Everyone I scroll into some celebrities like Loren grey or Malu trevejo I feel very miserable. I mean, they are 16, and they have their musical career and they are freaking gorgeous! I’m 4 years older than them and I didn’t achieved anything in my life. It’s not just them but everytime I scroll into some other accounts! I’m like: “Everybody is living their life. They look so happy. Their life looks so well put together. And then there is me sitting in my pyjamas, drinking my fifth cup of coffee looking at my phone. I’m a total failure.”
Why do I feel miserable every time I watch Instagram?
What you see on Instagram and social media are curated images someone wants to show to the world. What you see is content curation: carefully selected pictures that are meant to display the product in the best possible light. Much like how a company selling its product is not going to put photos of the underage children working in its factories on their Facebook page.
I'm sure all these perfect people don't put photos of their arguments with their spouses, their dad's alcoholism, the genetic disease or illness that runs in the family, the many bad relationships they've had in the past, the feelings of inadequacy and doubt that plagues every one of us.
In the end, life is what we make of it. Instead of perusing Instagram and seeing only the good side of people and their lives, wouldn't it make more sense to live your life, put you nose to the grindstone and chase after your dreams? You're meant to fulfill all the potential you have in this lifetime, to be the best version of YOU that you can be. The competition is with YOU, not other people.
That's your own fault. You keep going on Instagram and comparing yourself to celebrities instead of creating your own happiness. First thing's first, stop using instagram if you know it's going to make you miserable! Or at the very least stop following certain people. Second, you're only a failure because you let yourself become one. So put down that coffee, go out, and have some fun! Create your own moments to put on Instagram. I was (and admittedly sometimes am still) like that. But I've been picking up my trumpet more lately and going to jazz clubs, playing at jam sessions and making new friends that way and it's made me at least somewhat happier. So I encourage you to just go out do something you enjoy. Maybe you'll meet new friends. Hell, maybe even a potential partner.
"They look so happy. Their life looks so well put together." That's because that's what they're PAID to do: look and pretend to be happy! I guarantee most of them are just putting on a facade and are not as happy as they seem- most people on social media are not as happy as the public or their "friends" assume they are.
Most people that are genuinely happy or have their lives together are too busy, or have other things to do besides posting every aspect of their lives on social media. The ones that do are just looking for attention and self gratification to make them feel better about themselves.
See, that is exactly why I avoid social media. If you spend too much time on it, you start comparing yourself to others and how happy they supposedly are, and then it makes you feel like crap. How about you stop looking at women like that and do things that make YOU happy! The more you compare yourself to them and look at them all day, the more depressed you'll feel.
Everyone on Instagram is only showing the good sides of their life, it's not the reality and they worked hard for their careers and had really good luck And honestly a few people would look like a Instagram model with enough money, professional make up artists, a stylist and photoshop. Like none of the pics are reflecting the real life, I personally see Instagram as people showing their art to the world and i find it beautiful but it's important to separate between real life and the internet Concentrate on your own life and maybe unfollow the stuff that makes you feel bad
Because it's so easy to make your life look perfect on Instagram/Facebook or any kind of social media. a lot of these people have no life and no friends that's why they have all the time in the world to post and post and post. Getting lip injections and hair extensions and plastic surgery... If that doesn't say insecurity, loneliness, and a negative outlook on their life, I dont know what does. Deep down most of them are miserable. They just know how to take good pictures. That's it. If you look deeper into it like I have, you'll see it isn't all what you think. I thought that at the beginning too untill I did my research on it.. now I feel fortunate to be who I am and comfortable in the life I live. Sometimes , how you think about it can change everything too. Your life may not be "together " right now, but eventually you'll be at a place where your happy and comfortable. ♡
It's easy to feel discouraged when you see people who you see as better than yourself. You have to shake off those negative thoughts and think about yourself. Don't think "I wish I was her" or "I'm jealous of her", INSTEAD, think "I aspire to be like her", and "I will work hard to achieve what it is I want". And if you still feel terrible because you'd have to work harder than some of them who have more natural talent, remember that working will get you farther than coming up with reasons to not persevere.
I wouldn’t look at other’s lives as something exactly to be envy about because in the end, all your doing is discouraging yourself and it can contribute further into making you not wanting to do much or trying to be progressive. Work on things and look at things that are “healthier” to look at, read, things that build you up and make you want to improve on things for you and yourself. In the process, sometimes things you do and achieve in and work on get noticed. Some stars and celebrities have had real hard backgrounds and made many sacrifices to get where they are.. not all but there are some. They try not to let too much of their surroundings get to their head.
girl, listen to me. those people didn't achieved anything by effort, they just bornt that way, their looks helped them for economic gains, their "musical carreer".. how to explain..., Guns and Roses HAD one, THEY actually were good and gritty, these instagirls are just a fart in the wind for a max 2 years. cause all they can be proud of is there luck, and winds are always changin.
whats more funny is once they reach an age real merits come to play, and since they have none they fall miserably. dont envy that
I know a lot of the rest is off topic so here's the real thing: you only see the good parts. You don't see when these girls stumble home drunk, you don't see the breakups, you don't see the heroin. Their lives probably suck, but their fame is small enough that they can hide the fact that they're just like lindsay Lohan and Bill Cosby
Would it help if a guy asked you out? HINT: guys are scared to ask girls out, so only super attractive confidant guys ask girls out, and because they're super attractive, they only ask out the super attractive girls. Plenty of guys probably think you're hot, but are too scared to ask you out. Ask one out. Chances are he already had his eye on you.
The grass is not always greener on the other side what if they paint it, I mean not because they seem happy means they are, everyone's timing is different that doesn't mean that your a failure. Take a break from social media and invest your time in other things.
You need to focus on your own life not other peoples. If you are not happy with it, what can you do to make yourself more happy or proud of yourself? Those people struggle too, believe me. Look at selena she has millions but health problems. I felt the same way for a while but instead of analyzing and comparing yourself you have to focus on building a better life for yourself. That's why I am focusing on my education
I would never understand people who feel jealous and miserable because of some (fake) edited photos on a superficial shit. Whenever I go through 'Instagram' (rarely) I feel lucky that I don't have the need to capture every 'nice' moment for validation from strangers. I know a famous 'instagram model' irl, trust me it ain't shit. She is nowhere as good-looking as on her photos on Instagram and her fancy life on Instagram is not realistic.
My advice would be to get off social media. What ever positive things you get from it it's not worth the depression you will most likely get eventually. Focus on your school work and life to come.. if you do this your life will be so much better both in the short term and long term.
Obviously if you compare yourself to others every time you scroll through the internet you're going to feel miserable. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WOMAN! Start recognizing your own positives. Every morning, look in the mirror with straight posture, smile, and tell yourself that you're beautiful. You can even come up with your own positive mantra and repeat that mantra every time you feel down. I hope I have helped you. Good luck, love.
That's good the first step is accepting that you're not better.
The next step is doing something about it. If there's a hobby you enjoy become an expert and the money will come later.
With the internet it's really easy to make money online, but it's just going to take a lot of work. I'm not just talking about YouTube or Instagram either.
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High social media use is associated with depression.
A) there are billions of people in the world and you're focusing on a few lucky ones.
B) you're focusing on the lucky ones who are showing you a either curated or outright staged/fake version of their lives.
Instagram -is- their career and they are treating it like a professional photo shoot.
Instagram has been known to cause depression. Everybody seems perfect online, especially on instagram, so it’s no wonder you (and me as well) and many other feel bad when they scroll through insta. I would suggest going offline when you feel bad, or only allowing yourself to use instagram for like half an hour or 45 minutes per day
Don't be such a whine baby, Jesus. Like we on this site accomplished anything like they did. Also, social media usually only shows the fun, good times of people. You really think they're gonna post the complete and utter horseshit side of their lives?
Stop! Instagram is filled with unrealistic expectations. Just focus in you and what makes you happy. Some people were fortunate enough to use their parents money or get really lucky when it comes to looks. It doesn't mean you're worth less.
Becausw you won't stop comparing yourself to other people. You won't stop making everyone else's timeline your timeline. When you compare you can't possibly be happy for someone else
Because you're watching fake stuff. Like Cardi said no ones going to post when their pussy stink or has yeast infection, when they got acne, or when they're broke. Gotta get off social media, man.
Not too late to change yourself around. up to you. Exploit your talent and whore it out to the public. Make your imprint stained on this earth for people to remember you by.
Or it’s just make believe and they will face depression because of the pressure to stay relevant and they just need external validation constantly
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Anonymous
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stop comparing yourself to others, are you only gonna fret about it or mope about it or are you going to actually do something about your own life and improve it somehow?
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