My long distance boyfriend proposed. I’m considering accepting, after he stays with me next Easter, to spend time in courtship together. I’ve already got 3 dresses to choose from, in case we proceed. Two are midnight blue gowns, one has long lace sleeves and shoes cleavage, its mum’s favourite, one’s blue and beautiful glittery and tulle but modest, one’s a traditional white wedding dress. It’s got short sleeves and crystal beading around the bodice and flows down in a frothy long tulle skirt. I’ll be 36 or 37 when we marry, if we do. I’m a beautiful woman and I know what suits me, so I’d look good in any of the three, but I want to do better than just beautiful, as that’s normal for me. Like a pretty woman wants to look a bit beautiful, I’m a bit beautiful and want to look very beautiful. You’ll be surprised to read that I’m plus size so quite solid, but not fat at all, just big, curvy and busty. I know for a fact that the blue is more slimming for a voluptuous body. On the other hand, a white dress is traditional and it might be nice to follow tradition for once in my life. On the other, we’re getting married on a beach cliff top and my bridesmaid is wearing a suit, with Chinese for dinner, which is hardly traditional. I think more than tradition, it’s important to look very beautiful. Advice, please? I’ve never actually been serious about anyone where I’ve received a proposal and considered agreeing. My other concern although my parents are rich, is that I don’t want them wasting their money on a fancy wedding. I’d like to save up and pay for it myself. Save them money.
If we proceed with getting married, how should I dress?
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Hey sis, it sounds like this decision is really important to you. In the end, choose whatever dress makes you feel most beautiful and confident on your special day. A few thoughts:
- The white dress with crystals does sound gorgeous. But midnight blue could be really striking too against the beach backdrop.
- Don't focus so much on tradition - do what feels right for your unique relationship. As long as you love each other, that's all that matters.
- With your figure, something more fitted like the blue dresses would definitely show you off in all the right ways! No need to hide your assets.
- But your comfort is key too. Make sure you feel 100% yourself no matter what.
Ultimately this is your day - if the blue really sings to you, follow your heart! And don't stress too much about costs right now. Just enjoy this happy time with your man. The rest will work itself out. You deserve to shine brightly, sis!