Best grieving gift for friend?

[kylee2437]

Hello, my friends ex boyfriend has passed away and I need ideas for sympathy gifts. I’ve been looking for ideas on google but I noticed many articles for stuff like this are gimmicky and wanted opinions based on experience. Advice?

[Anonymous]

Yourself, your time, your ear, your shoulder. Without a word. Over a long period. Let her grieve and say wild things without judgment.
Denial
Anger <-- Wild talk
Bargaining <--Wild ideas
Depression <--Don't leave her alone to mope
Acceptance

[kylee2437]

Very nice reply! Thank you!

[Whatever2929292]

I am so sorry about that. I don't really know here is some flowers

https://www.1800flowers.com/Sympathy?r=newengengoonb&adcampaign=NE_18F_Sympathy-Funeral_D_E&adcampaignid=10530364484&adgroupid=105821603922&adid=595946609731&adtype=text&kw=sympathy%20gifts&matchtype=e&addisttype=g&gclid=Cj0KCQjw-daUBhCIARIsALbkjSZTw4vLvpvUQtvF-GkFhSbTQWIQMIzv75EtnqAZ4lESCskXznkqLjUaAhgbEALw_wcB

[its_amelia_c]

I don’t know that you need to buy a gift.


You can get flowers, write a very heartfelt letter or card, and just show that you are there day/night when we they need you.


That’s what it’s all about xx

[Smashingdoozy]

Her favorite food and have a movie night. Company is always best in those situations

[ChrisMaster69]

A card and flowers, keep it simple.

flowers are a bit more than just a card, everyone likes flowers.

it also gets you away from gimmicky stuff.

if you want to add something, add in chocolates or hot chocolate that you make yourself (as in not just powdered stuff ).

[EmbraceThePain]

I would say a card with something meaningful and honest you’ve written inside it, as well as some flowers.

[kylee2437]

Thank you!

[razelove]

If it's her ex, at least they didn't have a tight bond anymore. My go to for grieving is a teddy bear and a card. Those seem to work well, Walgreens sells them cheap, and it's not like a present is going to make them feel better. Having something fuzzy to hold can feel good though.

[kylee2437]

They did have a tight bond. They were engaged for 2 years and only broke up about 5 months ago

[razelove]

I said anymore, they obviously had some irreconcilable difference to call off an engagement and break up. Just go with the teddy bear and card, what else are you going to do, pull an Oprah, guess what the keys under your chair are for!

[kylee2437]

@razelove it was something he said that broke them off. Had he didn’t say what they said they would be together. I get your point though. No obviously it’s not a big gift, I don’t know why people need sarcastic replies. I was honestly looking for heart felt gift ideas that make sense for a death because I’ve never really experienced someone lose to me losing someone like that unexpectedly

[kylee2437]

Close to me*

[razelove]

I hate to say it, but you get used to it after it happens enough times. I know it will hurt like hell when my folks go, but besides that my reaction to people dying now is about the same as if they moved.

[YES12]

So I really love the memory boxes. You can buy beautiful paper and you write the memory of the person that passed away in the box so it could be anybody write a memory and put it in there.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I can't even think of anything cause I put myself in her position and there would be no point of a gift in that situation, like others have said, some flowers which will most likely end up at the grave so I feel like that's the best choice rather than anything else cause gifts are for celebration and there's not much of a celebration here.

[kylee2437]

Yeah that’s why I’m looking for appropriate gifts because I don’t want it to look like a celebration

[TheMajesticKing777]

I'd say flowers would be a safe gift along with a card if you wanna make it a bit more special with some personal words

[KirbyFan246]

Get her a Plushie she can hug, a fairly sized one, you could get one of the big ones, but that might be too much. A standard sized teddy bear should be enough, and as others have mentioned, a Card with a heartfelt message on the inside would be a meaningful gift to share.

[GatewayRealm]

She’s Your friend and You Still don’t Know what she likes Dislikes.
What a Shame just goes to show what Kind of friend you are to her.
Also how do you know her Ex passed away? Sounds like a bunch of shit To me and if I were you I would need Proof that he’s dead before I Decide to not or get her something.

[razelove]

Facebook has made all of us so many friends, that we need to take selfies when we need a picture lol

[kylee2437]

@razelove actually she’s a co worker that turned into a best friend ☺️ thanks for your useless know it all reply

[kylee2437]

@GatewayRealm as for you ☺️ this isn’t a birthday gift, this is a sympathy gift and I was looking for appropriate gift ideas as because I don’t want to gift her like it’s her birthday ☺️ thanks for your useless long paragraph

[kylee2437]

And also, her ex committed suicide. How do I know this happened? Because I have been by her side for the past two weeks helping her graduate from college meanwhile she’s in distress about her ex going missing. ☺️ I know I’m such a horrible friend

[razelove]

Your time and attention would be the only things you can give then. A card, flowers or anything else would add more distance than anything else if you're that close. When people go like that everyone close to them wants a reason why, though they're never going to find it. It also isn't something you can provide. Just keep doing what you're doing.

[GatewayRealm]

Unless you saw his dead body Or Saw a Police Report he’s not Dead just a friend Lying to you to gain attention and sympathy I wouldn’t waste my Time with such types

[kylee2437]

@GatewayRealm uhhh I’m sure it’s not for attention when police detectives have been calling her phone and recovered a body this past Saturday. I wish he was still alive and healthy as so does his family and everyone hurt by the situation

[GatewayRealm]

He wasn’t healthy he was a Nut Job healthy people don’t commit suicide.
Healthy people don’t Drink either only Crazy people do those things.
At least he’s at a better place I can’t wait Till I die

[kylee2437]

@GatewayRealm I wouldn’t describe him as a nut job but he had issues that he obviously didn’t want to cope with anymore

[GatewayRealm]

It’s a cruel world he has Returned Home. If there was a Button I could die without no pain I would push it without a second thought. I know methods to Kill myself without any pain I know a few actually. Where there is no pain and a guaranteed death 💀

[GatewayRealm]

You both will see him again eventually. Best of luck to you 2

[kylee2437]

@GatewayRealm I hope you find a healthy way to cope with your issues so you can find happiness in this world

[molonski2]

Gifts are simply not appropriate for moments like this..
What is vital is support , and a beautifully had written card showing same , stating you are always there for her.
No material gift is relevant.

[dolemite89]

why give them a gift at all, let them grieve and just be a friend to them when they need company

[BillyBalls]

Maybe just spend some time with her.

Maybe take her out for a few drinks and dinner.

If you buy her "a gift" it just might depress her because it will be a constant reminder of the person who died.

[FactsRULE]

If it was the other way around, a males male friend's Ex girlfriend died neither of them would care.

[AviatorTom]

Write your own sincere message in a card, maybe something about the guy that you remember.

[killarney]

Hard to beat a bit of love and support at these hard times like this now

[andreasderjuengere]

Gifts are useless in such cases.
Just be a friend. Just be there if requested.

[AsunderingNova]

I think the most important thing is to just be there for them, and your presence will be the gift?

[kylee2437]

I agree I am there for her however I think gifts are meaningful also.

[AsunderingNova]

Well, what is something they like?
Also, could you check out my questions? :)

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just give her a card and be there for her cause she's gonna need the support of her friends to get her through this

[YES12]

Try the memory box sympathy memory box. Look ar them online they are a sweet gift.

[OddBeMe]

Nothing is better than showing up. They dont need insipid gifts.

[tbradley]

id say just being there for support and having someone to talk to is more then what you could buy her

[aguyliknon]

I agree but new clothes will do you both good too

[tbradley]

@aguyliknon im sorry but if i lost a friend last thing im thinking about is clothes

[aguyliknon]

That is cuz u are not a girl.

[RHK36]

Card, flowers and support

[Wise4myage]

A card and flowers should suffice.

[Koda1]

Who cares? Lol I wouldn't get them shit.

[kylee2437]

That’s your personal choice, however I care about my friends and think she deserves a gift 🙃

[Koda1]

It's an ex she shouldn't care ether.

[kylee2437]

Sorry but what someone else chooses to care about is not up for you to decide.

[KrakenAttackin]

Sympathy gift? That sounds strange to me.

[kylee2437]

Actually it’s not strange at all.

[In_Trance]

Send a card. That's enough

[kylee2437]

Hmmm yeah cards are usually enough but she’s my best friend and I am with her a ton so I think a card is pointless. I want something more

[In_Trance]

At this point if you have to think of something that's going to have meaning, it probably won't. Keep it simple

[kylee2437]

It’s not about the thinking, it’s about what is further appropriate. I have never really had a death affect me this much so it’s new to me

[In_Trance]

I have. Keep it simple; put it behind you

[Agagagagaga]

Your friend’s ex-boyfriend’s death is really affecting you?

Christ when I was your age I was looking at dead soldiers in Iraq who had just gotten blown up in war.

🤦‍♂️

[kylee2437]

@agagagaga once again, why do you people feel like you have entitlement to implement opinion on who someone should and shouldn’t care about? Do you know me in real life? Please take a step back and think before you speak , it may benefit you later

[midnightmoon05]

Take her on a trip. Bring new experiences to her life.
Take her on a spa day/date.
Go window shopping… buy something nice to have a fun day out.

[lofii]

You don't need a gift

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Just flowers

[Jackson619]

Your beautiful just saying

[urpapi69]

Flowers! Don't think too much about it.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know I’mm

[peedy]

Cold beer

[ball34]

I’m sy