okay so to start off, I'm 16 and my boyfriend's 17, and we've been together for almost 2 years. Before I started dating him, he smoked cigarettes, drank all the time, and smoked weed. When he started to like me, he quit all of that on his own, because he knew I wasn't into any of that, and he wanted me to like him. I didn't ask him to quit, it was his choice, and I was really impressed about his decision. So the whole time we were dating, he had quit smoking weed and cigarettes, but would eventually drink at parties but I didn't have a problem with that because he'd only do it once in a while.
A little over a month ago he asked me what I'd think if he started smoking weed again, and I was shocked. I stayed really calm though and told him I'd be disappointed in him and would hope he never would smoke, but I'm not going to make that decision for him obviously. After this talk, he didn't mention anything else about it until recently, which I'll explain...
Last week at school he went out driving with his friends during lunch and came back third period looking very high. I asked him why his eyes were red and he said he was just driving with his friends who were smoking in the car.. although I wasn't sure if he was telling the truth, I didn't ask him anything else about it because I didn't want to accuse him of something that I wasn't positive he even did, so I let it go.
Last night, he confessed to me through text that he just bought a vaporizer (to smoke weed) and said something like "okay don't be mad at me but I wanted to let you know I bought a vaporizor.." and I honestly thought he was kidding, I didn't know what to say. He knows how much I hate weed and I told him that if I weren't already dating him then it would be a deal breaker.
Long story short, he told me to get used to it and that he's going to do it whether I liked it or not basically. I told him I didn't know what to do and he said "well you're going to have to deal with it", which I thought was extremely inconsiderate. Although he did apologize for lying about it, he said he felt bad..
He also said "okay ill make you a deal , if in one month from now you notice I'm changing, I'll stop, and I'd always choose hanging out with you over getting high, and I won't let it affect me or you". But what if he isn't really changing? <- oobviously I don't want him to change, but even if he doesn't, I'LL still be upset over it!
This is the first time I found out he's been lying to me and hiding smoking weed for over a month, and I'm disgusted. And our conversation ended last night with him saying" Well I'm gonna go, I don't feel like arguing for hours straight. When you feel like talking to me about it, go for it." And signed off... like wtf !?!
I don't think I can bring myself to put up with him smoking weed, but I like him a lot and don't waant to give him an uultimatum (weed or me) but I might have to:( Thank you?
A little over a month ago he asked me what I'd think if he started smoking weed again, and I was shocked. I stayed really calm though and told him I'd be disappointed in him and would hope he never would smoke, but I'm not going to make that decision for him obviously. After this talk, he didn't mention anything else about it until recently, which I'll explain...
Last week at school he went out driving with his friends during lunch and came back third period looking very high. I asked him why his eyes were red and he said he was just driving with his friends who were smoking in the car.. although I wasn't sure if he was telling the truth, I didn't ask him anything else about it because I didn't want to accuse him of something that I wasn't positive he even did, so I let it go.
Last night, he confessed to me through text that he just bought a vaporizer (to smoke weed) and said something like "okay don't be mad at me but I wanted to let you know I bought a vaporizor.." and I honestly thought he was kidding, I didn't know what to say. He knows how much I hate weed and I told him that if I weren't already dating him then it would be a deal breaker.
Long story short, he told me to get used to it and that he's going to do it whether I liked it or not basically. I told him I didn't know what to do and he said "well you're going to have to deal with it", which I thought was extremely inconsiderate. Although he did apologize for lying about it, he said he felt bad..
He also said "okay ill make you a deal , if in one month from now you notice I'm changing, I'll stop, and I'd always choose hanging out with you over getting high, and I won't let it affect me or you". But what if he isn't really changing? <- oobviously I don't want him to change, but even if he doesn't, I'LL still be upset over it!
This is the first time I found out he's been lying to me and hiding smoking weed for over a month, and I'm disgusted. And our conversation ended last night with him saying" Well I'm gonna go, I don't feel like arguing for hours straight. When you feel like talking to me about it, go for it." And signed off... like wtf !?!
I don't think I can bring myself to put up with him smoking weed, but I like him a lot and don't waant to give him an uultimatum (weed or me) but I might have to:( Thank you?
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* oh and I didn't mean to put a question mark at the end of "thank you" sorry about that!
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