What Do guys think of "bookish" girls?

[lyssams]

I've always been one to read in my free time and be pretty comfortable with spending time alone,The type who sit in coffee shops and reads...What do guys thing of this? Yes I have friends, no in not popular. So what's your honest opinion?

[TheDigitalSaint]

As long as you don't think of yourself as "really smart", we can probably get along. I read VAST amount of books, but don't go on about how smart I am around girls. I've found that a lot of really well-read girls can't stop telling a man how smart and well-read they are. Seriously, that's a turn off. A man that is smart himself can tell whether or not a girl is smart or shallow. He doesn't need to be told just how much of a genius the girl is.

Instead, bring up interesting topics of conversation based upon what you've read, but don't do it in a show-off manner. Instead of, "I read blah, blah, blah", try "Did you know that blah, blah, blah?" One is you bragging, the other is asking if the other person knows information, if not, you're willing to share. There's a big difference.

One final point about well-read girls. A lot of them are a little to smart for their own good. That's not to say you should be dumb, but honestly, don't overanalyzes things. It kills attraction. Don't get too questiony. (I know, that's not a real word.) Last but not least, don't let your smarts get in the way of having a sense of humor and enjoying being silly once in a while. A brainy girl that can't laugh isn't much fun.

Smart girls who are well-read, who remain humble, don't over-think and also know how to relax and be silly/stupid once in a while are VERY rare. If you can pull off the balance, you're a true winner.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Thanks for BA.

[iwish46]

I used to be a "bookish" guy so I wouldn't have a problem with it. Although I would hope that she had a few other hobbies as well. Reading anything good right now?

[dawnfang]

Sounds good to me.