If you feel as though you have been stuck in a rut in life and nothing ever seems to change, and everyday gets harder and harder to manage, odds are, you aren't really listening to the following 5 pieces of advice.
1. You are afraid or too lazy to work towards change
Every single person is capable of changing their own circumstances, but few want to put the work in that it will actually take to get there. They expect things to "just happen" for them. They just want it all to be handed to them. If you're waiting on that, you will be waiting for a very long time. It is more than fair to say, that some lucky people will and do get those magic big breaks in their lives where things snap into place, but for the vast majority, the only real viable and realistic option is for you to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps and hit the ground running in order to make those changes you need to in your life. Stop waiting around hoping and wondering if, and just do it!
2. You're wasting your time on jealousy
It is perfectly fine to admire what someone else is doing and where they are in their own lives and want the same, but it's not okay to stay stuck being jealous of them and what they are doing. We will often look at someone like an athlete in the Olympics, and say wow, how great that they had perfect scores and won their event, but you didn't see the 20 something years they had to wake up every single morning at 4am to travel 2 hours to get to practice for 8 hours a day on top of their school work, and no social life. You didn't see them miss high school graduation, or birthday parties, or Christmas in order to get to their goals. You're so focused on how easy you think they had it and what this other person is doing, rather than putting focus on you and your own personal journey. What is going to be your "4 am?" Ask yourself, what is going to be your first step, and then when you figure that one out, stay in your own lane. Don't worry if you think everyone else is passing you up, you keep going and keep grinding, and keep working and eventually you'll get there.
3. You've convinced yourself you're stuck
I don't see chains on you, so that means, you aren't stuck. There aren't circumstances in life that you cannot eventually free yourself from. That may be massive debt, a bad marriage, a bad job, a bad apartment. The key is, you're stuck 'right now,' but not forever. Those that want to improve and move on, figure out a strategy to get there and they, guess what, keep working, and keep pushing until they can get out of there.
4. You've let others convince yourself that you're stuck
If it's not you, it's probably someone else in your life whispering in your ear that you're never going to amount to anything, that you're dreams are stupid, that you have no other options. Odds are, those same people, are stuck in their own lives because they are too afraid to make moves and shake things up and work hard, so they project those insecurities and that shame onto you. That only becomes a major problem when you learn to listen to it, rather than ignore it. You can do better than what you're doing if you want to and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.
5. You're allowing your past to hold on to you
Simply put, you feel as though, or unaware of the fact that you can't let go of something in the past and it is absolutely controlling your potential future. It's this mentality of, I was hurt once, and that's all I've ever be. I'll let whoever hurt me, control me, and dictate why I remain stuck and spinning my wheels in the same place everyday, every month, every year. There are people round the world that have been through trauma, depression, tremendous pain and hurt, but rather than let it define them and hold them back, they work on it. It's not to say everyone just gets cured after they start to work on it, it's to say that when you can recognize the past holding you down for what it is, you can tackle it head on and go through what you need to go through, get the help you do, and reach out to others, so you can get to a better place and allow yourself to see the options available in your life.
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