I asked a white friend of mine this question out of sheer curiosity.
He said he's just unconditionally not physically attracted to Black Women.
It's odd. He's into pretty much every other ethnicity.
And his girlfriend is of Mexican descent.
The conversation went something like:
Me: "Curious inquiry. Why aren't you attracted to black women?"
Him: "I don't know. I've just never found them attractive. Too dark for me, I guess. I don't really know. I've never really pondered it."
Me: "That's understandable, although I have to take notice. I've seen you acknowledge attraction to significantly dark-skinned women of other non-black ethnic groups. Like darker than some lighter-skinned black women, but never any attraction to these light-skinned black women. Why is that? Do you think it has something to do with facial features?"
Him: "I don't even think it's that. Well, I don't know. It might be. I don't think I've ever really taken the time to observe the differences in the facial features of different ethnic groups and compare my attraction to each, you know? So I guess it's possible."
Me: "So then it's just kind of an instant unconscious write-off?"
Him: "Something like that, maybe. It's like I'm looking at girls in a group, but I'm not really checking out the black ones. It's like 'hmmm, black chick, that's cool', but my mind doesn't really wander any further."
Me: "So it's kind of like a generic, pre-programmed lack of interest?"
Him: "Yea, kinda. Like, I see a picture of Beyonce or someone and I can definitely appreciate the aesthetic beauty of her, but I don't just get the urge to go and do her."
I should probably also note that I'm pretty much his only black friend.
But that was about the extent of it.
There's little scientific insight you'll get into this inquiry without a vast demographic study.
Perhaps someone will answer with a bit more personal insight as opposed to 2nd-party.
Part of the problem is that black women proclaimed for years that they only wanted black men, and now they're suddenly acting interested in white guys. It seems contrived in a way, like "what changed?" People in general tend to go where they're wanted. White guys have been considered a joke in black culture and comedy for years, so why would any self-respecting white guy want to marry into a family that would treat him in a negative way?
The other issue is that white guys have other choices in who we date. We don't have to limit ourselves to one race the way that black women traditionally have. So even if you find a white guy who's into black women, you're competing against all other women, not just available black women.
I don't think there is anything wrong with a white man dating a black woman. I'm all for interracial relationships and support the people in my life who have one. I think it boils down to attraction/preference. Like some guys are into slim chicks, some are into curvy, and then there are the few who like big girls. Some like blondes, some like redheads. Some like black women, some like white. I had a white friend who only dated outside his race. So I don't think there is something wrong with black women, it's just more common for white men to be attracted to white women.
I'm mixed with black and I haven't had any problems with attention from all races. I am mostly into white guys also and some Hispanics. Many white men have told me that I'm one of the only girls mixed with black that they have ever been attracted to and I've never understood why. I'm sure it really has to do with where you live maybe? I'm trying to help
I think men of different races see the stereotypical black women and that's part of it and what they see in media.
When I was in school two of my friends (who are white guys) asked me if I thought black women were the loudest of every race. And I told them no and they seemed surprised.
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Well this is purely speculation on my part, but it seems a good portion of men(note what I didn't say 'all men') that like to be in control and even more so push 'their women' around. It seems to be general consensus that black females are more headstrong and won't put up with such crap from anyone, which may be why these sorts of men would steer clear. Other than that I know in many places still unfortunately it is looked down upon as 'diluting your kind' which is ridiculous, but places such as Arkansas in the USA (where half my family is from) still have that mentality in a large portion of their areas. As a result of that people who may otherwise not take issue with it, simply don't want to bring upon themselves the hassle others would cause them. I'm a white guy, and can't think of someone I wouldn't date just because their skin isn't the same color as mine.
I'm a white man, and I think it's hot to see a black woman with a white man. Then again, to me it can be very kinky.
One of my fetishes to be a sex slave for a black woman. I love the idea of a black woman using me for her sexual pleasure. Telling me what to do, when to do it, and most importantly, HOW to do it better. I love the idea of having to ask for permission to cum. I like the idea of her telling me when and where to cum. I love the idea of her telling her girlfriends that the sex with a white man is SO much better than with a black man. I like the idea of her bragging to her girlfriends that, when it comes to sex, I'm her sex slave.
I would love to hear your comments/questions on it. nothingtosee@yahoo. com
i think this maybe to do with the sterotype of things. some guys still have the mentality that they should not be attracted to another race while others may be just stubborn and some may not like other races. but every race is the same really. I am part brazilian and part italian raised in england and here the different backgroudn dating is not really seen as much of an issue as it is there in america. I think black girls are beutiful just as much as I think any girl is beutiful. I would definitly date a black girl but race would not be an issue whatsoever with me. the guys you like may have that mentality in their head that they do not like you but who knows. they do not know you enough to realise and allow themselves to like you. good luck
i know a white guy that will only date black girls and he is really hot. are you from the ghetto at all? well that's were it would be very easy to find them. Not saying anything bad about the ghetto but that's what I know is a fact.
Here's my response to a similar thread:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1166851-why-do-guys-who-don-t-like-black-women-keep-talking-about-black-women
Maybe it's just where you live.
Although there are plenty of people who go by stereotypes and believe black girls=ghetto.
From my understanding black women do not like white men. Perhaps some do but higher percentage of Asians and white prefer white men.
I'm a white guy seeing a black girl now. Been seeing her nearly two years. So don't let those guys make you think all white guys are like that.
I like only black and Hispanic women. I would go out with you in a heartbeat probably
Perhaps many think that black women are not attracted to white men
I am attracted to black women and I am a White man
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