Is a diamond ring important in wedding/marriage?

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Kelley1 · Accepted Answer

A diamond engagement ring is traditional and, to some extent, the cost of the ring tells the girl how much the man values her. It depends on the girl. For some girls, a diamond ring is extremely important.

In my case, I don't need a diamond ring. If I am willing to marry the guy, I will marry him with or without a diamond. A gold or platinum wedding band will suffice. I may be for sale but not for the price of a $5,000 to $10,000 diamond ring. Also, after I am married, I many not want to wear two rings. Moreover, according to the internet the resale price of a diamond ring is 25 to 45 percent of the original price. For a ring I will not be enthused about wearing in addition to my wedding band, loosing more than 50 percent in value doesn't seem like good economics.

If I was a young man, to show that I value the girl highly, I would give her an artificial diamond in an expensive ring; the same ring that would normally come with the diamond. Most people cannot visually tell the difference. Along with the ring, I would give her a checkbook in both our names. If she accepts the proposal, she can remove my name from the account or transfer it to her account and use the money for whatever purchases she chooses.

I would also let her know that, if she wants real diamond, I made arrangements with jeweler that sold the ring, that for amount in the account, the jeweler will replace the artificial diamond with a real diamond. Either way the cost to me would be the same.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

We didn't buy rings because neither of us like rings.

HawkPerception · Answer

A diamond ring or any ring is not important in a romantic relationship. It's a sad reflection of society that some people think it's a must in a romantic relationship. Imagine that... a rock on the planet dictating whether someone loves you or not.

I would not date a girl who only wanted to get married if I got her the piece of rock. That's not real love. That's just materialism. That means you're just getting married to show off to others and say, "Hey, I got a piece of rock from a guy! I'm valued!" It's clearly to fulfill your validation needs.

That being said, the ironic thing is that if I were to get married, I'd still want to propose and get my partner a ring. It wouldn't necessarily be a diamond ring, but it would be a ring that I think is symbolic of our love for each other. Again though... if they require a ring to get married to me, that's not a partner for me.

Here's some interesting history behind diamond rings:

They convinced you that a diamond proves love, when it was just a marketing ploy by De Beers. Here's how one of the biggest scams in history hijacked weddings (and your wallet):

Before the 1930's, diamonds weren't seen as a requirement for marriage.

They were just another gemstone.

De Beers changed that.

With one campaign:

"A diamond is forever."

It wasn't a cultural tradition.

It was a marketing scheme.

They planted emotional triggers into your love life.

And billions fell for it.

De Beers created scarcity, not value.

They controlled 90% of the global diamond supply.

And drip-fed it into the market.

Artificial scarcity = inflated prices.

They paid Hollywood to show diamond rings in romantic scenes.

They hired magazines to call it tradition.

They bribed culture itself.

It wasn't love.

It was leverage.

The "2 months salary" rule?

Invented by ad executives.

A made up rule to drain your savings.

You're not proving love.

You're proving obedience.

Diamonds aren't rare.

They're just marketed that way.

Lab diamonds?

Nearly identical.

But cost 80% less.

And resale value?

Diamonds lose 30-70% once you leave the store.

Try pawning your "forever" ring.

You'll learn the truth fast.

Want to give something meaningful?

Write a letter.

Plan a trip.

Build a foundation for financial peace.

Love isn't a purchase.

ohsheeT · Answer

Little girls dream about the day they will get married and if that is there dream and it makes her happy then you should get if for her
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Or one day Walking out of the grocery store. The best rings are it's a gumball machine it's Going to be one of the best gifts you could buy for a quarter. Not less you don't get the one you're looking for it might take a couple more dollars and quarters LOL.

But when you get the one you're looking for The moment you put it on the girl's finger. She is the happiest girl ever

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is certainly possible to have a wonderful engagement and marriage without a diamond engagement ring, but. . .

following tradition with the ring sets the tone that we are both following traditions and customs. It is a sign that I consider my partner to be worthy of a significant investment, and it is an outward sign to the world of her commitment to me. Yes, the ring has value beyond its cost at the jewelry store.

AviatorTom · Answer

A ring is important, since it shows your commitment to each other. A diamond isn't necessary, but most women want one.

Lliam · Answer

I'd say it is. I gave my wife a narrow gold band with a row of 6, small princess cut (square) diamonds set into the band next to each other in a row so that the band would sparkle. I designed the ring, but it wasn't very expensive back in 1995 because it was simple, narrow (not much gold), and the stones were very small.

I think an engagement ring makes the engagement seem serious. I know my fiance was thrilled. And she got to show it off to prove that she was engaged.

I gave her a gold wedding band crafted in Celtic knot work (that I found in a catalogue) and had a fiery, marquis-shaped diamond set in prongs on top. It's really pretty and, with the diamond, is one of a kind. But it wasn't super expensive in 1996 because I didn't go for a large rock.

I designed a gold wedding ring for myself and had my design duplicated by a ring maker in the jewelry district in downtown Los Angeles. It's shaped kind of like a graduation ring but is flatter. I used Celtic designs from the Book of Kells and had five small stones set in it - a diamond in the center and a red garnet (my birth stone), a citrine opposite that, a peridot (my wife's birthstone) and an emerald (for Ireland) opposite that. The stones weren't very expensive because they are very small.

I think it's important to exchange rings during the wedding and to wear them from then on to show that you are married. They are a symbol of your devotion and worn with pride.

But I don't believe in large, expensive diamonds. Bragging about the value of a diamond is for superficial people. But a pretty ring is nice. My wife and I love the designs of our rings.

Gwendoline · Answer

It's the wedding band that matters, the engagement ring is just a sign of commitment from a man of his intention to make her his bride and with being able to afford an engagement ring shows he can afford to support her and any children they have financially. I honestly think it doesn't matter and that engagement rings are overvalued for what they are in terms of money. It's basically marketing towards us women like most marketing to convince us to think that we need a £20,000 engagement ring and then of course we can show off to other women that our men think so much of us. I see now that they are now trying to market engagement rings towards men called mangagement rings but I can't see that taking off.

Screenwriter · Answer

It's only important if a couple decide it is. There's no need for there to be a diamond ring for an engagement. How about a string of pearls? A sapphire? An emerald? A pendant of some kind with precious or semi-precious stones. Diamond earrings.

For a man, the same could be true for a tie clip, a money clip, a stick pin, an obsidian man's ring, or a ring with semiprecious stones in white gold. A man should get an engagement ornament if the woman does.

Mainly, it's going to be according to the couple's budget. Maybe all they can afford are wedding rings. And maybe later they can opt for something fancier.

OneViewpoint · Answer

ROFL, I gotta love De Beers. They absolutely monopolize the world diamond market. And they have waged a century long marketing campaign to convince idiots to pay ridiculous prices for mostly useless pretty little rocks. And it worked! Diamonds are a status symbol. If you don't give her a big enough diamond you don't love her enough and all her friends will know it. If you want to feel like a rich girl, just wear some diamonds. De Beers absolutely nailed it. They targeted every insecurity, aspiration, and arrogance in people of both genders.

Sunrising · Answer

I don't think it's necessary, but tradition to give your partner a diamond ring when getting engaged to be married, which I think you mean. Females like jewellery, rings etc. so if I ever was lucky enough to become engaged my lady would have a diamond ring, if she wanted one, and a gold ring when we got married, again if she wanted one. I understand the gold ring can be a diamond ring but I'm not familiar with this tradition, but I've never been engaged or married and I've never thought it important enough to give the subject a great deal of attention.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Diamonds are nice; beautiful even. But I don't need some expensive ass ring to know that he loves me. Frankly I'd actually be happier with a simple band with an engraving. Wouldn't have to worry about the stones falling off if I bump too hard against something. Although if her were to get me a ring with a stone, I'd prefer a sapphire or an emerald over a diamond any day

Caroline91 · Answer

It was so unimportant to me. A plain band is just fine. It's the man that mattered.

Godihateyou · Answer

I spent 4.5k on an 8k Dimond more than 20 years ago. Pretty much double it. She wore it for 11 days and it sits in a box i pay 115 dollars a month in storage. If I bought that much in Gold instead we would be more than 20 times richer.

Kayla45 · Answer

Diamonds are a sign of status, it’s something women are fond of because it makes us stand out in the crowd. They’re beautiful to look at too, definitely adds a beauty that men tend to like as well.

I wouldn’t say it’s necessary to have a diamond ring for marriage, but it’s definitely something like brownie points for a guy who gives his future wife one. ☝️

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It's not important to me, tho it can be nice if the dude really put thought into a ring. I wouldn't want a really expensive one tho since I lose stuff lol.

MrChinaski · Answer

The diamond engagement ring was a marketing ploy by DeBeers in the 1920s/30s when US states removed suit for breach of contract to marry. You get that ice or else no dice. Yes diamond rings are gorgeous, and I dropped a mozza on one myself, but they aren't going to change your life.

exitseven · Answer

No, my wife and I were saving to buy a house and a diamond ring seemed to be a waste of money. We bought two gold wedding rings that are really beautiful.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

The answer here really depends upon the woman who is wearing our ring. On a few occasions some other stone was preferred by ‘her’. So no, a diamond isn’t a hard set rule unless you are a jeweler selling a bridle set.

beenherebefore · Answer

I wouldn’t say is important but it’s a nice gesture. A ring doesn’t mean anything if the feeling or the connection are not serious enough.

dragoblack · Answer

For much of history diamonds and gemstones were only for royal and nobility weddings. Your common wedding was a promise object, self made jewlery, or a simple gold or silver band ring. diamonds being said as wedding mandatory is a very recent and modern thing same with white wedding dresses. The diamond thing was actually an advertisement from jewelry companies fuled by the england royal wedding to sell diamonds, that everyone at the time thought too expensive.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

No it's just an object I would of been happy if he proposed with a ring pop lol

FreyaRed · Answer

It's about a ring. I guess the expensive gem idea was induced in US as some business model.

XXblack88 · Answer

No while it nice to be given one it's not necessary.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Marriage is all about the three rings. Engagement ring, wedding ring & suffering.  As for a ring diamonds are a girls best friend.

yipperoc · Answer

Personally, natural diamonds that require mining are problematic. The labor used to mine them is unethical in my opinion. Plus, there have been numerous studies that show the price of natural diamonds is artifically inflated. I'm ok with lab grown diamonds though. Much more ethical and cheaper.

BDRick · Answer

truthfully, I'm gonna get my future wife a string to wrap around her finger because it's about love and not material possessions.  ^I got that form Meet the Parents (Owen Wilson)

DonaldDarko · Answer

I don't know, I love diamonds on drill bits and saws. They can help your relationships if you believe they can. They definitely can cut through concrete like a hot knife through butter.

SamIam96 · Answer

Yes. WTF. If you care enough to spend the rest of your life with her. Buy the ring.

worldscolide · Answer

Did you know that the engagement ring didn't exist prior to the 1920's? It was an invention of the diamond cartels to sell more diamonds. Leave it to women to fall for that and demand the most expensive thing possible.

molonski2 · Answer

In reality , over time , the ring just makes no difference.

glennos89 · Answer

Woman should be grateful with any ring the men can afford himself to buy for her. If I marry a woman and she demands a diamond ring from me she will be single again

Dela_99 · Answer

I think to each their own. I don’t think its important for everyone. It is for me! Also i want a real pretty expensive ring but i also don’t expect my husband to pay for it! I am saving to get my own some day in case he can’t afford it.

RingOfFire · Answer

You should have had an option for: "It's only important if it's more than 2 carats." Then more girls would have voted yes.

DJB72 · Answer

A ring, yes. Diamonds, no.  It's a symbol of something far more precious than a chunk of clear carbon.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Nope. Women want the ring but then will do nothing to continue to be deserving of it. That doesn’t stop once you get the ring. Extremely important concept

Celticwolf78 · Answer

I know that some women don't really want things like that it's shouldn't be about material things

Dongie · Answer

It's important because it's been a tradition for millions of years. Ones wife shouldn't be left out either.

robocop666 · Answer

there is substitutes to diamond that are also shiny like moisinite its nicer too

WonderingManII · Answer

It is a nice thing for a girl to have, but marriage is more about the heart.

Surely · Answer

I would say that it is what is in your heart. Not what is on your finger.

msc545 · Answer

It is very important to the diamond companies and the jewelers and the divorce lawyers.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

No. A ring, isn't necessary, at all. Just as marriage, isn't necessary, at all

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

doesn't have to be diamond though, i bought my fiancee a garnet ring for 700$

itsannalee · Answer

For me yes, but the size doesn’t matter.

anmari2001 · Answer

It's one of the least important things

Sultanaa · Answer

But depends on the reality of both.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Not unless one's a gold digger

Bricealan · Answer

@kelly6 For me, No.

Jennz6 · Answer

Diamonds are beautiful

zagor · Answer

Nope. I'd rather give her a new computer.

bornNerd · Answer

It looks beautiful

Jeff51 · Answer

My wife has a diamond ring. I think so.

EmmiL · Answer

No unless she's superficial

Sabretooth · Answer

no. a ring should match the wearer.

krin_m · Answer

I don't think so.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes.

xyzguy1296 · Answer

Sex is more important lol 😂

CubaPirate · Answer

Not really

wkhan_87 · Answer

I don't think it is.

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