Is having a boyfriend/girlfriend a chore?

[melme16]

Do you agree or disagree? Explain why?

[MrOracle]

Without question, having a girlfriend is a chore - but a good/great woman makes that chore worth it and more.

Most women have no idea how demanding and needy they can be. They tend to need LOTS of attention and when they get emotional, they often really lean on their man for support - and that's okay if it's something that doesn't happen too often, but much less "okay" if it happens all the time.

As I said, the best women are those who are aware of their needs and the time and effort I put in to meeting those needs, and who in turn does other things to make other parts of my life easier. Such women are gold.

Others just take and take. That's less of a problem for me (because I don't put up with that), but I see a lot of guys whose girlfriends/wives have them constantly running or doing things for her - or just can't leave them alone for 5 minutes without needing attention from them. Those guys might spend 20-30 hours a week putting effort into their girl - but only 5 of those hours might be spending time with her in a way that HE actually enjoys - the rest of the time being him doing things for HER that he wouldn't otherwise have any need to do. To me, that's a very unhealthy ratio.

Don't get me wrong - guys can be difficult too; I've seen that plenty.

The best relationships are those when both people really try to keep their partner's interests and perspectives in mind, and work to help each other instead of working against each other.

[melme16]

Perfect :)

[GingerGuy]

Agree with @Katy16, yes but it's worth it and you don't mind for the most part. You aren't just thinking or doing things for yourself anymore and relationships take work. Having said that though it is also one of the benefits of being single, you only have to think about you and what you want to do.

[DancingDoll9]

I think it's definitely a job because not only do you have to worry about your own needs but you also have another human being that you have to keep happy. And most of the time a relationship isn't all peaches and cream so sometimes it can get pretty stressful especially if you're juggling other things in your life.

[AnayaWilliams]

Not really a chore but there is a lot of work involved and time and patience, etc. And some people aren't ready to put in all that work or to sacrifice all that time. Its like having to take care of another person plus taking care of yourself.

[Katy16]

I wouldn't say a chore exactly, but I do think it takes work to have a good relationship, you have to consider the other person in your choices and stuff instead of just you

[madam-chucky]

Some of the time it is and sometimes is not, its how you and your partner handles the relationship.

[AleDeEurope]

Ehh not really. When I think of chores I think of something unpleasant, and relationships should be the complete opposite.

[Phoenix98]

Well it does take constant work and effort but I wouldn't call it a chore.

[KenM9215]

having a girlfriend hasn't been a chore for me yet lol lets hope it never comes to that.

[zorro8888]

Well it takes constant effort but it's also very rewarding if you're in the right relationship.

[smimi03]

Yup thats why i dont have one, all it is , is just weight bringing you down. Why live feeling trapped when you can be free.

[Dennissss]

Can you send me a private message

[skaikrasha]

No. I don't like doing chores but I certainly would like doing my boyfriend.

[Scrambledagain]

I think getting a bf/gf is a chore. If you have it though, a good relationship makes things less of a chore.

[JSmuve]

It can be. Especially when they get needy and whiney, and being difficult.

[anonman32]

if it feels like chore i dont think people would stay together for long.

[carinerose]

Not a chore but takes a lot of time, work, and patience. That's why I'm single lol.

[Anonymous]

No, but it can be a pain in the ass if it's the wrong person?

[melme16]

I totally agree :/

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't mean to put that question mark at the end lol.

[cherrymarina]

Only if you don't really like that person.

[sparkly-crystal]

Yes, it is unless the boyfriend makes big coins.

[Kylesar]

Only if they're needy, clingy, or moody

[Barrabus_the_Free]

It can be.

[MakeShiftThug]

Relationships should only be for the mature.

[bubbletrouble]

Yes it is.

[orphan]

on some days it is

[Anonymous]

It is if your with the wrong person.

[bcromartie]

It is.