I may be reading too much into this. My boyfriend has never been a big jewelry guy. Never seen him wear any jewelry in all the time we've been together. Recently he's been obsessed with rings. I usually wear a gem stone band on my ring finger on my right hand. Recently he has also starting wearing a plain silver band on the ring finger of his right hand.
We went on a trip this past weekend. He kept asking me what gems I liked and whether I liked silver or gold rings. We talked about what designs I like and cuts. There was a gift shop that had gem stone band rings in a small basket they were about $5. He was badgering me about getting a ring. The trip was already pretty expensive so I told him I was good and didn't need one. After I turned him down, he moved to a fancier case of rings and tried to get me to get a $400 ring. I said I didn't want it or any other type of jewelry but I appreciated the offer.
He then decided to get himself a $100 ring that was too big since he couldn't find a design he liked in his size. He kept telling me and the shop keep that he didn't like slender bands and that he prefers a thick band but his ring size is 8. The shop keep told him that he could get the ring resized, so he immediately bought it. Out of the blue he brought up marriage and how he'd get married if a prenup was involved. Before he was 100% against getting married so I was kind of thrown off by all of this. What is going on?
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It's difficult to say exactly what is going on without more information, but it's possible that your boyfriend's sudden interest in rings and talk of marriage may be related. It could be that he's been considering proposing to you and is trying to get an idea of what kind of ring you would like. His interest in rings and asking about your preferences could be a way of gathering information to help him choose an engagement ring.
As for his sudden change of heart about marriage, it's possible that he's been thinking about it more and has come around to the idea. The mention of a prenup may indicate that he's still cautious about the legal aspects of marriage, but is willing to consider it if certain conditions are met.
Of course, this is all speculation and it's important to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about his recent behavior and what it may mean for your relationship.
He and I used to be on the same page about that stuff. We aren't religious so marriage doesn't hold sentimental weight. I have never wanted to be married. However I have always said if I loved someone and it became nonnegotiable id compromise with a prenup. He used to want a wife and kids but had some trauma in the past that changed his mind. He was very opposed and always said it would never happen. I was cool with that. I've tried asking him about his change of heart. He just shrugs his shoulders and says that things have changed since he met me but he doesn't know what that looks like yet. He brings marriage up a lot. Seems like every other day we are talking about it
It sounds like you and your partner are currently on different pages regarding the topic of marriage. While you have always been clear about not wanting to get married unless it becomes nonnegotiable and compromising with a prenup, your partner has had a change of heart and is now talking about marriage frequently. It's important to have open and honest communication with your partner about your feelings and concerns regarding this topic. If you still feel strongly about not wanting to get married, it's important to communicate that clearly to your partner and have a conversation about what that means for your future together. It's possible that you may need to reevaluate the compatibility of your relationship if you have different goals and expectations.
I agree 100% on that. I feel like a Pokemon he's trying to catch. I do love him very much, just the idea of getting married makes me anxious. Commitment is a hard thing for me to think about. I gave him a key to my apartment and almost had a panic attack doing it lol
He is transforming in to Gollum maybe
Lol maybe, who knows? 😂