’s infatuated with someone , You can’t really love someone you barely know , Love only comes when both partners stand by each other’s side no matter what, removing selfishness for each other , resisting temptation for each other , Prioritizing each other , Having each other’s back no matter what , Accepting each other’s flaws When it’s you and them VS the world , That’s where love comes in and love grows , Most people can’t do this because they are selfish and only really care about themselves , So when you find someone that can do this keep them at all costs because it is so hard
To come by these days

TrueConfection · Answer

Yes, I did. I went out with this guy a few times and I was sure from the first date that I was going to marry him. We had so much in common and we clicked so well. I told my mom I was going to marry him.

Turns out, I was wrong.😂 I ended up marrying someone else.

Guy13 · Answer

All guys are eventually looking for a Wifey so everyone I’ve met has been “saw, spoke, met, and there’s potential for Wifey, maybe 🤔 or not.”

It takes time with both her, her family, and her friends without sex confusion.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I had people I thought I might be destined for in one later day of my life but it was not something I viewed as absolute fact, more like a nice idea that pertained to a very distant future.

coachTanthony · Answer

I hear many people know exactly when they know they will marry someone.

BlueScorpio · Answer

No, I've always thought, I that guys is cute bit never marriage.

virtue2332 · Answer

I'm going to be upfront and real. I have never saw someone and jumped to marriage. Its usually more of an attraction to a particular quality they have not always looks it could be based of the vibe and personality. That being said the reproductive part of my brain is usually in there being the sleaze ball that he is trying to manipulate the more sensible areas of my brain. Its not always clear who was in control when I felt I had an Immediate connection to someone I just met. What does it mean? Well for me I didn't have an immediate connection to the person I married nor did she. I definitely wanted to sleep with her before I thought marriage so the sleazeball won and It worked out. We are coming up on our 20th wedding anniversary in May and we have two Daughters 13 and 9 so by doing the math there we were married for a bit before having kids. We haven't been asked in detail any specifics about any of this by them but I imagine they will get the Santa Clause version of things until they are older and we break the news of Santa the Easter Bunny and what was really going through our minds when we first met. lol

mamuma02 · Answer

Marriage sounds good

But I don't think much about it cause i have other plans before marriage. I want to achieve some if my Dreams first.

So no mattetal who i date, if I love him of not, I still won't talk avout marriage untill i feel ready.

So no, I ve never sern someone and be like " yeah i m gonna marry him"

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I felt that way with my husband. We used to date in high school and he was my first love. We broke up and stopped talking for a little while but as soon as we met up again, all the feelings came back instantly and I knew we would end up together

catiecatie · Answer

I have this crush on a guy rn. I don't know if he’s on the dating apps just to see or on them to actually date, but I also worked with him for a little while. Hopefully he will come around but who knows. Fingers crossed as I think we would be good together.

oddwaffle · Answer

No. It's like an impulse buy when you are in a store. Most of the time you ended up regretting the purchase.

Just think about it. Would you marry someone based purely out of their looks? Yeah, this is essentially what you are thinking. You don't know anything about the other person other than looks.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I got wifey vibes from my girl. The first night I saw her in person, I knew exactly what the old folks I used to take care of were talking about. It’s not that you “know” right away, it’s that going for something long term with the person makes intuitive and emotional sense.

mrmonogamous · Answer

I saw her and knew it. Dated for 9 months, engaged for a year and a half. Been married since 1988 and going strong. Three grown kids.

SphynxUK · Answer

Well, a thought said ‘that’s who I’m going to marry’ when I met my ex husband at the age of 19. It didn’t work out, but we have 2 lovely children 27 and 18.

Helllo123 · Answer

Not yet. But someone said it to me the first night I met them. They said “so when are we getting married and having kids” and asked me out on a date. We are still figuring it out but we aren't dating.

CA4444 · Answer

Not right off the bad but pretty early on like after one or two conversations ON THE PHONE lol

AbbobyBrown · Answer

Well yeah. My current girlfriend. I seriously think of getting married to her. Although we both still have a very long way to go lol. We are both in our second year of college. And I need to be quite successful before thinking of marriage. But if I had the means right now, I definitely would marry that girl 🙃

amccart19 · Answer

Yes, but guess what... we aren't married. His mom kicked him out of the house at 17, and we didn't talk often after that. He is now 21, had his first child, a daughter a few months old, and is married. While I have gotten over him romantically, I still will think about him every once in a while and hope he is doing better. He is definitely someone I'll never forget.

Looksnicholas · Answer

When I've been delusional to think so in the past, yes, but I'm sure we've all been blinded by love or attraction before.

tfan1 · Answer

Yes but I was nervous when I met her. But she flashed a beautiful smile that melted away all fear, dread, etc and left me with happiness and hopefulness. That girl later became my wife 😃👍

Downhill20 · Answer

No because no one can predict the future. My first thought would be more like, " Wow, we connect really well. "

dreamstar72 · Answer

Sure my wife the first time I seen her. What weirder is she told my ex she was going to marry me before I saw her (my wife).

Amy10223 · Answer

Yes, I have SEEN someone and thought, "I'm going to marry him."

Clairebear799 · Answer

Yeah we all get carried away sometimes and other times you just know when you know

andreasderjuengere · Answer

No, I didn't. But there had been cases when I immediately felt horny about a girl - and bedded them later on 😁

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No, I would be the red flag itself, thinking like that

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I thought that with the man that is now my husband. He was married to someone else at the time, but I knew he would be mine eventually.

_no_one_ · Answer

yeah my current partner makes me feel that way, it's just her parents dont like me that much but we'll get to that

Massageman · Answer

No. But my second of two sons-in-law claims that's what he said when he saw my daughter the first time.

Shark_61695 · Answer

No but after a conversation, I knew they would get on with my mate. They hooked up the same day and got married a couple of years later.

OddBeMe · Answer

Don’t think guys care about marriage that much. But it’s a just a brain reaction to lust. There’s no cosmic fate that will guide you to your one true love. Best get to know him first…

Blackmoonsns · Answer

Yes, but the love bombing stage ended, and all that was left was my delusions.

Noahzaid · Answer

Yes but I never talked to her nor do I have the chance to. she was just perfect.

exitseven · Answer

That was pretty much how it was with me when I met my wife.

Anonymous · Answer

During the cosmic alignment in my previous incarnation.

Anonymous · Answer

I did for first time in my life liked a guy this much. But he said I don’t think I can have a romantic relationship with you..

AmeerX · Answer

No 😅 I blundered and end up praying she marries the guy who makes her happy and God accepted my prayer within just a couple of months

RobEdelman · Answer

No, but I have looked at a woman before and envisioned myself with her. Just hasn’t been reciprocated

Raaj4you · Answer

Yes it happened to me when I was a teenager. I wanted to marry that girl. She didn't love me back. Eventually, it didn't work out.

spiritGirl13 · Answer

Yea. I knew it from their voice , that’s this was the one.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Yes. Still not married though lol. I guess it’s just that the thought is nice.

AsaKyo · Answer

No, I have never thought this about any guy lmao

McKellar · Answer

I've thought of that towards many ladies, but in reality it's unfortunate to say but true all the same,... that never happens.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, from the way she looked, the way she talked. Attractive in her character and her beauty as well.

Anonymous · Answer

I've been married twice and it didn't happen either time.

Wiredone · Answer

Yes I have had that happen to me and I did marry her. Been together almost 30 years

Iron_Man · Answer

Not at first sight, but my best friends wife said that on him

Manuel2 · Answer

Yes but it ended up she martied someone else but now storks me

Oddi_211 · Answer

No. How could I possibly know anything about them by one look

Twalli · Answer

I don't think so. You can't know that you will marry someone as soon as you see them.

TheeTrybrid · Answer

Nah but I've seen only one guy and was like yeah he's gonna be new my man 😂

creationempire · Answer

Yeah... It happened to me and the other person simultaneously and we did get married: the most horrific seven years of my life.

julianaking2019 · Answer

Yes I did with my husband then boom years later we are a married couple

Nominal · Answer

No, but i had idea - i would marry this women.

BLP11520 · Answer

No , but it kinda felt that way after a few weeks

Anonymous · Answer

Sure but I didn't realise it at the time so fucked it up like an idiot

Anonymous · Answer

My mum did when she was 15 and that was with my dad and she did marry him

FlowerChild94 · Answer

maybe when I was five

trina_x · Answer

sadly not that seems nice :<

melanieeeB · Answer

Nope, only "yeah I can see a future with him"

Have you ever saw someone and thought “yea I’m going to marry them” ?

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