What’s worse rushing marriage or future faking?

[Summeroflove]

[JaneDoe93]

Future faking because it’s basically lying. This is never a healthy precursor to any relationship.

[Summeroflove]

I agree. But other people have made some very valid points as well. Such as wasting years of your life married to someone, have kids with someone, and then the process of divorce on top of it all.

I think doing both is really shitty. Some people get married fast because they really think they are meant to be whether they are or not. But some people rush marriahe to lock someone down before they can see their true intentions and true colors.

[Summeroflove]

Especially because many times someone fully intends on discarding someone at some point in the future. Whether they marry someone or not.

Unfortunately many people want someone better. But that’s the best option they have at the time. They want someone they can lock down if nobody else comes along. But it’s really sad when someone thinks someone else loves them and genuinely wants to be with them but wasting their time. Especially when someone gets older and starts loosing
Their chances of having kids for women.

[Summeroflove]

But even doing that to a man is shitty as well. If a man’s only chance to start a family is later in life as well. Meaning even if a man or woman has kids later. Now they’re going to be raising kids when they are older adults when they should be having grand babies and retiring.

It’s a sick thing to do to someone.

[Nikki1989]

Rushing marriage.

[Summeroflove]

I agree at least someone can back out or a relationship where future faking is happening. Because divorcing someone is by far more messy.

Even if you’re strung along with a decade or more of your life wasted. At the end of the day it’s better then a decade or more of marriage wasted. Then a nasty divorce especially when they try to frame you as someone you’re not

[CrisboOx]

Rushing marriage.

[loveyouoak]

rushing marriage

[Summeroflove]

I agree. Wasting someone’s time is bad enough. But wasting someone’s time while being married with kids on top of the divorce is even worse.

At least if you’re future faking you can walk away much easier.

[chocolatetwopointo]

whats future faking?

[Summeroflove]

When someone acts like they see a future with someone. Wants to marry them…. But never does it.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so basically lying to them?

[fuddly]

So like leading them on
False pretences

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok then id say rushing marriage

[fuddly]

Well I'd say there will be no marriage
But giving the impression there might be
Then after lots of loving sex , split up

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay

[Summeroflove]

Yes it’s lying to them but at the same time it’s stinging someone along because they’re the best option at the time. If nothing else works out they have someone they can lock down. But really secretly want someone else.

[Summeroflove]

But I do think I agree with rushing marriage is worse. Because you’re going to waste probably years if not decades witj someone who has other intentions as well as divorces are messy especially when one person frames the other