Are you in a big rush to get engaged/married?

[Anonymous]

Yes 💍

No 💡

[Raaj4you]

Yes I am. I don't know why but even girls who are serious about dating are playing hard to get. I don't want to waste my time anymore.

I am in a hurry but It's still not working in my favour. I will share my experience. I found a sweet girl online. We liked each other. She stopped talking to me when I talked about marriage and kids. She said, I am not your slave. She didn't even try to understand me and my mindset. After few days, I showed her my 4 years online food order bills. I told her that I know you are modern woman, I am a modern man, I will not treat you like slave. She was surprised to see all the bills, she assumed that I will pressurize her to cook food. But she is still not convinced. She doesn't even know me 100%, I have never forced my mom to cook food like my younger siblings. I love tasty food but I am not a big foodie, I can eat any simple food and go to sleep.

[molonski2]

No one should ever be in a big rush to be either engaged or married , to be in a big rush = absolute and total disaster and very poor choices , not good that 20% say Yes , not good at all.

[nastyb]

nobody ever rushes to get married and yet they still end up getting divorced.

[molonski2]

@nastyb
Yep , and they still will , stats are 50/50 , but if you include " together due to convenience / non sexual " the failure rate in actually low 80s in %age terms.
And this is exactly why you " never rush " , you are rushing to failure.

[nastyb]

Actually arange marriages have a significantly lower divorce rates compared to romance marriages.

[molonski2]

@nastyb
Yes that's true , different process , and ideals.. If it works for you ( or whoever ) great , if it's just bcoz of family? hmm still no good.

But agree , more likely , better commitment , many of my previous clients were arrangements.

[jennifer_bloom]

I am happy both in a relationship and also happy single so I don’t feel I need to get married. It’s when I did my religious activities, I felt God was showing me he wants me to choose marriage over the single life.

[Xia1994]

I’m not in any hurry at all

[Anonymous]

Voted No. Not because I do not believe in marriage. In fact, from a social perspective marriage is a good thing. However, for my girlfriend and I, it is not something we wanted.

Not that we did not start there. When I got my girlfriend pregnant, we moved in together and started talking about the wedding all the rest. However, we kept putting it off until we decided that we would get married after the baby was born.

In what seems like a blur I one day found myself holding a beautiful baby boy in my arms and I was even more in love with my girlfriend then I ever thought I could be. So we began making the normal adjustments to life with a little baby and began talking about the wedding again and for one reason or another we kept putting it off.

Then, next thing you know, another unplanned - though this time probably totally predictable - pregnancy. Nine months later another beautiful baby boy was placed in my arms and I was even more in love and happier than I ever dreamed I could be.

It was then that my girlfriend and I realized that we didn't want to be married. We think what we have is natural and instinctive and would not be improved or strengthened by a big ceremony, a ring and a permission slip from the state. As granola as it sounds - and I admit, it sounds a bit quirky, especially as we are in many ways actually pretty traditional - we are doing what nature made us to do.

We met, were attracted to each other, and made babies. In a weird way we are like any animals in nature and although at one level that sounds crude, knowing that we are in sync with what nature intended, raw and elemental and yet deeply attached in an almost instinctive way, for us makes us feel it even more strongly. A strength only improved with the birth of our third child - a little girl, my "little princess" of whom I am the most besotted milksop of a dad you will ever meet.

It got a little more complicated when a woman I had had a one night stand years before I met my girlfriend looked me up to tell me that I had a son I did not know I had. I had gotten her pregnant but she decided to have the baby and not tell me. However, as the boy entered his teen years she decided to track me down and tell me I had a son I previously did not know I had.

We took the test and sure enough - I have a son with another woman. Yet my girlfriend and I and our children have built a relationship with my son and we are happy. In started a bit awkward but i works in part because he is a good kid and because my girlfriend and I have not made a fetish about being married and we realize that relationships - especially sexual relationships - are in an elemental way instinctive and human beings tend to breed, crude as that sounds, because it is natural for them to and that is not changed by a wedding.

So kind of odd, but there we are. To be sure, the sociological data is clear - marriage is good for society - and we would not recommend what we have done to everyone. However, for us, there is no need to get married and we are not even trying.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

At this point of turning 25 this year, marriage can wait. Better to take all the time in the world with someone rather than just get married asap. Plus, you can practice commitment in the long run before you even get engaged and married, which can be a good thing.

[thegreenyogi]

It's not really my number one priority. And Honestly no I'm not in a rush to get engaged or be married. I can be as equally happy in a relationship with someone without all the grand gestures or formalities.

[nastyb]

im not in a rush to get married but getting married is hard when everyone is clearly so damn afraid of commitment. then everyone complains about why they are lonely. you're lonely because you don't have a wife / children.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm not afraid of committing and yet here I am, lonely, sad and working my ass off.

[nastyb]

@Awesomesauce2005

both men and women are afraid of commitment nowadays.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I know, it's frustrating

[nastyb]

@Awesomesauce2005

Our society focuses on how to get over a breakup rather than how to maintain a relationship.

Humans are designed to be social animals. We are not desgined to be happy being all alone, minimal friends, no family. As we get older, social circles will begin to dwindle, parents die, siblings start families of their own , this is when we become increasingly isolated. I know a lot of people will tell you they are happier being alone, but i can garuantee you that you will never live a fulfilled life being alone.

[Awesomesauce2005]

It is so frustrating because all my young and old friends have a girlfriend or they are married. It makes me wonder what I'm doing wrong.

[Awesomesauce2005]

My oldest friend is 73 lol

[StarWarGirl]

Yes so that our LDR could end and i can spend my rest of my life with my love.

[CriticalCatDad123]

Why would I want to get engaged/married? How exactly would I benefit from that?…

[Anonymous]

I'm not in a big rush for marriage but engagement and commitment I am more focused on to happen sooner than later

[serious_miss419]

Not interested one bit. I’ve said no twice by two different guys. Have not regretted it once

[Anonymous]

Nope shit is delusional.

i know several women in miserable marriages

[Opinion Owner]

So obsessed with the RING, and title of WIFE. That they’ll let a man cheat , hit & leach of their money.
😂
I CONSIDER MARRIAGE ABSOLUTE MENTAL ILLNESS

[Guanfei]

Kinda. If I could find someone to marry tomorrow, I'll do it.

[Abhinav03]

Those around me yes almost there is fear mongering in our culture if you hit certain mark afterwards it will be difficult to get married later

[itsclearlynicholas]

No as I don't want offspring or responsibility

[Nikki1989]

I am married, 10 years in August.

[strateguy632]

no, don't hurry

[BCRanger10]

I'm already married.

[EmmaMary]

Already very happily married thank you.

[laly520]

engaged already

[Booklover_90]

No prospects at the moment. 😅

[handsomelad70]

Seriously? At SEVENTY?

[LavLavLuv]

Lol no