How is it unfair to ask for a decent ring when a woman is asked to give up her maiden name? (Page 2)

[OddBeMe]

Ehh, just be yourself. If you care about rings and diamonds, that’s cool.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Most men wouldn't wanna get married anyway so who said theu should give up their maiden name?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I'd let her have her last name than to risk my life and involve the government with our lives.

[Twalli]

Kids will have my last name, she doesn't have to. My mom didn't change her last name.

[Pohjolan]

If she wants a bad days insurance I would suggest hiding a diamond under her skin.

[all_hayl]

Newsflash: life and marriage aren’t fair. Get used to it. Sounds like someone needs to grow up.

[Asker]

Then you grow up and get your girl a ring that didn’t come from a quarter machine lol broke ass

[all_hayl]

Your response is more or less how I expected you would respond. Further illustrating your immaturity. Arrogant, presumptuous, and assumptive.

No response needed - it won’t be read.

[Asker]

👌 👍

[Asker]

Sounds like you need a mirror 🪞

[Lilchoco69]

@Jennifer_bloom I'm curious, you can be extremely honest but, why did you block me? Have we met or talked before?

[Lilchoco69]

@coachTanthony

May you help me reach Jennifer pls?

[coachTanthony]

dude it's the internet it doesn't matter why someone blocked ya they did and that is that. That is the reason for block because they wish to no longer speak to you.

[Lilchoco69]

@coachTanthony lol oh ok , its just I never spoke to her and I noticed the influencer just blocked me. I was just curious. That's all

[coachTanthony]

So she blocked you for no reason? Why do you think she blocked you?

[Lilchoco69]

@coachTanthony lol I couldn't imagine why. That's why I'm asking lol. We never even spoke. I was just curious, that's all lol. Could be my pfp tho.

[coachTanthony]

What is pfp?

[Lilchoco69]

@coachTanthony profile picture lol

[Lilchoco69]

@coachTanthony it's a picture of my "ass"ets lol I'm learned to own it. That could be the reason why she blocked me or something.

[coachTanthony]

Could be. Photos like that come off as trolls and people will instantly block. You can keep that pic and have people judge you based on it and live with it or change it. Entirely up to you.

[Lilchoco69]

@coachTanthony gotcha lol thanks for your time

[Juxtapose]

Ah yes, the practice of spending way too much money on a rock instilled in us by corporations is evident here.

Brainwashing is really effective.

[Asker]

I hope your cold wisdom keeps you warm at night. Flowers are stupid too, but girls still love them! Video games are dumb and mind numbing, but guys still like to play!

[Juxtapose]

I hope not, I like to sleep in the cold.

Last time I checked there were no blood flowers or blood video games but there are blood diamonds.

[Asker]

Who said you need to get blood diamonds 🤨 I’m just talking about something 1k or so

[Juxtapose]

That's a 30th of a 30k a year salary 😬

[Asker]

And?

[Juxtapose]

A ring isn't worth that!

[Juxtapose]

Stop measuring love in material objects.

[Asker]

Then never buy her anything and always refuse gifts from anyone lol

[Juxtapose]

Geez, it's like you either gotta be a full material whore and accept it or never engage in any sort of gift-giving at all. That's such a weird choice you're presenting me.

[Asker]

You’re contradicting yourself is all 🤷‍♀️

[Juxtapose]

Nah, you are.

[fonduegirl]

You're not wrong

[PinkRose24]

The don't date a broke man

[Anonymous]

Are there actually guys out there who would marry someone like this?

This seems, to say the least, like a red flag to me.

[Asker]

I think it’s a red flag if a man would expect her to take his last name, while also spending less than what he spent on lunch to get her a ring

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, this isn't about flags.

I have no idea how to respond to you over this which is usual for me.

A scientist would call this 'not even wrong'.

O_o

[Asker]

You brought up flags lol

[Opinion Owner]

Ok.

I have also said that it is hard to even begin, the reason being that this entire line of thinking is absolutely fucking bat shit crazy.

What is this even supposed to be about anyway?

Is it your name, because you can probably keep your name you know, I would be surprised if guys were really bothered about it. Obviously some will be but we live in a time which values equality and all things of this nature are in flux and being challenged constantly.

You seem to see it as an exchange though which is beyond weird, I really can't stress enough how fucking odd that is.

Do you even understand what marriage means?

Part of being married is that you sharing your wealth and pooling resources and working towards common goals but you want something of value which is just for you it just makes no sense, its completely counter intuitive.

But its not even just that, all of that isn't even relevant, the main event here is that these minor fucking details, these trivialities over what name you have or what ring you have are so important to you.

I just can't even being to understand your thought process, you are entirely alien to me.

What matters to me is who a person is, shit like this that you care about isn't on my radar, at all and what concerns me is that it is the opposite for you.

[Asker]

I’d understand giving up both, my only frustration is with men who demand one but don’t bother with the other. I have the same frustration with a woman doing that.
For me it will be hard but I’ll love to give up my name. I know my boyfriend as well, he would want to get me something durable at the least. This isn’t about me, it’s about the kind of men who aggressively reflect a double standard.

[RingOfFire]

So let me get this straight.

You want your love to be bought but the bidder isn't offering enough?

[Asker]

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Don't bother getting married. With your attitude about it, your marriage will be doomed from the beginning.

[Asker]

Ditto

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

What is your definition of a decent ring?

[Asker]

around 1k. I think it’s different if either of them have kids, but for a lower class to middle class dude without dependents. I think it’s a reasonable mutual expectation, if anything giving up a name you’ve had your entire life is harder.

[MCheetah]

$1,000 is reasonable for a ring and I'd do that, if I were the marrying type. Many women have this "half your yearly salary" BS going on with wedding rings, though.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

My mom would not come below 3k lol!

1k is more than enough. It is the marriage that matters. You are spending shit ton of money on the marriage, and you get divorce even before a year. It is all wasted! No sense.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

That literally means, I don't agree with my mother on this one.

[Asker]

You’d be surprised by how many men consider 1k to be on par with sending them to the coal mines to die 😂 their selfish nature is blinding af. Too many Andrew tate kinda men who want a traditional wife without being a traditional man! selfish, and insecure behavior if I’ve ever seen it.

[TheNameIsRob]

Why can’t you just ask for a nice ring without comparing it to something?

[TheNameIsRob]

If you see it as giving up your last name the ring doesn’t matter.

[Asker]

The fact that you don’t acknowledge it as the sacrifice it is, is really telling

[TheNameIsRob]

Cup half full or half empty. If it were me, I would bail just on account of your half empty attitude. And yes it is telling, but not the way you suggest. What a way to start a marriage, by keeping score of sacrifices made and expecting compensation. You have a lot of growing up to do.

[Asker]

Cool 😎
I wasn’t talking about me and my relationship. I was talking about hypocritical men

[Evil_Chuck]

You're conflating an emotional commitment with a financial one.

[Asker]

I was putting it in perspective

[MountAverage]

Both demands are stupid.

[LazerBean]

Don't get married.

[Asker]

You either

[Lilchoco69]

But she's already married lol

[Asker]

@Lilchoco69 I don’t believe it

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Asker]

It’s a fair point huh 😂😭

[Opinion Owner]

No, just funny.😆😆😆

[Asker]

You’re funny lol

[Opinion Owner]

I know that. You're pretty funny yourself.

[Anonymous]

love don't exist