Hello all,
I am in need of some advice. First, let me address that I haven’t received any Christmas presents for the past 2 years of our relationship. Nor have I ever gotten a Valentine’s Day gift, anniversary gift, or even a birthday gift (one out of the two years we’ve been together, almost three now). This years Christmas (2023), i received 4 gifts that were a total of $11.50 from Temu :) Three of them were Coraline posters (from the movie I love, yet never asked for), and one was a customized necklace that said “ITALY”. This represents I trust and Love You. Don’t get me wrong, it’s hella cute. But, I’ve always went above and beyond for him, even on days where it’s not a holiday. I could count my fingers on how many items he has bought me within our entire relationship. Yet, just the other day he spent $80 on “🍃💨” IF you know what I mean. I am grateful for the things he got me just wish I was more of a priority. Am I wrong to be annoyed and upset? PLEASSSEEEE provide advice. I am very open to hearing everyone’s opinion even if it’s not what I’d like to hear.
I am in need of some advice. First, let me address that I haven’t received any Christmas presents for the past 2 years of our relationship. Nor have I ever gotten a Valentine’s Day gift, anniversary gift, or even a birthday gift (one out of the two years we’ve been together, almost three now). This years Christmas (2023), i received 4 gifts that were a total of $11.50 from Temu :) Three of them were Coraline posters (from the movie I love, yet never asked for), and one was a customized necklace that said “ITALY”. This represents I trust and Love You. Don’t get me wrong, it’s hella cute. But, I’ve always went above and beyond for him, even on days where it’s not a holiday. I could count my fingers on how many items he has bought me within our entire relationship. Yet, just the other day he spent $80 on “🍃💨” IF you know what I mean. I am grateful for the things he got me just wish I was more of a priority. Am I wrong to be annoyed and upset? PLEASSSEEEE provide advice. I am very open to hearing everyone’s opinion even if it’s not what I’d like to hear.
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Extremely cheap guy the guy is probably flat broke. You’re in for a real real lean future holidays for the rest of your life with this guy you’re gonna have to be in it for the love alone because you’re not gonna get anything else out of it no traveling. Does he even support you emotionally? Good luck enjoying your holidays and your birthday eating at Denny’s. Him ordering for you the cheapest item on the menu. You’ll probably end up living in a cheap apartment building somewhere in a bad neighborhood. I’ve never heard of somebody that cheap
Oof 😂😂😂 this was hilarious but so sad to read because it very well could be my future. I need to think long and hard about what I am going to do. Thank you so much for this perspective I genuinely do appreciate your advice and comment !
You are very welcome but remember like I said unless you’re into it for the love which that’s the way it should be, but I would recommend finding a good career for yourself so you can have your own money. Don’t depend on a man financially, especially a man like that.
As someone that has had a marijuana habit in my past I have noticed that it isn't addictive but it's hella close to it, I thank God he never allowed me to have a girlfriend throughout those time cause the habit can grow so much that you use even money for priorities, important priorities and make this habit your number one priority, it can get to the point where the moment you run out you straight up worry, like real worry like you are going to suffer tremendously without, weed can be so prioritized by some individuals that yes they put it above everything, now at the least he thought about you to a certain point and bought you things but most of his money went to his habit, weither this is a regular occurance, only you'll know but something I do know is that it's very destructive because it messes with your decisions when you are hooked to a habit, not a cheap one nothing less, a gram of that stuff is 10 dollars minimum and it surely does add up.
Have you communicated with him that you’d like to receive presents for all of these occasions? It may seem obvious to you that he should be providing gifts for you, but he may be oblivious to it.
Hello! Actually yes I have. We almost broke up about a year ago within our conversation I told him how I would love to receive gifts. In my opinion it’s a token of appreciation and love. I am not a gold digger whatsoever. I’ve actually been 2 almost 3 years patient with him to see if he’d eventually change and put the effort into getting me something.
And yet he hasn’t changed much.. yikes girl. Waiting for someone to change is never a good sign in a relationship. I’d call it quits if it’s something that you cannot look past.
You deserve to have your basic needs met. Gift giving does not require a lot from him. If it’s finances that he’s worried about, he could make you something. He just doesn’t want to put the effort in.