She constantly follows me around and is always like ''what are WE doing now?'' its so annoying because she has no life of her own and makes me sit at home with her for hours and hours. If I try to leave she gets really upset and makes me feel guilty. She is always trying to arrange stuff for us to do together and I just want my own space! I don't want to hurt her as I know she loves me, but how can I make her get the hint and leave me alone?! x
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Omg, I think your wife is the one who should be looking for advice about this, not you.
By "making her get the hint" you probably mean - announcing that you're going out with your friends, being quiet, doing stuff that don't include her (like a hobby you have but she doesn't), or maybe even avoiding her... The only hints she gets when you do something like that is that she needs to fight for your attention even more. So, don't do it that way.
Even though that hint may not be bad in itself, she's obviously doing it the wrong way . If she actually did leave you alone and dedicated her time to herself a bit, I guess you'd be eager to give her some attention.
You should encourage her to pursue some dream or some hobby she always wanted to do but never tried. Buy her a book that she may find interesting. Encourage her to reconnect with friends, or to make new friends. Tell her that you want her to dedicate her time to herself because you love her and you know that is good for her.
But first and foremost, you should talk to her. Tell her you sometimes need some "me time" and it's nothing personal, you just need it. It would be best if you don't say this when she's desperate for your attention and trying to keep you by her side. Do it while you're both in some relaxed mood. Tell her you sometimes need to blow off some steam alone to remind yourself why you miss her.1