I am completely uninterested in a person's appearance when it comes to choosing a mate. In fact, I cannot find a persona physically attractive AT ALL if I do not first find them intellectually attractive.
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I respect individual women's decision to date men who aren't sexually attractive, but resent the pressure given to all women to forgo sexual attraction.
After all, the male partner is going to want frequent and varied sex - being able to accommodate and even relish this desire is much more satisfactory when you feel genuine SEXUAL desire on your end too.
You really said everything that needed to be said. People should mind their own business and not question the decisions of others, principally when it's about relationships.
Such a great take! thanks, i'm wondering about one thing, you said that he has a beautiful personality but with some insecurities towards society.. i'd like to know if he was a shy person?
Stacy this is a wonderful and inspiring my take. i'm glad you are the wonderful person you are and found that special someone that truly loves you for the wonderful person you truly are.
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I've never really thought twice about why an attractive woman dates someone average or below average. It does bother me if a man chooses a butterface over the cute chubby girl. In my opinion, that should never happen. I hate it when guys are with ugly women who are good looking because men are supposed to be more visual. I get it when they pick them for sex only, but not for relationships.
Not really, I love my life. I'm just stating an opinion. Don't know where you get that from... but I guess since you were looking for that opportunity, you saw something in my post, and you jumped at it. Given your username though, I am not surprised.
"It does bother me if a man chooses a butterface over the cute chubby girl" lol thats such a bitter, jealous thing to say. i personaly would choose a butterface over a chub chub like yourself as im an outdoor, sporty guy and require a girl that can keep up. competitive motivated women turn me on, usualy regardless of their looks. besides its not their fault they were not born with a perfect face, but its your fault you choose to hate instead of bettering yourself, you chub chub.
I am a private person. I don't even have a social media account. I'm not an attention whore, that feels the need to broadcast their photos to seek validation. This site also isn't even for dating , so it's un-necessary to have it up. Also, I wasn't bragging I was simply just saying I am attractive and describing my looks. Learn the difference. Since , you've asked me a question , let me ask you one. Why do you feel to poorly attempt to ridicule someone all while checking off the anonymous option like the little nipple sucking bitch you are?
*Why do you feel the need to poorly attempt to ridicule someone all while checking off the anonymous option like the little nipple sucking bitch you are? (Correction)
I think other than a lot of factors, one of the main reasons for this is we do not have a platform, as how our society is shaped (not for social), for everyone to meet everyone. At the end of the day, the types of people one can meet is always limited and from that limited human resources, when one cannot wait any longer, they will find someone at that time they think is right for them, even though it is likely that they are not the best choices.
You're the only person that got that impression , clearly you love twisting peoples words. It's a crime for someone to openly acknowledge that they are attractive , but let someone constantly bash their own looks , then society is there with open arms saying you shouldn't say those things. Matter a fact , people would rather listen to someone criticize themselves over and over rather than someone show confidence because that is society's norm. It's acceptable to beat ur appearance up but not to openly embrace it. People like you are major contradictions and are everything that is wrong with society.
There is a difference between being confident and self-praising. What you were doing the first half of this Take was praising yourself. I could now quote every single sentence of it, but it simply isn't worth the effort. Feel free to re-read it though.
But I am glad you have the read on me that people like me are a major contradiction, because being annoyed by your self-importance clearly equals me enjoying talking down on people. /sarcasm
Yeah, I see this take as nothing to do with me being attractive so why even mention it?
Mentioning myself as an attractive women twice in this take is way too overboard !
How dare I stick to the topic of this take. I know If I were to speak about how unattractive I am , and curl up into a ball you wouldn't have commented at all. Because that is what you'd rather here and that is the image more acceptable in society. It's a horrified thing to say you are attractive. Get over yourself contradiction !
Sure, darling. Meanwhile in reality out of the first two paragraphs alone 8 sentences are about praising your own looks.
Its clear I hit a weak spot on you and thus you are lashing out and accusing me of being a contradiction based off of nothing. Unlike you though I base what I say about what you wrote and not about some assumptations.
Clearly, not only do you have the inability to read but you cannot count as well. What you are saying is a fragment from your pathetic imagination , I only stated twice that I am attractive because that has to do with my take. Instead of nit picking like the little bitch you are , maybe go ahead and try to be useful in society by crying about things that don't affect you. I'm not throwing out accusations , I've seen you on this site for a while. I know exactly what type of person you present yourself to be. You are inconsiderate of others , small minded , petty and a walking contradiction. Perhaps you are flattering yourself to inflate your ego. You could never strike a nerve with me. You are far too weak to ever have that effect. Good day ! Go nitpick somewhere else since it's all you're capable of.
Sentence 1: "I'm a very attractive and confident woman." -> Self-Praise
Sentence 2: "My self-security shows in my upright posture and walk." -> Self-Praise
Sentence 3: "When you have both characteristics, you come off as a woman of power to others" -> Since you apparently has both characteristics (based on what you say) makes this sentence self-praise once again in this context.
Sentence 6: "I get told regularly I should become a model if that isn't the path I have already chosen in life." -> Self-Praise by stating how others think you look good.
Sentence 7: "I am slightly taller than average, I am thin and shapely, I have long limps, and unique facial features." -> Self-Praise by describing yourself in a positive manner.
Sentence 8: "I get complimented regularly by mostly men and some women. I get told I am beautiful, pretty or gorgeous." -> Self-Praise.
None of these have any relevance to the topic of this MyTake. Meaning all you do is praising yourself.
And all I had to do was get to the 8th sentence. If I would have gone on, there is more to come. So its definitely not just two sentences. Welcome reality.
"I've seen you on this site for a while."
I am glad you are thinking of me in your free time. Feel free to tell me whenever I contradict myself. Though I am sure its as realistic as you not praising yourself. Peace, I am out.
Clearly, you were never a writer and if you were one you'd be horrible at it. You cannot let a sentence stand on its own. You need to support it with detail. Those sentences that you took and made it seem individualized, were grouped together to support my ideas. Instead of attempting to pick and tear me down , look to yourself because you are heavily flawed. Those who are intelligent and not ignorant like you are , were able to take from and relate to this article. You're just attempting to pick a petty fight. I'm not even sure you're showing your real age here , you seem extremely immature.
-Claps at another poor attempt to inflate self ego- Answering questions and seeing someones idiotic comments to others , is not called thinking about you in my free time. Again , you've shown your inability to read and comprehend. While you're out , grab a book and develop that skill. It cannot do you any harm, you can only go up from the bottom.
You sound stupid. So , if I were to say it in the second sentence it'd be more believable? Do me a favor , and read the take and understand the message it's sending out. This isn't about proving to the world how hot I am. I know what goes on in my life , it's about having the ability to be able to see someone skin deep rather than being superficial.
Sweet But tbh I think you're one from hundred girl who think so and I respect that But mostly if a girl is pretty he wishes to get a guy who look attaractive and will look good with them..
Why is that white woman being carried away by black men? Why not post an image where a black woman is being carried away by big buff white men instead.
It's funny that in this take I speak about peoples inability to not see past peoples physical appearance. Perhaps , I should create one about peoples inability to not see past color as well.
We've moved progressed far beyond slavery times to hold such high sensitivity and insinuate that each and every photo may some how be racist if the all phenotypes do not match up.
When you see images of mixed couples, its always a black guy and a white woman. Usually the woman is also blond. It's never a white guy and a black woman. Images and commercials have a strong effect on the subconcious mind. So in a way images like that can be called propaganda.
I thought the same thing. More importantly the title is about "unattractive men who get attractive women", so in that pic the blonde woman is the attractive one, which makes the black men unattractive? I don't know, I just had coffee.
One would insinuate that if I didn't show a extremely diesel black man towards the end, and say that he is attractive. I think people always try to find racism and offense in anything. People just can't be happy!
@Homebakedcookies I understand where you are coming from, but the change starts within each and everyone of us. If we are constantly making race an issue then it will always be one. It's one thing to face blatant racism, it's another to look for it when it isn't there. I've made over 120+ takes, some of which dealt with racial issues. I showcased all types of couples in it.
I'm sure you mean well. I'm just pointing out obvious some signs that show tendencies to racism. I'd be glad to help you out with som images of mixed couples to fix that problem.
Again, I've had racial takes where I have showcased all types of couples. I have even showed images similar to what you are showing me right now. I think you have a problem with society in general, not me. If this bothers you (I'm not even trying to be catty), It'd make an interesting take to read about that way everyone can weigh in on what you are speaking about.
So he was actually attractive, not unattractive. And I think he got lucky with you. Not saying he isn't a quality guy, but there aren't many people who would overlook physical appearance just because someone has certainly personality traits. I would know. I'm a short guy who's been rejected because of his height despite having, what I'm told, a great personality.
He's overweight. A lot of people would view that as unattractive. As for his face, I thought he was average/cute. Just the fact that he wasn't handsome , and I am thin & fit looking people think I could have automatically have done better. I really think based on physical looks there is no such thing as being out of someones league. We're all people. However, when you dig to the core of someone (their personality traits), I believe only then it does exist. How tall are u btw?
Some girl I spoke to last night told me when a girl calls a guy cute it means she doesn't find attractive and she's basically feels sorry for the guy. A lot of women must feel sorry for me cause I'm been called cute a lot online but can't get a women to say hi to me in person.
I am referring to the Father of my child that I had a ten year relationship with. Not sure where you're getting single mama's friend. Also , what a shock ! Another bitchy anonymous comment , not surprised. Too much of a wimp to show who u are. Again , no surprise here.
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I am completely uninterested in a person's appearance when it comes to choosing a mate. In fact, I cannot find a persona physically attractive AT ALL if I do not first find them intellectually attractive.
I respect individual women's decision to date men who aren't sexually attractive, but resent the pressure given to all women to forgo sexual attraction.
After all, the male partner is going to want frequent and varied sex - being able to accommodate and even relish this desire is much more satisfactory when you feel genuine SEXUAL desire on your end too.
Nice take. You mind if I write one about unattractive girls and hot guys?
No, not at all :) looking forward to seeing it.
Hah. 0.000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001% of the population.
@JiingJjingi nah it is true it happens
You really said everything that needed to be said. People should mind their own business and not question the decisions of others, principally when it's about relationships.
Such a great take! thanks, i'm wondering about one thing, you said that he has a beautiful personality but with some insecurities towards society.. i'd like to know if he was a shy person?
Upon first meeting him, he comes across as shy, but when he knows you he could be the loudest person in a room :)
I just asked because girls like outgoing guys, so what do you like more in his personality!
Stacy this is a wonderful and inspiring my take. i'm glad you are the wonderful person you are and found that special someone that truly loves you for the wonderful person you truly are.
I've never really thought twice about why an attractive woman dates someone average or below average. It does bother me if a man chooses a butterface over the cute chubby girl. In my opinion, that should never happen. I hate it when guys are with ugly women who are good looking because men are supposed to be more visual. I get it when they pick them for sex only, but not for relationships.
Other than that, I don't care who people date.
Wait I've been waiting to say this to a women but you sound Bitter.
Not really, I love my life. I'm just stating an opinion. Don't know where you get that from... but I guess since you were looking for that opportunity, you saw something in my post, and you jumped at it. Given your username though, I am not surprised.
"It does bother me if a man chooses a butterface over the cute chubby girl" lol thats such a bitter, jealous thing to say. i personaly would choose a butterface over a chub chub like yourself as im an outdoor, sporty guy and require a girl that can keep up. competitive motivated women turn me on, usualy regardless of their looks. besides its not their fault they were not born with a perfect face, but its your fault you choose to hate instead of bettering yourself, you chub chub.
Why is this lowkey you just trying to brag about your "looks" lmfao. If you were that attractive wouldn't you have your picture up?
I am a private person. I don't even have a social media account. I'm not an attention whore, that feels the need to broadcast their photos to seek validation. This site also isn't even for dating , so it's un-necessary to have it up.
Also, I wasn't bragging I was simply just saying I am attractive and describing my looks. Learn the difference.
Since , you've asked me a question , let me ask you one. Why do you feel to poorly attempt to ridicule someone all while checking off the anonymous option like the little nipple sucking bitch you are?
*Why do you feel the need to poorly attempt to ridicule someone all while checking off the anonymous option like the little nipple sucking bitch you are? (Correction)
I think other than a lot of factors, one of the main reasons for this is we do not have a platform, as how our society is shaped (not for social), for everyone to meet everyone. At the end of the day, the types of people one can meet is always limited and from that limited human resources, when one cannot wait any longer, they will find someone at that time they think is right for them, even though it is likely that they are not the best choices.
Half that take is you directly and indirectly praising your own looks. I stopped reading there. Don't know if the other half is of any value.
You're the only person that got that impression , clearly you love twisting peoples words. It's a crime for someone to openly acknowledge that they are attractive , but let someone constantly bash their own looks , then society is there with open arms saying you shouldn't say those things. Matter a fact , people would rather listen to someone criticize themselves over and over rather than someone show confidence because that is society's norm. It's acceptable to beat ur appearance up but not to openly embrace it. People like you are major contradictions and are everything that is wrong with society.
There is a difference between being confident and self-praising. What you were doing the first half of this Take was praising yourself. I could now quote every single sentence of it, but it simply isn't worth the effort. Feel free to re-read it though.
But I am glad you have the read on me that people like me are a major contradiction, because being annoyed by your self-importance clearly equals me enjoying talking down on people. /sarcasm
Yeah, I see this take as nothing to do with me being attractive so why even mention it?
Mentioning myself as an attractive women twice in this take is way too overboard !
How dare I stick to the topic of this take.
I know If I were to speak about how unattractive I am , and curl up into a ball you wouldn't have commented at all. Because that is what you'd rather here and that is the image more acceptable in society. It's a horrified thing to say you are attractive.
Get over yourself contradiction !
Sure, darling. Meanwhile in reality out of the first two paragraphs alone 8 sentences are about praising your own looks.
Its clear I hit a weak spot on you and thus you are lashing out and accusing me of being a contradiction based off of nothing. Unlike you though I base what I say about what you wrote and not about some assumptations.
Clearly, not only do you have the inability to read but you cannot count as well. What you are saying is a fragment from your pathetic imagination , I only stated twice that I am attractive because that has to do with my take. Instead of nit picking like the little bitch you are , maybe go ahead and try to be useful in society by crying about things that don't affect you.
I'm not throwing out accusations , I've seen you on this site for a while. I know exactly what type of person you present yourself to be. You are inconsiderate of others , small minded , petty and a walking contradiction.
Perhaps you are flattering yourself to inflate your ego. You could never strike a nerve with me. You are far too weak to ever have that effect. Good day ! Go nitpick somewhere else since it's all you're capable of.
*be useful in society instead of crying about things that don't affect you.
Sentence 1: "I'm a very attractive and confident woman."
-> Self-Praise
Sentence 2: "My self-security shows in my upright posture and walk."
-> Self-Praise
Sentence 3: "When you have both characteristics, you come off as a woman of power to others"
-> Since you apparently has both characteristics (based on what you say) makes this sentence self-praise once again in this context.
Sentence 6: "I get told regularly I should become a model if that isn't the path I have already chosen in life."
-> Self-Praise by stating how others think you look good.
Sentence 7: "I am slightly taller than average, I am thin and shapely, I have long limps, and unique facial features."
-> Self-Praise by describing yourself in a positive manner.
Sentence 8: "I get complimented regularly by mostly men and some women. I get told I am beautiful, pretty or gorgeous."
-> Self-Praise.
None of these have any relevance to the topic of this MyTake. Meaning all you do is praising yourself.
And all I had to do was get to the 8th sentence. If I would have gone on, there is more to come. So its definitely not just two sentences. Welcome reality.
"I've seen you on this site for a while."
I am glad you are thinking of me in your free time. Feel free to tell me whenever I contradict myself. Though I am sure its as realistic as you not praising yourself. Peace, I am out.
Clearly, you were never a writer and if you were one you'd be horrible at it. You cannot let a sentence stand on its own. You need to support it with detail. Those sentences that you took and made it seem individualized, were grouped together to support my ideas.
Instead of attempting to pick and tear me down , look to yourself because you are heavily flawed. Those who are intelligent and not ignorant like you are , were able to take from and relate to this article. You're just attempting to pick a petty fight. I'm not even sure you're showing your real age here , you seem extremely immature.
-Claps at another poor attempt to inflate self ego- Answering questions and seeing someones idiotic comments to others , is not called thinking about you in my free time.
Again , you've shown your inability to read and comprehend. While you're out , grab a book and develop that skill. It cannot do you any harm, you can only go up from the bottom.
Usually girls that describe themselves as attractive in the first sentence aren't that hot...
You sound stupid. So , if I were to say it in the second sentence it'd be more believable?
Do me a favor , and read the take and understand the message it's sending out. This isn't about proving to the world how hot I am. I know what goes on in my life , it's about having the ability to be able to see someone skin deep rather than being superficial.
You're probably not that hot
Like Jennifer Lawrence saying she's a normal person all the time.
By focusing so much on looks , you are the superficial scumbags I speak of. Good job exposing yourself !
You're stupid
Aside from recycling my insults , what do you have the brain capacity to do?
I agree if I had a nickel every time I heard a girl on here say she's hot?
I could buy the Playboy Mansion.
Sweet
But tbh I think you're one from hundred girl who think so and I respect that
But mostly if a girl is pretty he wishes to get a guy who look attaractive and will look good with them..
Why is that white woman being carried away by black men? Why not post an image where a black woman is being carried away by big buff white men instead.
I knew someone would say this.
It's funny that in this take I speak about peoples inability to not see past peoples physical appearance.
Perhaps , I should create one about peoples inability to not see past color as well.
We've moved progressed far beyond slavery times to hold such high sensitivity and insinuate that each and every photo may some how be racist if the all phenotypes do not match up.
Well. It would be much easier to see beyond the physical appearence if I knew there wasn't a clear pattern going on.
A clear pattern with who?
When you see images of mixed couples, its always a black guy and a white woman. Usually the woman is also blond. It's never a white guy and a black woman. Images and commercials have a strong effect on the subconcious mind. So in a way images like that can be called propaganda.
I thought the same thing. More importantly the title is about "unattractive men who get attractive women", so in that pic the blonde woman is the attractive one, which makes the black men unattractive? I don't know, I just had coffee.
One would insinuate that if I didn't show a extremely diesel black man towards the end, and say that he is attractive.
I think people always try to find racism and offense in anything.
People just can't be happy!
@Homebakedcookies I understand where you are coming from, but the change starts within each and everyone of us. If we are constantly making race an issue then it will always be one.
It's one thing to face blatant racism, it's another to look for it when it isn't there.
I've made over 120+ takes, some of which dealt with racial issues. I showcased all types of couples in it.
I'm sure you mean well. I'm just pointing out obvious some signs that show tendencies to racism. I'd be glad to help you out with som images of mixed couples to fix that problem.
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Again, I've had racial takes where I have showcased all types of couples. I have even showed images similar to what you are showing me right now.
I think you have a problem with society in general, not me.
If this bothers you (I'm not even trying to be catty), It'd make an interesting take to read about that way everyone can weigh in on what you are speaking about.
BIG BUFF WHITE GUY LOL
@Afrochick Is there something on your mind?
True love doesn't create walls
True love builts bridges
:D I agree
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@secondspring logical
So he was actually attractive, not unattractive. And I think he got lucky with you. Not saying he isn't a quality guy, but there aren't many people who would overlook physical appearance just because someone has certainly personality traits. I would know. I'm a short guy who's been rejected because of his height despite having, what I'm told, a great personality.
He's overweight. A lot of people would view that as unattractive. As for his face, I thought he was average/cute. Just the fact that he wasn't handsome , and I am thin & fit looking people think I could have automatically have done better.
I really think based on physical looks there is no such thing as being out of someones league.
We're all people.
However, when you dig to the core of someone (their personality traits), I believe only then it does exist.
How tall are u btw?
Some girl I spoke to last night told me when a girl calls a guy cute
it means she doesn't find attractive and she's basically feels sorry
for the guy. A lot of women must feel sorry for me cause I'm been
called cute a lot online but can't get a women to say hi to me in
person.
"For a great portion of my life, I was made to feel as if my appearance wasn't good enough.. ."
victims... victims everywhere... .
oh and how much does he have? 6 figures? 7 figures? more? girls and especially single mommas need some stability... .
I am referring to the Father of my child that I had a ten year relationship with. Not sure where you're getting single mama's friend.
Also , what a shock ! Another bitchy anonymous comment , not surprised. Too much of a wimp to show who u are. Again , no surprise here.
sometimes, they are sweeter and knows the boundaries, and girls are attracted with their humbleness.
Two facts.
*Beauty is forever subjective
*Judgement is human.
sweggy AF... completely agree
I completely understand that :)
And anonymous is just duh lol
Sure, unattractive guys can get some girls, if they are very rich... but those girls are usually gold diggers.