We have been shown what a man is though our tv sets, movies and from our fathers
The first two are romanticized versions of manhood. Strong, masculine, never afraid, he always has the answers. He is kind and understanding, but firm and respected.
Reality, is we learn a lot from our fathers. Flawed individuals, that only have their own experience to work from. And when we become men, we take what we learn, and apply that to our own lives, adding or removing what does and doesn’t work.
To me, to be a man, one must have an ethic something that keeps him morally centered.
Mine is simple…
· Have respect for all, regardless of what they can or cannot do for you. (William Phelps)
· Do unto others has you would have others do unto you. (Matthew 7:12)
· Find out what is hateful to others, and then don’t do that. (Hillel the elder)
These paraphrased from the credited sources
I also believe being a man is doing the right thing, no matter how hard it is. Thinking of how your actions will affect others around you, namely your family and in particular your children.
To provide for your family, to be a pillar and know that people can count on you, but understanding your limitations.
To be a husband, that is a full partner in the relationship, to understand compromise, and identify fairness and equity. To know that understanding a person’s position doesn’t mean you have to agree with it. And to make sure his spouse feels loved.....
Finally You are a real man when people still remember your actions and beliefs, and carry them on to their children..
What about those who are not fathers? The same applies, your action, your ethic, you mark on the world and how it is honored still applies.