Aitah for Having a public embarrassing marriage ending fight on vacation over what my wife ordered I wanted her to order a specific thing?

[Peterpanpan675]

We got married three years ago. She made everything so much better after my wife filed for divorce. My current wife was great until she turned 20. she started wanting things all the time. Working eating things I don't wanteeat. not wearing the clothes I laid out for her and dressing slutty. . Ordering things ididn't want her to. I picked out a dish I like and told her she had to get it. She switch it back to what she wanted

She wants a divorce and we

are spending our vacation apart

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1 y

My first wife did whatever I died. My new wife doesn't care and does what she wants

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1 y

She is a slob. She doesn't know how to cook well at all.

[SueShe]

So, your first wife "did whatever I died". That must have been wishful thinking yet you are still alive and very much being the AITAH.

You are a disgrace to women and honestly, you should never have been married, not even in a relationship or dating a woman. I think you would be better off dating a guy that can tell you how you have to live rather than to pick on women that have the courage of their opinions.

People like you should actually be locked up or sent to a deserted island to learn some basic values. Alas, people like you don't learn...

[Peterpanpan675]

I meant to put my first wife did whatever I said but I was a little drunk. I am trying to teach my second wife to be a little more sophisticated. She is a lot sweeter and warmer than my first wife but she is very ditzy. I feel like she's personally insulting me when she doesn't pick the way I want her to.

[katiesmuff]

Sounds like the almost perfect marriage as told by a TROLL!

[molonski2]

She must be Asian? Well , you didn't have the necessary control you thought you had man.

[Peterpanpan675]

Maybe I should try Asian next.

[molonski2]

What nationality is she?
Pick your country carefully if you wish to remain above ground.

[Peterpanpan675]

Puerto Rican

[molonski2]

Oh should be cute then? Nice

[Anonymous]

ESH but expect the comment section to defend her as if she's innocent

[Miristheiss]

Am I the Asshole?

Shouldn't you be on Reddit?

[Peterpanpan675]

I was going to go on there but I stumbled upon here. I really don't want another divorce. I am not trying to control her. She needs my help navigating life. She is very immature for 21

[Miristheiss]

Most of what you describe is a parent/child scenario in which you control her life.

Now, you say ordering stuff you don't want. Do you mean she is wasting money and buying a bunch of things with your money? You should have SEPARATE FINANCES and she should not have access to your accounts.
Dressing Slutty.
This is a huge issue. A wife that rejects her husband's desire that she remain somewhat modest and ignores him and willfully chooses to reveal herself in public to get sexual attention from other men is kind of breaking a marriage boundary. I assume she already knew your stance before marriage? Any good woman naturally knows this but there are so many feminist tramps these days that think being sexually "liberated" and a public tramp is the most important thing in the universe. It is a religion to them, many women these days think this is wife behavior.

Quit trying to control every aspect of her life. However, if she is wasting the household income on frivolous purchases get onto separate bank accounts/finances and if she won't stop dressing like a tramp then you may have to divorce her.

[Peterpanpan675]

She gets Starbucks. Spends too much on food. When we order out I like to pick what we both eat.

[Lliam]

Good for her. You sound like a complete ass.

[Anonymous]

You're just another female troll with a blue GAG account.

[HelpfulWoman]

fuck off troll