Why should I/we approach you girls? (Page 2)

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Umm this is a question that most girl can't answer. All of the girls that I've talked to/asked that question, have NEVER GIVEN me a answer that could suffice. They Usually give me the generic "it's the man's job/tradition." COOL MAKES SENSE for the 1950's that is. Just like how times have changed, shouldn't our approaches/traditions change right along with it?

In today's world, both genders are pretty much equal. So shouldn't the approaching ratio be close to 50/50 and not 80/20. I have no stats to back that up, but speaking from real life experience that "80/20" usually seems/seemed to hold true. You'll usually see a guy trying to sweet-talk a girl OR gas her head up with puppy love. 

As guys, we're usually the 1's leading the conversation, doing the approaching, shooting the right compliments, at the right time ETC. But In the end, most of us will get no play AND not only that, we have just wasted our time because the moment that, that girl saw us she thought "he's not my type" YAY US ^^ (sarcasm)

With the way that things work now, Girls have way to much power IMHO when it comes to dating, marriage, babies (rightfully so since it's their body, now while I don't completely agree with that logic, I know why it is that way ^^) 

I find most girls to be either arrogant OR just purely self-entitled since they seem to think that, just because they are girls that they are owed something or that the world revolves around them. Nuh uh it don't work that way LOL

So girls this is my question to y'all "what makes you so special OR why should I/we approach yall?

Girls approaching guys = number easily usually
 
Guys to girls = 45-50% chance of getting it maybe

TLDR it's not the 1950's anymore so TAKE charge and if you can't. Don't worry SIR MISTY has plenty of cats for you ^^ MEOW MF   that could be you, if you keep playing around that is LMAO

godfatherfan · Answer

A lot of guys love it when the woman comes after them.
I went through a few months of online dating where I didn't email anyone. I only replied to women who came after me. Unfortunately women think men need to be the first to make a move. It is a shame so many women are so backward thinking.

lalaland21 · Answer

this is my opinion... when a guy approaches me it shows me something: confidence, and i really appreciate that. It takes balls to go to a girl and start a conversation. If we hit it off or not is another issue, but the fact that you came and started talking says a lot about you.

GirlScoutsRevenge · Answer

Erm because you like her and if you wait around then some other side might not be so stroppy about it and just get on with chatting to another human. Who cares who does it first? Let's forget all about who's turn it is and just get on with making connections. If she doesn't approach you... maybe she's just not that into you?

posted · Answer

Because they're so much more likely to be upfront and polite about it if they reject you, haha jk less likely than most guys.

Just something like why we're expected to pay and all the regular bs.

The thing that doesn't make sense to me is the girl generally wants to play games and chase the guy, if he acts unreachable she's more interested, when you ask her out, it chips a bit of that shell away, than if she just asked.

glamgamergal · Answer

It's something that was brain washed into society for people to do
In simpler for its the norm

Fir example why dwhey say God bless you after someone sneezes
Because that's how we were raised and taught

Hopefully that makes sense

But honestly. I find it stupid

Honestly. if you like someone you should go talk toothed especially if. your a girl because you never know how. they feel and it's stupid to give small hints like just go up to him and start talking

remmus · Answer

I feel if someone is interested, they sound reach out, male or female!
I feel the 80/20 thing may be because sometimes men seem to be the more interested party. That's how it's been with some guys I've dated. If I am seriously interested in someone, I will absolutely be the first one to reach out. However, a lot of guys have been the ones to initiate because I just wasn't super into them at the beginning if that makes sense.

Black_Phynix · Answer

I have a lot of female friends and i asked them this exact same question, they told me because of two main reasons.
1. They want to see confidence in a man and
2. They want to feel wanted, by a man going up to a girl and asking her out or for her number than she gets the feeling that she is wanted by someone.

MrLi0n · Answer

I hate rejection but I'm not scared of it... I just hate that (I have s boyfrirnd) excuse. Lol I only get that when I approsch girls outta my league but I always go after those girls anyway!! It's like fishing. You want to catch a gold fish or a black tip shark?😈 lol. It does make me tongue tied and nervous sometimes

JML510 · Answer

Put it like this: if you don't try, you won't lose, but you won't win, either. What I would do is either approach women in places/situations that call for people to be sociable, or try online dating.
This is somewhat OT, but I have had more success with foreign women than American women and have had more of them be aggressive towards making the first move with me. Looking abroad might be something to consider.

sillygirl13 · Answer

Tbh most girls have been trained by their mother and or grandmother about how a price should sweep them off their feet and we all expect that. We were brainwashed.

That and boys hide their emotions so well especially when they flirt with other girls even if it is unintentionally so we get flustered.

Sorry if I did not clarify at all

Springfairy · Answer

I just don't feel comfortable approaching guys. I don't want to make myself look like fool.(Not that guys want to look like fools either) but I'm just a very shy person. I don't even initiate conversations with my crush, he initiates them with me, then I start questioning his motives. Lack of Self-confidence, no experience with dating.

lumos · Answer

You shouldn't if you don't want to. If you want to, why not?

boatfullofpeace · Answer

Mainly because of following tradition. It so happened to be men who were the initiators of relationships for thousands of years because women had no rights. I'm sure if women had significantly more rights, power, and influence than men for thousands of years, the tables would be turned and maybe women would be asking why guys don't approach them?

Fear of rejection also, as others have already said.
But it's mainly due to following a tradition that has been a part of society for thousands of years and only has really begun to change in the past 50 years.

Northeast106 · Answer

I've only approached one woman since being divorced, and I was point blank rejected, so yeah it does happen. Rejection is just part of life, if you want a woman you just have to take that risk. I'll admit though, I usually never succeed in starting relationships. Also, women have to be physically interested in you in order to even have a chance, and it's hard to tell sometimes. The only reason I even hit on this girl, was because I thought she was interested and sending signals, but I guess not.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

If you wanna get with me that's the only way. You don't have to approach me but I won't be losing sleep. Other guys will do what you won't lol

Anonymous · Answer

I think it might be a biological tradition. In the animal kingdom, some male animals flaunt in order to attract the female (i. e. peacocks). Men try to find their mate and tries to woo women and the woman chooses who she'll want to carry their seed. Nowadays, gender roles are different, and not every woman has a baby but these traditions have been around since a long time.

CommieDearest · Answer

Don't know what to tell ya. I've approached most men I've dated myself.

Unit1 · Answer

"In today's world, both genders are pretty much equal."

Globally never. This will not come to reality. At least not for this decade.

"I find most girls to be either arrogant OR just purely self-entitled since they seem to think that, just because they are girls that they are owed something or that the world revolves around them. Nuh uh it don't work that way LOL"

Pretty much yeah bro. It really appears like we owe them something.

etpige · Answer

I don't believe it's a man's job, I've asked guys out before. I think that if you're interested, you should make the move, whether you are a guy or girl doesn't matter.

Colombo555 · Answer

It's the law of the land bro. It was probably that way thousands of years ago. The man has for the most part been the aggressor. But of course only a punk like you would ask such a question. But yeah don't worry beta, women approach guys nowadays you'll be fine

rach9898 · Answer

Ok. First of all, you can't just bag on women that don't reciprocate your interest. They're not interested, move on. if a woman was really interested, she would probably make the first move. But usually, women aren't going about their day looking for guys to talk to.

Anonymous · Answer

You shouldn't do anything if you don't want to. No one is making you guys do anything. You choose to do it cause you want that girl and if you don't want to, then don't. Girls can approach if they want to as well. I don't approach guys, but that shouldn't be anyone's problem cause I'm only effecting myself.

Anonymous · Answer

Because you want something from me, whether that's sex, a potential partner, etc.

I'm all for people pursuing what they want, though. I just think the need for taking action here is less among girls. I've done the asking/approached the odd time, but probably nothing close to what the average guy goes through. However, I'm not going to ask out tons of guys just for the sake of doing my part to keep it 50/50.

Anonymous · Answer

honestly it depends on the girl. I've done my share of approaching guys and then chickening out half way through our little chat and finding a way to leave cause I was getting flustered. haha. I can only think of two times I was approached by a guy. You can only imagine how surprised I was by that. hahaha.

Princesskittyxoxo · Answer

For me it's because it shows that he's manly. I don't expect him to. Not many guys have actually approached me. I wind up approaching and flirting with them. So to me it makes a huge impression when a guy does that and def makes me give them a chance.

LittleSally · Answer

Why can't WE approach EACH OTHER? I never got this... I approach guys, why can't they approach me every once in a while?

oliver15 · Answer

We have to approach them because if girls were to do it, the world would turn into ''whores''. Sorry for that. Girls would jump from one man to another, become pregnant and finally abort. Which is inhuman

Coffinspire · Answer

I think they truth of the matter is, guys want to get the girls, most girls could care less, and if they do, they will talk to the guy. Don't blame it on women that you HAVE to approach, no one is pulling your arm to do it.

Cryostatic · Answer

Dude. If you're into a chick, just fucking ask her out, and don't fucking worry about chicks who might be into you but too chickenshit to ask you out.

You can't fucking control what other people do, so just worry about yourself and if YOU want something, persue it.

fromtheashes87 · Answer

I do approach guys all the time and with success. unfortunately when you do that guys usually assume that you are so into them they try to go right for sex. they think that because you are the one chasing them you must want it pretty bad and you get put into that  friends with benefits  zone or the easy girl category

Anonymous · Answer

Any guys who don't want to approach don't have to do it. Same with girls. It's not a job and it shouldn't be a burden if you really like that person.

Personally, I don't like guys to approach me asking for my number because there's a 98% chance I'm not giving it to him.

upood · Answer

Everyone likes to be pursued and feel wanted. Girls dont approach as much cause we dont have to, we can control our urges better than guys can... guys unfortunately need sex and will risk humiliation to get it if they're seeking it enough.

AliceAcid · Answer

My personal opinion is that many girls use this as a way to not have to make the first move... because lets be honest... its scary.

ManaX · Answer

I like the type of man who does not like to be approach, who prefers to be in control and is confident in the interaction. I don't need to approach men to get by.

LilWeezey · Answer

Personally i think whoever is interested more should approach? If that makes sense?
So to summarize you shouldn't.

Although most of my relations with guys they approached me. But that's because i too fear rejection.

Trust me, girls get rejected too, its happened to me plenty of times hence why i stopped approaching guys and just waited hoped they became interested in me, or were more confident than me if i could tell they were interested.

Kaylove96 · Answer

I would say it depends on the people but I feel like with the way us girls are, it can be good and better if the guy does it. Even though it's a traditional thing that people mention I don't know how many times.

DarkHorse24 · Answer

I actually don't mind approaching the dude, especially if he's the shy kind. Sometimes guys need a push, so then it's just up to the girl to take charge.

Anonymous · Answer

Because you are more horny then we are so if you really want something u gotta work for it.
Tbh i like the feeling of being approached because it makes me feel special ... Out of all the beautiful girls in the room you chose me to talk to.. Guys dont care but girls will always want to feel like they are the only girl in the room even if they aren't

penetrationstation · Answer

If I see some hot ass I go after it but some girls love to feel dominated and want u 2 go after her and claim her I personally don't care either claim my property or I'm chased like crazy

BelleGirl21 · Answer

Assuming I was single, guys would have to approach me because I never would. I'm wayyyy toooo shyyyy and would prefer to be single than ask a guy out first.

DumpliingPrincess · Answer

Because I can cook lasagna.  Jk. I'm not sure why you should. All my long term relationships happened because I made the first moves. If you really want something, you make an effort.

chocopie · Answer

Many, many guys, especially ones who are more socially inexperienced or who deal with acute approach anxiety, regularly lament the fact that men are expected to do all the hard work when it comes to trying to start a relationship and wish women would help out by being willing to make the first move.

jazzyjoy · Answer

My opinion on this is that by a girl initiating with a guy; she will be the leader or dominant one of the relationship. I've always thought guys view girls asking them out as desperate or the clingy type. I would personally be more comfortable with the man as the leader in the relationship, especially due to how I was raised. That's my two cents on the woman's perspective on dating/pursuit.

KAZ-2Y5 · Answer

because i can't take a hint and need the guy to approach me instead of vice versa

Anonymous · Answer

I guess because we are worth to approach, personally, I don't have the courage to approach guy for the purpose that I'm going to get his number, It will keep me bother if what would he will think of me that I did the first move. I'm just old fashioned that prefer guys to be the one to make the first move.

Anonymous · Answer

This question is annoying now from the guys on here. Dude, if you don't wanna approach girls, don't, we won't exactly cry over it and it gives the other guys with heart more room. There are mans jobs and womens jobs, get over it.

far2gud4u · Answer

errr I usually lead the convo and approach a guy thanks! dont tar us all with the same brush will you?

TheReturnOfRae · Answer

I don't mind approaching the guy, I did it yesterday matter of fact lol! Have to tell you bout it later

Anonymous · Answer

Well if girls only approach guys they will mainly go for the hot/attractive dudes and leave us other guys out. Since us as guys who aren't blessed in looks department we have to use our game/personality to get girls. If we let girls have more power in choosing who to approach and who to keep that wouldn't be good for us guys and as a matter of fact girls would have more power in dating then they already do.

chickenlegs_14 · Answer

Because most women like to know they're wanted and desired by men.

FYI: I've approached and asked out men before and I've never had a problem with it. It really just depends on personality. I'm very outgoing so I don't get caught up in hearing "no" from someone. Just on to the next one, right? :)

Kaylatie · Answer

I think most of us girls (like me) are afraid to approach a guy that we like because we are afraid of saying something stupid.

inlovewithyou2014 · Answer

You should approach us because if we say we like y'all you guys use that as an ego bost to get other girls so...

Anonymous · Answer

Or that could be YOU if you keep giving girls an ultimatum while the rest of us guys just simply approach the girl lol

If competition is basically taking one more step than the next guy, you're easy to beat if you aren't taking any steps at all. So I support you and all other dudes in the world doing this :D

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not special.. I'm just a potato lol..
And you don't have to approach me because of it..
A lot of times, I want to approach you guys.. But, I don't know how to introduce myself.. (coz first impression is really important to me..)
But, if a guy comes to me.. I want to thank them for giving their time and effort to try talking with me.. eeehehehhh... *slaps self*
We are all different.. But for me.. I just don't know how to react if a guy came to me and become disgustingly nervous.. Yup.

BumbleDeev · Answer

Girls are generally more shy than guys, so girls feel uncomfortable going up to a guy to ask him out. I think girls are also more afraid of rejection.

been_waiting · Answer

You don't have to approach anyone. If you want to, go for it. if you don't, don't.  That goes for both genders.

gapminder · Answer

The game done changed! It's about 50/50 now. I think women should approach if they want to. And guys should as well, hopefully we'll meet in the middle. After all equal rights and opportunities for all right?

abundantlyrich · Answer

All girls are quite different... No i don't want the guy approaching me. :)

Anonymous · Answer

Why are you so angry? You're obviously a very frustrated closet gay, nothing wrong with that, like you said its not the 50s anymore so what are you afraid of?

dede_g_10 · Answer

Because that's how we know your interested in us if you don't and we do we could be rejected

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