DO NOT APPROACH US! WE are not always out to meet guys, and even if we are, we are just as picky as you if not pickier. Do you approach every girl or pick the ones you find attractive? Well, we only respond the way you want to the ones we find attractive. Honestly, go out to have fun with your friends and do that! If real sexual chemistry exists between you and another girl at the bar/club/party, you'll find yourself drawn to her as well as notice her pulling you in as well. THAT IS WHEN YOU APPROACH and show you are a confident gentleman with a gorgeous smile and zest for life!
Also, if the chemistry is real, all you have to do is walk over, smile, and say hi. You'll both naturally make it work. Don't be the salmon swimming up stream. If you feel the strenuous effort, and the chemistry is not naturally taking you both down stream together, you are most likely wasting your time.
Problem is many girls like to play hard to get. Many times as soon as I feel resistance I walk away. Then I've had girls get snotty, because I didn't chase them enough.
@Viperkiss I agree and I have a mho that says :"I'm the easiest guy to talk to and I won't turn her down... all she has to do is ask etc" YA KNO I'M basically doing the exact opposite of what the average girl would. Which is what you said "MAKE US WASTE OUR TIME GOING THROUGH A LOT OF USELESS BS/PLAYING HARD TO GET" like bruh I ain't got time for these games lol
girls playing hard to get are DRAMA! don't be fooled from the start with that. if you really want more then just sex with a girl, find someone who is genuine! but, don't confuse shy with hard-to-get. shy is cute and all those signs of fidgeting, stumbling over their words, and blushing are go-signs!
Lol... sort of but that's so meh. It's hard to tell what people are really thinking and you can't see "chemistry" necessarily. And even if you could there is a lot of risk for guys nowadays with sexual harassment lawsuits and what not.
So... guys also have options in at least some instances. So if the girls are satisfied with the options they have then all is well. If they are not then it seems only reasonable to conclude that they will have to prove themselves to said guys, no?
Also, by being honest with your interests and expectations, you won't be manipulating anyone into situations they realize they don't want to be in, too late.
I personally don't have a problem approaching women, at the right place and the right time. Sometimes it works sometimes she completely ignores me and walks away. LoL. But I think that's cause of my personality. At the same time (don't mean to brag) women have approached me and some of them have been successful while others not so much. For women to kick back and say "oh well, I'm afraid of rejection." Is just a lame cop out cause men can use the exact same excuse. All I can say is get out more often have fun and do what feels natural. Be confident in who you are, and have fun in most everything you do.
I don't want anyone approaching me. I'll approach people (not as like directly trying to woo them, I'll get close as a friend) if I think they're interesting and it's pretty hard to be what I like. I don't like when guys approach me even if I like them and they def don't have to.. so go ahead I love what you're saying and I think girls should have just as much responsibility as guys do. I hate inequality in every way. I'm not a one-sided feminist, as in I only support girls or anything like that. I think everything equal is the best way and that's the only thing I support.
Here's one reason and it's a heck of a one. I'm not a girl, but I know a lot about some of their personality types, by the way.
Some girls are shy, or don't want to seem open about things like approaching and asking guys out. Sure, if they're confident about themselves, they very well MIGHT approach you, but that's something that barely ever happens.
There's a whole lot of girls who aren't arrogant or self-entitled. Heck, I know for a fact that they may seem that way, but on the inside they're quite the opposite. What do I mean by this? I don't know, you tell me.
Nice response and you're welcome to answer also as a guy ^^. by the way I only made this question to get a laugh out of the replies on it and not for myself personally.
Speaking from experience, approaching guys doesn't necessarily work better. He has to be into you already or just DTF. And what if we did; we'd probably approach most (if not only) guys we found attractive. The percentage of guys we approach is usually smaller in comparison to guys. So the majority of guys still wouldn't appoach lol.
... Now that I think about it, we do. We approach guys we find really attractive. But most of us don't just come up to a guy and say "Hey, handsome, how's your day going" xD Were just not as ballsy ahahhaa
And if we don't we hint that we are interested. (Cowardly but yeahh )
"Hey, handsome, how's your day going" That's exactly how the last 8 have done me ya know "NO GAMES JUST STRAUGHT UP told me how she felt" AND IT FELT SO GOOD BECAUSE WE CUT THROUGH ALL THE BULLSHIT that was supposed to take place lolol
I tried approaching guys before, but he just wanted to screw around or at least that's the feeling I got from him. I get the feeling that when you dk approach a guy and flirt they think you want to f**k or get physical. When you tell them no, they're like what did you expect, im a guy?
Maybe it's just the guys I'm approaching. But tbh I can't tell what he wants from me or even if he's interested in getting to know me unless he approaches me. If I know the guy I approach him, but I don't approach strangers anymore xD
fI know the guy I approach him, but I don't approach strangers anymore xD
I'm the same way in the sense that I only approach girls that I even know a little BUT for strangers I let them come to me because you can't just walk up to anybody these days and start a convo with them lol
Not cowardly, it's feminine. Don't beat yourself up for something that culture caused. It used to be more simple until our culture said that guys who approach women are rapists or something and that they only want women for their bodies. It's fear mongering and it's false. Guys approached women for thousands of years it's only within the last one hundred years or so that it became inappropriate for guys to do so. It's just a big mess right now.
My suggestion would be to approach guys as friends (so they won't be afraid you'll sue them for sexual harassment) and then flirt with them (even subtly) to express your interest. Then let them make the official first move. That way everyone wins.
It only has to be that complicated because of our warped culture.
On the bigger picture, it's just the way it is. Women will always have higher demand than men in the dating game and they can afford it. Plus they have less must-haves that men are looking for. Hell as long as she's pretty we'll date her. Women need men who have confidence, a good job or career, make her feel good, etc. Of course it sucks but unless the entire male population decides to go on a "sex and relationship strike", there's close to no way of changing it in society right now. Maybe in a hundred years the societal expectations of women will change and fit accordingly.
The more important question: Why should women approach you? What is that you have that compels a woman to break a dating norm? That's not a diss or anything and that's meant as motivation to set yourself apart from everyone. Once you find that out, you can function without those societal limits. Women will want to flock to you because you have something they don't know about you but will want to find out.
For me it doesn't matter. Guy's can come up and talk to me or ask me out. If I'm wanting to talk to a guy or ask him out. I will go up to him and talk/ask. I suck at waiting around for things to happen, lol. Most of the guys I had dated I ended up being the first to say I had a crush on them and stuff. Yes my face was bright red and I was nervous out of my mind. But I still did it, lol. Plus I see trying to talk to other guys or girls as away to self improve. To work on your fear/nervousness when it comes to approaching and trying to talk to anyone.
I don't think we absolutely have to be approached I only expect it because it happens anyway lol but not the in the way that a lot of women feel like they should not approach men. If I am interested in someone I will not only show interest in them but also approach him in a way that he understands that I want to get to know him. Sometimes hints are given but they are not taken so I am always direct but still flirty. The main reason why I choose to approach guys is because waiting won't get you nowhere in life and that goes for pursing someone as well. If you want someone you have to get them them how will they know if you don't show and it takes the pressure off of men when women just have the confidence to show interest. The other reason why I approach men is because I feel like in order for me to have the guy that I want I have to seek him out. If you just accept only guys that come your way then you may never find your ideal mate.
See yes guys get turned down but how are you approaching them. When n where has a lot to do with it. Who is this girl? Why are you trying to approach her?
Lots of us like for guys to talk to us in a certain way. Not mentionng ur clothes n body language. You have to know how there's a difference when u at the street n a club where is more expected.
With that been said, we girls do approach me but not hey cutie giv me ur number, which sum do lol. But we mostly start a conversation n hoping the guy find us interesting n ask for our num. Cuz girls dont chase guys. As arrogant as it may sound. So if you not catching how we trying to gt at ya then i dont know what to tell ya. U might end up with a kitty lol.
This is what I have been wondering ever since I hit puberty! I can't, for the life of me, approach women due to my morbid dear of rejection. Haven't done it my life, not gonna do it ever, even if I'm forced at gunpoint. The insult and humiliation of knowing that I wasn't 'good enough' for the woman I liked, is much worse than actually remaining single forever.
If women approach me, well and good (although they're unlikely to do that, since I'm just a common man who doesn't have the looks of Tom Cruise or the wealth of Bill Gates). If not, then I'll just remain single all my life. Don't mind that one bit.
I didn't make this take for me personally but to laugh at the replies that I knew I was going to be getting NOT YOURS... I like it and your 2nd paragraph speaks volumes about women
Girls, by nature, are usually more afraid of rejection, or are more blatant at showing emotion when it happens. Also, we're trapped in this role that it's not okay for a girl to make the first move. I tried once, and the guy was very sweet and said no, but after that I was kind of discouraged. It happens; I think a lot of girls heard that it's okay for us to tell guys how we really feel but are shot down so often that we stop trying and wait for our "Prince Charmings" to come along and sweep us off our feet. It's not good, and I don't think that guys should always have to approach girls. In fact, I think that girls should "Woman Up" and approach guys.
This is a really great question and one I have been baffled over for years. The women want you to approach and do all of the initial work to make dates etc etc. However,... and this is big... the women are the ones who hold the power in advancing the relationship. If you try to ask "do you want to be my girlfriend"? they will be more than likely to stop dating you. They come to that decision when they are ready and they hold the power. It sucks, it really does because we have no say in the relationship aspect of it. It doesn't matter if we really like a girl we have been dating, its just not up to us. Girls have the pick of the lot. The only thing we are responsible for it seems is the initial approach phase.
I'M GLAD that you see my point also and I was trying to tell a guy on this question tha named Phoenix98 and another named thatguy88 LOL
I said something along this lines of this to 1 of them WHICH IS FUCKING SAD but true.. ". "cast your fishing rod to see if they bite, then throw back all of the ones that ya don't need or don't like"-jokerthebailsbondsman LOL" SMH
LOLOLOL girls are shits. but guys are just as bad. Usually its the unattractive girls that somehow have the courage to approach the guys, you may take their numbers but won't text them. lolol
@sugarchateau WE WON'T MARRY THEM usually ^^ but you can bet your ass that we'll talk to them. Simply because they aren't going to play hard to get NOR put their pussy on a pedestal LOL.
That's why It seems that most guys these days cheat with a ugly girl because they are going to do what it takes to keep any man happy that was nice enough to give them the time of day. They usually have personalities also it seems, since they can't WOW YOU with their looks LOL
@Corsair427 We guys hold power too. If you didn't want to progress further in the relationship, you could bail at any time. I'm actually sick of reading questions from girls on here about guys who have done exactly that.
It's mutual. Neither one can really get ahead of the other or its just a boundary violation.
I dont think there are "ugly girls", its personal opinion. I've gone after girls my friends say were just literally 1s or 2s. But it didn't matter to me, I just liked them. They eventually gave me the lets just be friends speech anyhow. However if a girl ever liked me enough to make an effort and show me she liked me then she would be my world and deserve the best. Problem is no girl has done this, yet when I do make effort they complain its too much and never text back. This is typical behavior. I know who I am and worked too damn hard in my life to just give it all to some girl who doesn't care. I used to be treated horribly by girls and told I would never find one that would like me. So far its true and I've never actually had a girlfriend because of this. But recently I learned to look at myself differently and I know what I bring to the table, and its their loss.
With all due respect, this post reeks of insecurity and submission. If you, the Asker, or any guy present yourself/himself to women in such an emasculated state, they'll see it, likely use it to their advantage, and inevitably lose interest. You will not be equal to someone until you believe you are.
Ahh, hmm I don't know how to answer this, because yeah we as men can be dogs/chasing girls all day and it's considered cool by societies standards. But at the end of the day, a girl still all the power ^^. She can either accept a guy OR at least make the convo flow easier etc
While us as guys are usasually the ones who have to put ourselves out there and risk it all so usually when it a guy approaching a normal girl things seem to be a lot harder than a girl approaching a normal guy. I could just be blowing hot air, since I have nothing to back that up LOL
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Lmao tell me about it man, Ain't nothing like sitting in the gym, school, mall etc and just having a girl walk up to you talking. Most men can/should be able to keep that convo going because now she is trying to sweet talk you OR find out more about you. Usually in the end you can have her number and potentially do the whole 9 yards etc
Woman to man = good chance of success/almost done deal if she looks average or is considered cute by the guy.
Haha no worries about the down vote. I wouldn't have thought it was you anyway. :)
It's true that, generally speaking, men do have to go out on more of a limb, putting themselves out there more so than women. I totally agree.
The flip side to that coin is that, being a woman, you basically are told to sit back and just wait until the right type of guy falls into your lap. Basically, you're told NOT to be proactive in finding love. It's not difficult to imagine that being equally infuriating, albeit for different reasons.
All of this just underscores how damn hard it really is to find love and to make it happen. When it does happen, people should really learn to embrace it because it ain't easy.
The flip side to that coin is that, being a woman, you basically are told to sit back and just wait until the right type of guy falls into your lap. Basically, you're told NOT to be proactive in finding love. It's not difficult to imagine that being equally infuriating, albeit for different reasons.
WELL DAMN, perfect choice of words I must say ^^. I never thought about it in that fashion ^^
"Social rules (which, as you said, are admittedly fading) dictate that we can ask out and pursue whomever we want."
I go back and forth on that one. I'm really not sure if that's an advantage or not. Furthermore, I've known more than a few women who disagree with you. When I asked my sister why she never asked anyone out she responded, "Because I don't have to." My wife gave a similar response once.
@Bluemax I can understand that. I guess I'd counter that the following:
If someone asked me why I was okay with approaching women (rather than the opposite), I suppose I'd just answer that I like it this way.
Here's my guess: men and women who have become pessimistic about their chances at success probably both bemoan the social rules that are in place. Women, for it not bringing them the "right guy," and men, for having to face lots of rejection and never feel what it's like to hold that kind of "power."
I don't think it's anyone's job to ask you out. Well, you can confess your feelings when you realize that none of you are making any moves and you just can't hold back your feelings. What's the worse that can happen? They will reject you, right? But anything that is seriously disastrous is to spend your whole life without telling the other person that they are loved. Even if they can't reciprocated those feelings, but it's a good feeling that you are giving to someone you love. P. S. I was the one who confessed my feelings to a guy. Even though it didn't work out because the guy didn't want anything serious, but I feel like I have done something courageous! :)
@JustinX9 if they are single, don't have a crush on someone else and are looking for relationship, I don't know why hold back. Rejection is one of the worst feelings, but I have experienced that something worse than rejection is holding your feelings back.
easier said than done... i dont know if you know the feeling to be single like forever... never been in a relationship... girls are simply not attracted to me that is why i always hold back... i did confess to a girl i like before but i never got a reply she just avoided it not to cause any awkward moment between us we were good friends when i was in high school.. currently she have a relationship... but i'm not the person that is forceful to someone who doesn't like me the way i like her
"easier said than done" - It would have been applicable if I have not confessed to someone. I did, and it's not easy, but it's worth it.
"i dont know if you know the feeling to be single like forever... never been in a relationship" - I have NEVER dated in my life. But the thing is, we shouldn't be afraid of being single. It's cool to be single. Love will happen when it's meant to happen. You can force relationships but not love.
" girls are simply not attracted to me that is why i always hold back." In school, not a single guy seemed interested me. I looked really bad. When I passed out, I improved myself and my appearance, and surprisingly, not only the guys in college but those popular guys of HS seem interested in me now. So, improve yourself!
"in addition all the girls i've crushed on always have crush or bf" - I can't emphasize it enough. Don't fall for the girls who might have interest in someone else. As soon as you find yourself falling, please limit the communication.
The guy I confessed to didn't even reply to me right away. It was only after sometime that he told me that he wasn't looking for a relationship despite liking me. though confessing my feelings raised my confidence. Yes, it sucks! But it's always the best thing to confess. @JustinX9
good thing popular guys are coming to you... i tried my best to change the way i look like my hair, clothes, talk to people. still no avail... no one compliments me but that would help since i have a low self esteem... pretty girls will never lay their eyes on me... yeah i know its good to be single but i never been in a relationship... my colleagues are happy with their relationships and some of them are married and have kids already... i feel i'm left behind... well i did avoid the girls who like someone else but i can hear them saying behind me that i'm conceited and never give them my attention to them... hmmm i dont really understand why am i stuck in this situation where most of the things i do always fail. hmmm maybe i'm just fond of keeping my love in silence
I don't really think anyone can answer this question. It sucks, but the truth is that's just how society and gender roles developed. I think maybe it started like that so long ago and people just accepted it and it's just normal. I think it's starting to change a little now though and it's becoming more accepted for girls to ask out/pick up guys because feminism is becoming more widely accepted (most people misinterpret the word feminism and it actually is trying to achieve equality not female rule). Also, I believe it's because women were and are in some situations considered very lesser so the men got to pick out their women and the women didn't really have a choice. It just evolved into modern society so sorry guys but hopefully it will change and be equal like other gender role problems we have now.
What makes a girl special is their Uniqueness you will never find the same type of girl with the same personal. Though some girls may act like they are special and believe that a guy owes them something. Its possibly the fact that they are seeking attention and to be recognized. How you approach a girl that you like should have some sort of balance. Like everything in life three major don'ts that one should be aware of Don't be too forward, Don't be to shy, and Don't give to much attention to her. In having a sense of balance you will most definitely have a much easier life when approaching a girl. Be simple, be kind, and be caring. You'll do fine. :D Good luck guys.
Deep question though answer needs to be just as deep. lol :p Here's question number 2 from me You didn't know I was a moderate Tomboy until now so here's the question Why say that you like Tomboys when you possibly (not saying that you don't know or do know) don't know the person yet? This is deep think on it :) I am not trying to criticize you just asking a question.
Umm when talking to me, say what ya want, how ya want and when ya want ^^. I won't get offended OR whatever
I said I like tomboys because it do (cute low maintenance/feisty tomboys) AND cute jealous/clingy girls etc
I don't know something about your response just said "this can't be a girly girl talking like that, seems a little more fair (your answer) than a normal girls ^^
Thanks just don't want to offend you. For me what makes me a none girly girl is 1. My Aggressive behavior 2. The hatred towards makeup and shopping 3. Karate (which normally is a sport for guys in my class)
Girls get scared. And nervous. And begin overthinking. (What if he says no? What if he laughs? What if he makes fun of me in his group chat with all his friends? What if he says yes as a joke?) All of that goes round and round in a girl's head and basically she just talks herself out of it. Also, girls are judged. A lot. And quite harshly, too. It's like girl on girl warfare every day you go to school. Being rejected would give all those bitchy girls something else to laugh at, judge and tease you about. It's like a bloody minefield, careful where you step!
Wel somewhere within this question I sad the perfect counter to that *towards 1 of the guys) I just don't feel like retyping it but basicallyguys have it worse AND go through he same things.
Yes but... guys also have options in at least some instances. So if the girls are satisfied with the options they have then all is well. If they are not then it seems only reasonable to conclude that they will have to prove themselves to said guys, no?
I suppose you don't have to approach women but it would be the smart choice to do it, also FYI even if it is not the 1950s I will still approach a women because despite what day and age it is. Taking charge shows that you have confidence and that you can get stuff done, besides if you wait around for a women to approach you what does that really say about you as a man?
I mean women approaching is fine like if one likes you and you really weren't paying that much attention and she approaches you it's a nice surprise. But you shouldn't wait on them and you should learn to take charge yourself and if you get shot down o well, her loss, you pick yourself up and you do it again.
Nice response and I didn't write this take for me by the way but just to laugh at some of these answers, That I knew I would be getting (Not yours ^^)
You said "Taking charge shows that you have confidence and that you can get stuff done, besides if you wait around for a women to approach you what does that really say about you as a man?" SO UMM wtf is the woman's job then? Just sit there/look cute, get flattered THEN IF SHE WANTS, play the guy without any risk to herself?
I mean most girls will put in little to no effort either LOLOL. Making our jobs even harder so unless that girl finds you cute/interesting she's not probably going to give it an honest effort, OH YEAH she doesn't really have to nor is she expected to by societies standards ^^.
"If you wait around for a women to approach you what does that really say about you as a man?" Umm can't we say the same thing about a woman who acts/wants to be treated like a baby? Any respectable woman GOES out there and gets what she wants
Not sit around and wait on it. ^^ When a girl approaches a guy that is even decent looking it's a good chance that she is going to get his number HELL SHE COULD simply ask for it and be done with it maybe... us on the other Oh noo we have to almost lie/sweet talk her to get any play LOL
That leads to a lot of other problems That I wont/don't feel the need to mention
I've dated respectable women who respectfully haven't gone after what they want the first one didn't go after what she wanted and neither did her sister both were shy despite the fact that they power women so that's not saying much. One being a soldier the other being a gourmet chef and baker, the fact of the matter is that you should be prepared to take charge, sure women will approach you but a lot of them won't and you need to be prepared to take charge and take what you want.
Cool Imma just chalk it up to this guys post that I'm about to tag you in. Must be fun being a girl where you can "cast your fishing rod to see if they bite, then throw back all of the ones that ya don't need or don't like"-jokerthebailsbondsman LOL
the theory behind this is (i just read it 2 days ago), women are apportunists and look for the shortest way to achieve her goals...
a man who shows and initiates are seen as moer "controlable" she she can utilize his resources for herself...
the concept of her making the apporach implies she wants something form him and therefore she must be the one offering as if she doesn't need anyone. which is false... or no one would get married/get into a relationshiop
when it comes to romance, women think they can have the cake and eat it too... thats why its important like men like us who will see things for what they are but understand how the gender roles came to be and how its not appropriate for todays times.
a man who shows and initiates are seen as moer "controlable" she she can utilize his resources for herself...
when it comes to romance, women think they can have the cake and eat it too...
I SAID THAT ON ANOTHER QUESTION RIGHT... AND SOME PUNKS TRY TO SAY that I'm wrong for saying that when I find it to be the truth... women want to have the power without any risks to it AND THEY ALSO DON'T MAKE IT EASIER ON THE GUY 90% of the time when it comes to us approaching them/having a convo NOPE they just sit back and look cute because they can... while we might fuck around and get dissed on top of her bragging to her friends about how she played us AND our boys might dog our asses also LOL
Guys... guys. Men and women think differently. Woman approaches man: he assumes I'm tapping that with ease... tonight... or soon. Guys feel they need not put in work and ultimately underappreciate the women. The male ego is a powerful thing.
Most relationships, for example, in my experiences, where women have approached men, have all ended in failures. Granted some sustained for a multitude of years. But, I repeat, they all ended in failure. The shift of women approaching men at equal rates will never, ever materialize and thus remain a faux pas in the beliefs of many women.
Attractive women are always being approached with frequency, and thereby many will always feel entitled to have men approach them. Right or wrong does not matter. Confident men, on the other hand, will always love approaching women. It is what it is.
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DO NOT APPROACH US! WE are not always out to meet guys, and even if we are, we are just as picky as you if not pickier. Do you approach every girl or pick the ones you find attractive? Well, we only respond the way you want to the ones we find attractive. Honestly, go out to have fun with your friends and do that! If real sexual chemistry exists between you and another girl at the bar/club/party, you'll find yourself drawn to her as well as notice her pulling you in as well. THAT IS WHEN YOU APPROACH and show you are a confident gentleman with a gorgeous smile and zest for life!
Also, if the chemistry is real, all you have to do is walk over, smile, and say hi. You'll both naturally make it work. Don't be the salmon swimming up stream. If you feel the strenuous effort, and the chemistry is not naturally taking you both down stream together, you are most likely wasting your time.
i said the same thing to another girl not to long ago ^^
Great advice about the letting things flow naturally
Problem is many girls like to play hard to get. Many times as soon as I feel resistance I walk away. Then I've had girls get snotty, because I didn't chase them enough.
@Viperkiss I agree and I have a mho that says :"I'm the easiest guy to talk to and I won't turn her down... all she has to do is ask etc" YA KNO I'M basically doing the exact opposite of what the average girl would. Which is what you said "MAKE US WASTE OUR TIME GOING THROUGH A LOT OF USELESS BS/PLAYING HARD TO GET" like bruh I ain't got time for these games lol
girls playing hard to get are DRAMA! don't be fooled from the start with that. if you really want more then just sex with a girl, find someone who is genuine! but, don't confuse shy with hard-to-get. shy is cute and all those signs of fidgeting, stumbling over their words, and blushing are go-signs!
I hear you and I can't tell the difference lol or were you just talking to all 3 of us?
just putting it out there. guys should know this. it would help them big time.
NIce and if they didn't already know that... they do now lol i1127.photobucket.com/.../201307231716151079.gif
Lol... sort of but that's so meh. It's hard to tell what people are really thinking and you can't see "chemistry" necessarily. And even if you could there is a lot of risk for guys nowadays with sexual harassment lawsuits and what not.
So... guys also have options in at least some instances. So if the girls are satisfied with the options they have then all is well. If they are not then it seems only reasonable to conclude that they will have to prove themselves to said guys, no?
Chemistry is felt. Calm the mind and feel!
Also, by being honest with your interests and expectations, you won't be manipulating anyone into situations they realize they don't want to be in, too late.
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I personally don't have a problem approaching women, at the right place and the right time. Sometimes it works sometimes she completely ignores me and walks away. LoL. But I think that's cause of my personality. At the same time (don't mean to brag) women have approached me and some of them have been successful while others not so much. For women to kick back and say "oh well, I'm afraid of rejection." Is just a lame cop out cause men can use the exact same excuse. All I can say is get out more often have fun and do what feels natural. Be confident in who you are, and have fun in most everything you do.
I'm afraid of rejection." Is just a lame cop out cause men can use the exact same excuse
YAY SOMEONE GETS IT ^^ lol and we've been saying that to them
I don't want anyone approaching me. I'll approach people (not as like directly trying to woo them, I'll get close as a friend) if I think they're interesting and it's pretty hard to be what I like. I don't like when guys approach me even if I like them and they def don't have to.. so go ahead I love what you're saying and I think girls should have just as much responsibility as guys do. I hate inequality in every way. I'm not a one-sided feminist, as in I only support girls or anything like that. I think everything equal is the best way and that's the only thing I support.
Best response from a girl yet
I like to become friends 1st with a girl
Then try to date them also
Thanks! And yep that seems better to me
Here's one reason and it's a heck of a one. I'm not a girl, but I know a lot about some of their personality types, by the way.
Some girls are shy, or don't want to seem open about things like approaching and asking guys out. Sure, if they're confident about themselves, they very well MIGHT approach you, but that's something that barely ever happens.
There's a whole lot of girls who aren't arrogant or self-entitled. Heck, I know for a fact that they may seem that way, but on the inside they're quite the opposite. What do I mean by this? I don't know, you tell me.
Nice response and you're welcome to answer also as a guy ^^. by the way I only made this question to get a laugh out of the replies on it and not for myself personally.
Speaking from experience, approaching guys doesn't necessarily work better. He has to be into you already or just DTF. And what if we did; we'd probably approach most (if not only) guys we found attractive. The percentage of guys we approach is usually smaller in comparison to guys. So the majority of guys still wouldn't appoach lol.
... Now that I think about it, we do. We approach guys we find really attractive. But most of us don't just come up to a guy and say "Hey, handsome, how's your day going" xD Were just not as ballsy ahahhaa
And if we don't we hint that we are interested. (Cowardly but yeahh )
"Hey, handsome, how's your day going" That's exactly how the last 8 have done me ya know "NO GAMES JUST STRAUGHT UP told me how she felt" AND IT FELT SO GOOD BECAUSE WE CUT THROUGH ALL THE BULLSHIT that was supposed to take place lolol
I like your response by the way ^^
all of the *
done me, ya know*
I tried approaching guys before, but he just wanted to screw around or at least that's the feeling I got from him. I get the feeling that when you dk approach a guy and flirt they think you want to f**k or get physical. When you tell them no, they're like what did you expect, im a guy?
Maybe it's just the guys I'm approaching. But tbh
I can't tell what he wants from me or even if he's interested in getting to know me unless he approaches me. If I know the guy I approach him, but I don't approach strangers anymore xD
It is easier when we just comw out and tell the guy! And I do tell him :) it’s a relief for both sides. Being straight forward IS good.
fI know the guy I approach him, but I don't approach strangers anymore xD
I'm the same way in the sense that I only approach girls that I even know a little BUT for strangers I let them come to me because you can't just walk up to anybody these days and start a convo with them lol
Well can't argue with that... followed now LOL ^^
Thanks! 😘
Not cowardly, it's feminine. Don't beat yourself up for something that culture caused. It used to be more simple until our culture said that guys who approach women are rapists or something and that they only want women for their bodies. It's fear mongering and it's false. Guys approached women for thousands of years it's only within the last one hundred years or so that it became inappropriate for guys to do so. It's just a big mess right now.
My suggestion would be to approach guys as friends (so they won't be afraid you'll sue them for sexual harassment) and then flirt with them (even subtly) to express your interest. Then let them make the official first move. That way everyone wins.
It only has to be that complicated because of our warped culture.
Lol that's what I do now. Either show interest in them or see if their interested in me. @ComDom
Well if you already do what I said then I misunderstood ;) only trying to help.
It's all good! Thank you anyways :D @ComDom
You're welcome! Oh wait you're ENTJ? That's pretty rare. PM me if you don't mind. I'd like to talk more with you.
Can we just not think of it as a who should approach who and all these sort of plotting or whatever and just... ENJOY the ride?
Let go of the handrails and just have FUN!
Don't you see how fun it is if you just let go lol?
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I almost snapped my damn neck the last time I rode a rollercoaster LOL #randomthough
I agree though
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On the bigger picture, it's just the way it is. Women will always have higher demand than men in the dating game and they can afford it. Plus they have less must-haves that men are looking for. Hell as long as she's pretty we'll date her. Women need men who have confidence, a good job or career, make her feel good, etc. Of course it sucks but unless the entire male population decides to go on a "sex and relationship strike", there's close to no way of changing it in society right now. Maybe in a hundred years the societal expectations of women will change and fit accordingly.
The more important question: Why should women approach you? What is that you have that compels a woman to break a dating norm? That's not a diss or anything and that's meant as motivation to set yourself apart from everyone. Once you find that out, you can function without those societal limits. Women will want to flock to you because you have something they don't know about you but will want to find out.
"sex and relationship strike", there's close to no way of changing it in society right now. AGREED and I agree with your 2nd question (Might make it)
I hear ya now
For me it doesn't matter. Guy's can come up and talk to me or ask me out. If I'm wanting to talk to a guy or ask him out. I will go up to him and talk/ask. I suck at waiting around for things to happen, lol. Most of the guys I had dated I ended up being the first to say I had a crush on them and stuff. Yes my face was bright red and I was nervous out of my mind. But I still did it, lol. Plus I see trying to talk to other guys or girls as away to self improve. To work on your fear/nervousness when it comes to approaching and trying to talk to anyone.
Sounds about right/fair ^^
What do you mean by debunking my entire statement?
I don't think we absolutely have to be approached I only expect it because it happens anyway lol but not the in the way that a lot of women feel like they should not approach men. If I am interested in someone I will not only show interest in them but also approach him in a way that he understands that I want to get to know him. Sometimes hints are given but they are not taken so I am always direct but still flirty. The main reason why I choose to approach guys is because waiting won't get you nowhere in life and that goes for pursing someone as well. If you want someone you have to get them them how will they know if you don't show and it takes the pressure off of men when women just have the confidence to show interest. The other reason why I approach men is because I feel like in order for me to have the guy that I want I have to seek him out. If you just accept only guys that come your way then you may never find your ideal mate.
waiting won't get you nowhere in life AGREED and this is how I reply to SHY GAGers/GAG questions LOL https://vocaroo.com/i/s03UNdAoQD9J
See yes guys get turned down but how are you approaching them. When n where has a lot to do with it. Who is this girl? Why are you trying to approach her?
Lots of us like for guys to talk to us in a certain way. Not mentionng ur clothes n body language. You have to know how there's a difference when u at the street n a club where is more expected.
With that been said, we girls do approach me but not hey cutie giv me ur number, which sum do lol. But we mostly start a conversation n hoping the guy find us interesting n ask for our num. Cuz girls dont chase guys. As arrogant as it may sound. So if you not catching how we trying to gt at ya then i dont know what to tell ya. U might end up with a kitty lol.
by the way I just made this question to laugh at the response that I knew I was going to be getting/JUST FOR THE HELL OF it ^^
Omg its so funny! U might just be laughin at yourself lol
Yup I make myself laugh about 15 times a day ^^
Aww thats so sweet n sad at the same time lol
(#^ #^) (-_^#)
Ni ce profile pic ^^
Hey whatever rocks ur boat lol silly
Fosho fosho thanks
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@mistninja314
This is what I have been wondering ever since I hit puberty! I can't, for the life of me, approach women due to my morbid dear of rejection. Haven't done it my life, not gonna do it ever, even if I'm forced at gunpoint. The insult and humiliation of knowing that I wasn't 'good enough' for the woman I liked, is much worse than actually remaining single forever.
If women approach me, well and good (although they're unlikely to do that, since I'm just a common man who doesn't have the looks of Tom Cruise or the wealth of Bill Gates). If not, then I'll just remain single all my life. Don't mind that one bit.
I hear you completely man/agree LOL ^^.
I didn't make this take for me personally but to laugh at the replies that I knew I was going to be getting NOT YOURS... I like it and your 2nd paragraph speaks volumes about women
Hehe thanks! :)
i feel the same way bro... i let myself killed in a gunfire than to get rejected
@JustinX9
Yeah right! We don't 'NEED' a woman to stay happy, right? they're just an added bonus, not a necessity! :P
well i learned that women are vile, mean and opportunistic creatures...
@JustinX9
Not all women, but some are.
not some but most of them
Girls, by nature, are usually more afraid of rejection, or are more blatant at showing emotion when it happens. Also, we're trapped in this role that it's not okay for a girl to make the first move. I tried once, and the guy was very sweet and said no, but after that I was kind of discouraged. It happens; I think a lot of girls heard that it's okay for us to tell guys how we really feel but are shot down so often that we stop trying and wait for our "Prince Charmings" to come along and sweep us off our feet. It's not good, and I don't think that guys should always have to approach girls. In fact, I think that girls should "Woman Up" and approach guys.
I hear ya and yeah some of y'all should Woman up OR at least make it easier for the guy.
I agree with you at least until/if the culture changes. Guys have options too at least sometimes.
This is a really great question and one I have been baffled over for years. The women want you to approach and do all of the initial work to make dates etc etc. However,... and this is big... the women are the ones who hold the power in advancing the relationship. If you try to ask "do you want to be my girlfriend"? they will be more than likely to stop dating you. They come to that decision when they are ready and they hold the power. It sucks, it really does because we have no say in the relationship aspect of it. It doesn't matter if we really like a girl we have been dating, its just not up to us. Girls have the pick of the lot. The only thing we are responsible for it seems is the initial approach phase.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1355198-why-don-t-attractive-guys-approach-me read my response on there and the SHOW OLDER
I'M GLAD that you see my point also and I was trying to tell a guy on this question tha named Phoenix98 and another named thatguy88 LOL
I said something along this lines of this to 1 of them WHICH IS FUCKING SAD but true.. ". "cast your fishing rod to see if they bite, then throw back all of the ones that ya don't need or don't like"-jokerthebailsbondsman LOL" SMH
Screw my typing ah!!!
Ahahahaha, typical fucking modern American woman. Unbelievable! It seems its a sickness, but i dont know what we can do.
That is why I said they need to pick their poison can't have it both ways... DONT approach me NO approach me but do it MY WAY lol
They can't pick their poison because they can't make up their minds. Its honestly unbelievable,... the shit I've them do.
LOLOLOL girls are shits. but guys are just as bad. Usually its the unattractive girls that somehow have the courage to approach the guys, you may take their numbers but won't text them. lolol
@sugarchateau WE WON'T MARRY THEM usually ^^ but you can bet your ass that we'll talk to them. Simply because they aren't going to play hard to get NOR put their pussy on a pedestal LOL.
That's why It seems that most guys these days cheat with a ugly girl because they are going to do what it takes to keep any man happy that was nice enough to give them the time of day. They usually have personalities also it seems, since they can't WOW YOU with their looks LOL
@Corsair427
We guys hold power too. If you didn't want to progress further in the relationship, you could bail at any time. I'm actually sick of reading questions from girls on here about guys who have done exactly that.
It's mutual. Neither one can really get ahead of the other or its just a boundary violation.
I dont think there are "ugly girls", its personal opinion. I've gone after girls my friends say were just literally 1s or 2s. But it didn't matter to me, I just liked them. They eventually gave me the lets just be friends speech anyhow. However if a girl ever liked me enough to make an effort and show me she liked me then she would be my world and deserve the best. Problem is no girl has done this, yet when I do make effort they complain its too much and never text back. This is typical behavior. I know who I am and worked too damn hard in my life to just give it all to some girl who doesn't care. I used to be treated horribly by girls and told I would never find one that would like me. So far its true and I've never actually had a girlfriend because of this. But recently I learned to look at myself differently and I know what I bring to the table, and its their loss.
@Pedantic
With all due respect, this post reeks of insecurity and submission. If you, the Asker, or any guy present yourself/himself to women in such an emasculated state, they'll see it, likely use it to their advantage, and inevitably lose interest. You will not be equal to someone until you believe you are.
@Freddius Thanks for the input ^^
@Freddius My opinions come from my own observations, I haven't seen otherwise in my life.
In all honesty, I think that men actually have it better on this regard.
Social rules (which, as you said, are admittedly fading) dictate that we can ask out and pursue whomever we want.
Anyway, I'm generally in agreement with you. If a woman wants to pursue, she should feel free to do so.
Ahh, hmm I don't know how to answer this, because yeah we as men can be dogs/chasing girls all day and it's considered cool by societies standards. But at the end of the day, a girl still all the power ^^. She can either accept a guy OR at least make the convo flow easier etc
While us as guys are usasually the ones who have to put ourselves out there and risk it all so usually when it a guy approaching a normal girl things seem to be a lot harder than a girl approaching a normal guy. I could just be blowing hot air, since I have nothing to back that up LOL
Copy paste time
Lmao tell me about it man, Ain't nothing like sitting in the gym, school, mall etc and just having a girl walk up to you talking. Most men can/should be able to keep that convo going because now she is trying to sweet talk you OR find out more about you. Usually in the end you can have her number and potentially do the whole 9 yards etc
Woman to man = good chance of success/almost done deal if she looks average or is considered cute by the guy.
And no i didn't downvote you lol ^^
Haha no worries about the down vote. I wouldn't have thought it was you anyway. :)
It's true that, generally speaking, men do have to go out on more of a limb, putting themselves out there more so than women. I totally agree.
The flip side to that coin is that, being a woman, you basically are told to sit back and just wait until the right type of guy falls into your lap. Basically, you're told NOT to be proactive in finding love. It's not difficult to imagine that being equally infuriating, albeit for different reasons.
All of this just underscores how damn hard it really is to find love and to make it happen. When it does happen, people should really learn to embrace it because it ain't easy.
The flip side to that coin is that, being a woman, you basically are told to sit back and just wait until the right type of guy falls into your lap. Basically, you're told NOT to be proactive in finding love. It's not difficult to imagine that being equally infuriating, albeit for different reasons.
WELL DAMN, perfect choice of words I must say ^^. I never thought about it in that fashion ^^
#misthasbeenschooledandsomemore
"Social rules (which, as you said, are admittedly fading) dictate that we can ask out and pursue whomever we want."
I go back and forth on that one. I'm really not sure if that's an advantage or not. Furthermore, I've known more than a few women who disagree with you. When I asked my sister why she never asked anyone out she responded, "Because I don't have to." My wife gave a similar response once.
@Bluemax I can understand that. I guess I'd counter that the following:
If someone asked me why I was okay with approaching women (rather than the opposite), I suppose I'd just answer that I like it this way.
Here's my guess: men and women who have become pessimistic about their chances at success probably both bemoan the social rules that are in place. Women, for it not bringing them the "right guy," and men, for having to face lots of rejection and never feel what it's like to hold that kind of "power."
*that with the following
Anyone can ask out whoever they want. you don't need social permission. You have to push against the current or things never change.
I don't think it's anyone's job to ask you out. Well, you can confess your feelings when you realize that none of you are making any moves and you just can't hold back your feelings. What's the worse that can happen? They will reject you, right? But anything that is seriously disastrous is to spend your whole life without telling the other person that they are loved. Even if they can't reciprocated those feelings, but it's a good feeling that you are giving to someone you love.
P. S. I was the one who confessed my feelings to a guy. Even though it didn't work out because the guy didn't want anything serious, but I feel like I have done something courageous! :)
I love this response ^^
Thanks! :))
well i hold back my feelings to several girls in my whole life
@JustinX9 if they are single, don't have a crush on someone else and are looking for relationship, I don't know why hold back. Rejection is one of the worst feelings, but I have experienced that something worse than rejection is holding your feelings back.
easier said than done... i dont know if you know the feeling to be single like forever... never been in a relationship... girls are simply not attracted to me that is why i always hold back... i did confess to a girl i like before but i never got a reply she just avoided it not to cause any awkward moment between us we were good friends when i was in high school.. currently she have a relationship... but i'm not the person that is forceful to someone who doesn't like me the way i like her
in addition all the girls i've crushed on always have crush or bf
"easier said than done" - It would have been applicable if I have not confessed to someone. I did, and it's not easy, but it's worth it.
"i dont know if you know the feeling to be single like forever... never been in a relationship" - I have NEVER dated in my life. But the thing is, we shouldn't be afraid of being single. It's cool to be single. Love will happen when it's meant to happen. You can force relationships but not love.
" girls are simply not attracted to me that is why i always hold back." In school, not a single guy seemed interested me. I looked really bad. When I passed out, I improved myself and my appearance, and surprisingly, not only the guys in college but those popular guys of HS seem interested in me now. So, improve yourself!
"in addition all the girls i've crushed on always have crush or bf" - I can't emphasize it enough. Don't fall for the girls who might have interest in someone else. As soon as you find yourself falling, please limit the communication.
The guy I confessed to didn't even reply to me right away. It was only after sometime that he told me that he wasn't looking for a relationship despite liking me. though confessing my feelings raised my confidence. Yes, it sucks! But it's always the best thing to confess. @JustinX9
good thing popular guys are coming to you... i tried my best to change the way i look like my hair, clothes, talk to people. still no avail... no one compliments me but that would help since i have a low self esteem... pretty girls will never lay their eyes on me... yeah i know its good to be single but i never been in a relationship... my colleagues are happy with their relationships and some of them are married and have kids already... i feel i'm left behind... well i did avoid the girls who like someone else but i can hear them saying behind me that i'm conceited and never give them my attention to them... hmmm i dont really understand why am i stuck in this situation where most of the things i do always fail. hmmm maybe i'm just fond of keeping my love in silence
I don't really think anyone can answer this question. It sucks, but the truth is that's just how society and gender roles developed. I think maybe it started like that so long ago and people just accepted it and it's just normal. I think it's starting to change a little now though and it's becoming more accepted for girls to ask out/pick up guys because feminism is becoming more widely accepted (most people misinterpret the word feminism and it actually is trying to achieve equality not female rule). Also, I believe it's because women were and are in some situations considered very lesser so the men got to pick out their women and the women didn't really have a choice. It just evolved into modern society so sorry guys but hopefully it will change and be equal like other gender role problems we have now.
Under 18 BUT SO SMART/well spoken I like it and agree LOL ^^
Thanks.. (:
What makes a girl special is their Uniqueness you will never find the same type of girl with the same personal. Though some girls may act like they are special and believe that a guy owes them something. Its possibly the fact that they are seeking attention and to be recognized. How you approach a girl that you like should have some sort of balance. Like everything in life three major don'ts that one should be aware of Don't be too forward, Don't be to shy, and Don't give to much attention to her. In having a sense of balance you will most definitely have a much easier life when approaching a girl. Be simple, be kind, and be caring. You'll do fine. :D Good luck guys.
thanks.. makes sense
I'm actually surprised I said something that deep. lol :p
I loved it
The irony is that this came out of a moderate Tomboy. lol :p Though I hope it was helpful to your question.
It was and I actually like tomboys ^^
Question for you
What was the cause for that question?
Sorry if I seem like I'm intruding.
Lmao I made this question just to simply LOL @ the replies that I knew I was going to be getting AND just for the hell of it (#^ ^#)
This question wasn't made for me personally basically but just for somebody going through these/those types of things ^^
Deep question though answer needs to be just as deep. lol :p
Here's question number 2 from me
You didn't know I was a moderate Tomboy until now so here's the question
Why say that you like Tomboys when you possibly (not saying that you don't know or do know) don't know the person yet?
This is deep think on it
:) I am not trying to criticize you just asking a question.
Umm when talking to me, say what ya want, how ya want and when ya want ^^. I won't get offended OR whatever
I said I like tomboys because it do (cute low maintenance/feisty tomboys) AND cute jealous/clingy girls etc
I don't know something about your response just said "this can't be a girly girl talking like that, seems a little more fair (your answer) than a normal girls ^^
Thanks just don't want to offend you. For me what makes me a none girly girl is
1. My Aggressive behavior
2. The hatred towards makeup and shopping
3. Karate (which normally is a sport for guys in my class)
LOL you sound perfect ^^ Now are you cute?
Naw at least I don't really consider myself Cute. Be honest When I am told that I am I just don't see it nor do I believe it.
Got a pic of yourself?
I won't judge ya... I just want to see how ya look ^^
Nope I don't share pictures on the internet sorry lol :p
KK can't argue with that ^^
But my profile name says all if you want to read my summery that will give you an idea of what I am.
Reading now ^^
Wow you are fast.
Done ^^
New record for reading! :p Any opinions though?
Not nothing specially but you sound different than your average GAGirl
I try to be the opposite of your average girly girl.
I think that being a moderate Tomboy helps a little bit in understanding guys I don't know that could just be my weird thinking coming out. lol:p
Yeah I find most girly girls to be boring because they usually have nothing to talk about
I can keep a conversation going as you may have noticed.
Same and you'll see me say that a lot ^ www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1372797-are-most-gagers-boring-generic-or-bitter-to-you
Well its just a point of view you have another one voice your opinion I will not judge.
Girls get scared. And nervous. And begin overthinking. (What if he says no? What if he laughs? What if he makes fun of me in his group chat with all his friends? What if he says yes as a joke?)
All of that goes round and round in a girl's head and basically she just talks herself out of it.
Also, girls are judged. A lot. And quite harshly, too. It's like girl on girl warfare every day you go to school. Being rejected would give all those bitchy girls something else to laugh at, judge and tease you about. It's like a bloody minefield, careful where you step!
So... yeah. That's probably why.
Wel somewhere within this question I sad the perfect counter to that *towards 1 of the guys) I just don't feel like retyping it but basicallyguys have it worse AND go through he same things.
the things you said also experienced by guys
Maybe that's why barely anybody gets asked out anymore..
That might just be why ^^
Yes but... guys also have options in at least some instances. So if the girls are satisfied with the options they have then all is well. If they are not then it seems only reasonable to conclude that they will have to prove themselves to said guys, no?
I suppose you don't have to approach women but it would be the smart choice to do it, also FYI even if it is not the 1950s I will still approach a women because despite what day and age it is. Taking charge shows that you have confidence and that you can get stuff done, besides if you wait around for a women to approach you what does that really say about you as a man?
I mean women approaching is fine like if one likes you and you really weren't paying that much attention and she approaches you it's a nice surprise. But you shouldn't wait on them and you should learn to take charge yourself and if you get shot down o well, her loss, you pick yourself up and you do it again.
Nice response and I didn't write this take for me by the way but just to laugh at some of these answers, That I knew I would be getting (Not yours ^^)
You said "Taking charge shows that you have confidence and that you can get stuff done, besides if you wait around for a women to approach you what does that really say about you as a man?" SO UMM wtf is the woman's job then? Just sit there/look cute, get flattered THEN IF SHE WANTS, play the guy without any risk to herself?
I mean most girls will put in little to no effort either LOLOL. Making our jobs even harder so unless that girl finds you cute/interesting she's not probably going to give it an honest effort, OH YEAH she doesn't really have to nor is she expected to by societies standards ^^.
"If you wait around for a women to approach you what does that really say about you as a man?" Umm can't we say the same thing about a woman who acts/wants to be treated like a baby? Any respectable woman GOES out there and gets what she wants
Not sit around and wait on it. ^^ When a girl approaches a guy that is even decent looking it's a good chance that she is going to get his number HELL SHE COULD simply ask for it and be done with it maybe... us on the other Oh noo we have to almost lie/sweet talk her to get any play LOL
That leads to a lot of other problems That I wont/don't feel the need to mention
I've dated respectable women who respectfully haven't gone after what they want the first one didn't go after what she wanted and neither did her sister both were shy despite the fact that they power women so that's not saying much. One being a soldier the other being a gourmet chef and baker, the fact of the matter is that you should be prepared to take charge, sure women will approach you but a lot of them won't and you need to be prepared to take charge and take what you want.
Cool Imma just chalk it up to this guys post that I'm about to tag you in. Must be fun being a girl where you can "cast your fishing rod to see if they bite, then throw back all of the ones that ya don't need or don't like"-jokerthebailsbondsman LOL
Lol that's fine.
Bumping Question here (Ignore This) LOL
the theory behind this is (i just read it 2 days ago), women are apportunists and look for the shortest way to achieve her goals...
a man who shows and initiates are seen as moer "controlable" she she can utilize his resources for herself...
the concept of her making the apporach implies she wants something form him and therefore she must be the one offering as if she doesn't need anyone. which is false... or no one would get married/get into a relationshiop
when it comes to romance, women think they can have the cake and eat it too... thats why its important like men like us who will see things for what they are but understand how the gender roles came to be and how its not appropriate for todays times.
a man who shows and initiates are seen as moer "controlable" she she can utilize his resources for herself...
when it comes to romance, women think they can have the cake and eat it too...
I SAID THAT ON ANOTHER QUESTION RIGHT... AND SOME PUNKS TRY TO SAY that I'm wrong for saying that when I find it to be the truth... women want to have the power without any risks to it AND THEY ALSO DON'T MAKE IT EASIER ON THE GUY 90% of the time when it comes to us approaching them/having a convo NOPE they just sit back and look cute because they can... while we might fuck around and get dissed on top of her bragging to her friends about how she played us AND our boys might dog our asses also LOL
Guys... guys. Men and women think differently. Woman approaches man: he assumes I'm tapping that with ease... tonight... or soon. Guys feel they need not put in work and ultimately underappreciate the women. The male ego is a powerful thing.
Most relationships, for example, in my experiences, where women have approached men, have all ended in failures. Granted some sustained for a multitude of years. But, I repeat, they all ended in failure. The shift of women approaching men at equal rates will never, ever materialize and thus remain a faux pas in the beliefs of many women.
Attractive women are always being approached with frequency, and thereby many will always feel entitled to have men approach them. Right or wrong does not matter. Confident men, on the other hand, will always love approaching women. It is what it is.