Boyfriend throws Valentine card away?

[kaena]

For valentine day my boyfriend and I exchanged some gifts, then this morning after he went to work I found the valentine card I had given him in the garbage bin. On the moment that kinda insulted me and I feel pretty hurt by that. I was wondering from a guy's perspective if it's normal to throw stuff away? I could understand girls are more inclined to keeping sentimental stuff, even if just a small card, but maybe guys don't put too much importance in these things? We've only been together for 2 months, but still it hurts me to think he would not even keep something I gave him. I won't be able to ask him about it for a while so if any guy could enlighten me...

[jeeperss]

i'd say I'd be hurt too, but on the whole I throw lots of stuff away, including cards.

Granted, I think I've kept most of the stuff my boyfriend's ever given me, but it;s because he writes a lot, and they are meaningful. If it was just a card, and signed with like 2-3 sentences of generic I love you stuff, I would've thrown it away too.

I think he's kept a lot of the stuff I've given him. But I also write long, meaningful cards, and he is quite sentimental. In fact, I've been told by numerous people they love my cards, and that they always keep them and re-read them when they're having a bad day. I think card writing is my thing.

But anyways, back to the topic. I don't think it's anything to be worried about or feel insulted over. we cannot always keep every little thing, plus not everyone is all that sentimental. I don't like saying guys are less so than girls, because I don't like such generalizations, but maybe in terms of cards they are. besides, I think it also depends how long you've been together. oh it says 2 months, then meh.

[Elysia]

I don't keep any holiday cards, personally. While I always appreciate the thought and/or effort, it's a lot like reading a book - very few of them do I go through and read again. Just my opinion, though. Does he seem like the sentimental type? If he's not, it's probably nothing personal.

[Angel_Face]

Some guys are just not into v-day, I know my boyfriend isn't and I didn't realise that until now. Ask him if it's just that or if he's just not that sentimental. I'm sure there's a reasonable explanation for this so don't let it hurt you until you know his reason.

[MrKkibbles]

Not everyone likes to keep cards, I especially don't and I don't like being guilt-tripped into keeping them around. But you could still tell him that you wish he would. It's also a lot bigger deal if it was something more hand made or with more effort on your part rather than a generic store card with an "I love you" and your name on the bottom.

[BlueXeno]

Well, the day is over, guys tend not to hold onto things as much. Throwing it out so soon is a little harsh, but not beyond normal. He's probably not the type of guy to collect things, or hold onto mementos. I wouldn't worry too much about it, perhaps next time don't put so much effort in the card if he doesn't appreciate that kind of thing.

[OutOfMyElement43]

It's not normal; at least, it's not normal for any man who got caught throwing away a V-day card. You should tell him how you feel so he never makes the same mistake!

[rakoth132]

Maybe he just isn't into that kind of thing. I'm not a huge fan of Valentines day, I just see it as a big corporation holiday. Why should I need a day to tell the one I am with how I feel.

Maybe he doesn't do that kind of thing.