Am I wrong for being upset with my wife for making an completely avoidable mistake that ended up costing me almost 400 dollars?

[Anonymous]

Alright so here is the details, last week I sent my wife out to get gift cards for our nieces and nephews. We do this on years where we can't go see them.. There are 8 of them at 20 dollars each. I asked my wife to specifically go to a specific store, to a specific place in said store to get the gift cards. Which she did not do. Instead she went to a convenience store and picked up prepaid visas which charged and activation fee 20 dollars, and a load fee 10 dollars, and a transaction fee 10 dollars.. So in the end each 20 dollar card cost me 60 dollars.. Or 480 dollars total.. When they should have cost 160. I got angry at her and told her that I was only budgeted for 160, not 480.. And because of that she would need to contribute the difference to our mortgage because I could no longer afford it. And by the way the only bill she is responsible for is half of the mortgage.. I pay 100% of all other bills.. She called me an asshole and told me I was being unfair. If she had followed instructions we wouldn't even be having this discussion..

Am I in the wrong here?

[Pohjolan]

You were not wrong to be upset but you should have figured out by now that your wife is not the sharpest pencil in the case.

In future give her even more clear instructions.

You can even write it on a paper.

[LiamJHayden]

You were wrong for trusting her to do what you asked.

[Asker]

I suppose so. I'm just holding her accountable for her choices.

[jennifer_bloom]

Money is not a valid standard of comparison when determining work load and effort because some people make ten or twenty times what other people make, and sometimes the poor person works harder than the rich person. Of course, you can demand she take some accountability for her error, but using your pay load to devalue her pay capacity is not fair, you might make more money than her due to having more marketable skills in your industry at work even if you both do the same amount of work in maintaining the house or keeping a roof over your heads.

[Asker]

I will take missing the point entirely for 500 Alex.. Reread my question. And the description. Am I wrong for being upset at her for costing me nearly 400 dollars yes or no only.. And am I wrong for asking her to help cover more of the mortgage for one month because I cannot afford it because of what she did, yes or no only.

[Asker]

If you can't answer the question I will delete tour comment.

[jennifer_bloom]

You can ask for money if you need it but a marriage should be done according to ability and not raw and unweighted financial division

[Asker]

I think you still misunderstand, if she does not help, we will lose our home.. This is what she caused, her choice made it so we are likely to lose our home it she does not help.. We both have the same basic salary..

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes I said you have a right to ask your wife for money if you need it to survive or maintain your lives.

[ThrillSeeker01]

It's a pain, but it's not the end of the world... just cool to keep things in perspective.