What Is It To Be A Man?

[Philyouup]

We have been shown what a man is though our tv sets, movies and from our fathers

The first two are romanticized versions of manhood. Strong, masculine, never afraid, he always has the answers. He is kind and understanding, but firm and respected.

A real Man?

Reality, is we learn a lot from our fathers. Flawed individuals, that only have their own experience to work from. And when we become men, we take what we learn, and apply that to our own lives, adding or removing what does and doesn’t work.

To me, to be a man, one must have an ethic something that keeps him morally centered.

Mine is simple…

· Have respect for all, regardless of what they can or cannot do for you. (William Phelps)

· Do unto others has you would have others do unto you. (Matthew 7:12)

· Find out what is hateful to others, and then don’t do that. (Hillel the elder)

These paraphrased from the credited sources

I also believe being a man is doing the right thing, no matter how hard it is. Thinking of how your actions will affect others around you, namely your family and in particular your children.

To provide for your family, to be a pillar and know that people can count on you, but understanding your limitations.

To be a husband, that is a full partner in the relationship, to understand compromise, and identify fairness and equity. To know that understanding a person’s position doesn’t mean you have to agree with it. And to make sure his spouse feels loved.....

Finally You are a real man when people still remember your actions and beliefs, and carry them on to their children..

What about those who are not fathers? The same applies, your action, your ethic, you mark on the world and how it is honored still applies.

Never a man!

[curiousscorpio89]

For me personally. The following characteristics define a well rounded, strong man. Responsibilty, accountability, dependability, leadership, humbleness, selflessness, self awareness, respect, honesty, compassion, conviction, resilience, confidence, and passion. I could go on and on. But these are the qualities that I strive for. I think self awareness, the drive for self improvement, and a strong moral compass are the most important of all. Not letting your pride or ego dictate your actions and behavior is another big one. Thinking before you speak, never belittling others, loving your loved ones and never being afraid to show that love. Not being afraid of emotion, but rather embracing it, a real man is never scared to show emotion. Admitting our fears to ourselves, and having the courage to face them. Being a leader and setting an example for your loved ones through your actions. Channeling our anger and temper in positive and constructive ways, rather than being violent or self destructive. Showing emotional strength in times of hardship. Never wavering from your morals, and standing up for those that are weaker than you. Protecting your loved ones and children no matter what.

[Philyouup]

Excellent! thanks for sharing your idea of what a man is!

[Sienna-Rose]

That’s the type of integrity I look for in a man.

[Zeqhanis]

That really just describes what every human should aspire to, regardless of sex. TV, our fathers, our mothers, our girlfriends, and society as a whole have never shown us what it is to be a man, they've merely told what it is to be a man. There's quite a difference.

We are shackled by the expectations of a society which itself was led upon this path by its predecessors. We've been taught the men are disposable, that our feelings, our pain, that which makes us human, are undesirable weaknesses. It's a very alienating process; the denial of that which is innate to our species.

Again, what you are describing is human decency. That knows no boundaries, least of all gender.

[Philyouup]

And that is my point..

[YeetMama]

Being a man is being born with those biological parts. Being a decent human being is something everyone should strive for, dispite our flaws

[Philyouup]

And I agree... But I think people get raped in some ALPHA male crap, and being a decent human being is what it should be about.

[Philyouup]

Rapped... not raped.. Shit... we need an edit button...

[Wally48]

Wrapped?

[Wally48]

But seriously those are pretty good traits you mentioned. It may not be inclusive but if men generally did that stuff there would be fewer people on SNAP cards Section 8 housing and in the domestic court system.

[Wally48]

Not to mention messed up little boys and girls.

[Lovi87]

And women shouldn't hit men either. Just wanted to say that.

[Lovi87]

If he's groping her, though? then he does deserve a slap, or a kick in the balls.

[giovannimontolivo]

Similarly then, if a female is groping a man and he doesn't like it, then she does deserve a slap or a kick in the vagina.

[Lovi87]

@giovannimontolivo Well, maybe a kick in the balls is too much, just like a kick to the vagina is too much. But yeah, he should slap her. Or warn her like a woman should too.

[Lovi87]

Men are stronger than women, and if a man doesn't like it, then he should definitely move her hand away. Simple as that.

[giovannimontolivo]

I get what you are saying, but part of hitting back is commanding respect. If a woman bitch slaps you and you just "moves her hand away," odds are she will probably do it again. But if he hits back with a proper slap just once, I doubt she would ever try to hit him again. It doesn't matter too much that men are stronger. That's like me going up to a gorilla and slapping it in the face, then being surprised and offended when it proceeds to rip my arm off.

[Lovi87]

@giovannimontolivo Gorilla's are different than humans lol. Men have brains (most men at least haha). Just warn her, "Slap me again. I dare you." and I bet you any money, she won't. I've NEVER slapped a man.

[RolandCuthbert]

Been there did that. Looks like your take is getting a better reception. I guess now the people here are beginning to realize men have to define what it means to be masculine. Maybe then feminism won’t be such a threat to them.

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[Philyouup]

Exactly, feminism has never been a threat to me. Never will be.

[RolandCuthbert]

But many men at GaG depend on women to inform their definition masculinity. Thats why feminism is such a threat to them. If they could only define their idea of manhood outside of what women do or think they would actually have a definition and a standard of manhood that would not be threatened. But too many do not understand that.

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[englisc]

I think that that main traits of a "real man", as described by Jack Donovan in his book "The Way Of Men" are strength, courage, competence, and honour. I think that most things that you say have to do with being a man are linked with those things, and I don't think anybody would agree that a weak, cowardly, incompetent and dishonourable man is a real man. We all have flaws of course, none of us are ideal, but those are ideals that I think that most men should strive to be.

[CharlieUnicorn]

I don't disagree, but it's too detailed for me.

It starts making sense if you don't regard men/mqasculine and women/feminine as true opposites. Instead the real opposites are boys - men and girls - women.

"Man" is the adult title of people born with a male sex basically.
You are a man when the majority of what you are is an adult rather than a juvenile person, when your level of responsibility and lifestyle choices is past 50% to the adult side of things.

[shades777]

You have an ideal perspective of what a man is, but in truth a man is whatever he sets or doesn't set himself to be.

As a society we have agreed that a respectable man takes care of the community, family, and brotherhood.

But a man can also be a tyrant, king, murderer, coward, hero, villian, and so forth.

there's no one definition of a man.

[Philyouup]

we all have our own ideas of manhood.. Honour should always a part of that.. other wise you just a male..

[shades777]

That's my point, we have the ideal man that we respect as a society, but all other forms are also men too, it's just that we don't respect them based on our ideals.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

This guy is still a man.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MSnWGs_siqw

[Philyouup]

while I dont condone anyone laying hands on anyone, the point of this video isn't about being a man... it was about being in an others shoes... basically.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

My point is this does not emasculate him

[Philyouup]

No one has the power to emasculate you , only you can give that power to somebody..

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I posted this because I saw the lasted picture

[Philyouup]

understood, I still would not lay a hand on anyone, unless to defend myself.

[Lovi87]

I don't agree with her slapping him because it wasn't his fault that the damn bus threw him forward. Stupid bitch ha-ha.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Lovi87 Yeah he's just returning the favor. I was just implying that last picture on his mytake means guys shouldn't hit a woman at any cause.

[Philyouup]

We should not.. every except to defend oneself.

[Lovi87]

Well, I agree they shouldn't... but some women do deserve a slap, but not a full on punch.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

There's that exception I wanna hear.

[Joves]

Being a man is to be swift as the coursing river, with all the force of a great typhoon, with all the strength of a raging fire; to be mysterious as the dark side of the moon.

[GreatnessBack]

"Reality, is we learn a lot from our fathers."

Didn't have one. Had to learn the hard way, but totally agree with this.

[Philyouup]

I was a little short sighted in regards to folks like yourself.. My apologies,

[Anonymous]

Whatever you do, never allow anyone to include as part of a being a man the notion that a man has to continue to raise a child that he was tricked into believing was his. Because the common line about how any man can be a daddy but it takes a real man to be a father. Only fair if the man in question knew what he was getting into.

[Opinion Owner]

*is only fair

[Philyouup]

WTF...

[Browneye57]

Not bad. You could learn a thing or two here: www.therationalmale.com

Rollo Tomassi is pretty sharp. And no, it's not all about what your family or TV told you. There's a lot that is left unsaid, or simply misunderstood.

[wootamandawoot41]

first sensible thing youve said! lets have a knock and find out!

[Browneye57]

@wootamandawoot41 - Now you are stalking me. LOL

[wootamandawoot41]

this was awhile ago haha

[Browneye57]

@wootamandawoot41 - Funny, you answer Q's about the way I do.
The prettier and younger browneye. LOL From Irleand? Hmmm, my heritage is Scottish. Grandpa was born of a hand-maiden from an affair with a baron of scotland. A true bastard child. :)

[wootamandawoot41]

Crumlin's own and dont you disrespect it. scottish eh. can you smack a golf ball around?

[Browneye57]

@wootamandawoot41 - No, not a golfer. I guess the invented it there. Boring fukkin game. ;)
About like watching grass grow. Scenery is generally nice however.

Now we're jacking this guy's thread. LOL

[wootamandawoot41]

irish coasts are nice by the sea.

[Browneye57]

@wootamandawoot41 - Absolutely. It's on my bucket list. ;)
I can fly into London or Edinburgh and rent a GS - just like the one I ride here. Tour for a week, see the sites, the old country. Beats the hell out of a tour bus, eh? ;)

[wootamandawoot41]

ha thats sure does

[ashleyb93]

Being responsible, considerate, determined, accepting and loyal to your commitments. Basically just being a decent person. That's really all it takes.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for sharing your personal opinion of what you think a man is. But let's be clear here that what you've really done is provide a list traits generally associated with good people, regardless of their gender. So they are really not about being a man at all.

Do you believe there are any differences between what makes a good man and what makes a good woman? If so, what are they?

[Philyouup]

Yes you are right, and it does have everything to do with being a man... and if you want to get technical, a good woman as well... Thanks for you input!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. Can you please answer my question?

[Philyouup]

I thought I did

[Opinion Owner]

In that case I guess you must be suggesting there are no differences between being a good man and being a good woman.

[crazydewd]

Being a man is providing for your household. Even if it means your significant other is helping provide. It means keeping your word, working hard, and standing tall against the wave of life.

[OfDeath]

https://youtu.be/JnT_AA8Yvq4

[candycanehearts]

omg I read the do unti others thing like 10 times and i still dont understand it

[RIVERTAY888]

l love your take its a male that lifts his hand to a Girl/woman not a man

[Angelina25]

Well said!

[Philyouup]

Thanks Angelina25

[xEmmorixX]

Does it still apply if the girl is a bit of a masochist?
Something that's between them personally and in the bedroom.

[StingRayxoxo]

That’s definitely different.

[xEmmorixX]

Ok thank you just making sure.

[hans1416]

As long as you fight to end the leftist ideology, you are a man.

[Philyouup]

What? Put the pipe down bucky... :)

[hans1416]

leftists take drugs, i don't

[BonnieBunny]

Be a man-have a penis
Be a gentleman- Have a good personality and be polite

[Anonymous]

Knows everything, likes as**s and only cares about finding the hot test woman

[Philyouup]

To me, that's not a real man.. its selfishness, not manhood..