Is it self hate to be unattracted to one's own race? (Page 2)

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I used to find the guys of my own race the most attractive when I was younger, but over the years, my attraction towards them have slowly dwindled down, and now I am somewhat repulsed by them at times.  This has something to do with possibly being bombarded by their presence in the past, and later diversifying my group of friends in college, and discovering guys of other races are actually more attractive.  I feel like even the ones who are considered uber attractive in my race look mediocre to me compared with other races.  I kind of perceive them as impotent yet way too sexist compared to men from other regions of the world.  This coupled with the fact I do not find them as physically appealing have sort of drove me away from them.  Fast forward to today: I was recently talking to my brother, who was trying to convince me to date a guy from my own race, because I'd find more cultural compatibility and therefore a successful relationship/marriage.  I feel as though, I don't have any compatibility with guys of my own race since I grew up in the western part of the world and after college I sort of found my own medium of what sort of culture I'd prefer in my life.  This is in addition to me lacking any attraction to them.  My brother accused me of suffering from self hate issues.  But I feel otherwise.  I actually value my looks and am proud of them.  I am comfortable with myself and my body and my negative perception of the males of my race has nothing to do with how I perceive my own self.  I just don't want to be with a guy from my own culture/race.  Have any of you gone through something similar?  What are your thoughts on my brother's reasoning?  Are his thoughts justified or is he in the wrong?

venividivici · Answer

i'm exactly the same! most guys of my race just seem boring to me...i don't know why. just curious, what's your "race" and who are your attracted to?

508Ricky · Answer

No me too.

I know that there are some really hot desi girls & dnt get me wrong I would easily still date one.

It's just that I wana try girls of all color bcuz, why shud I just have to date a desi girl because I'm Indian?

Anonymous · Answer

Just to clarify, I do like guys from my own race as well, and there are many nice/romantic ones too, I just find other races romantic approach and politeness very impressive.

Olya363 · Answer

who cares what they think you like what you like f*** them

Anonymous · Answer

Its just a matter of taste; you have to find your own way.   I myself find Asian women very attractive.   East Asian, not Indian/Pakistani women, who tend to be very unattractive, smell like curry,  and don't age well.

dudeman · Answer

what are you by the way and where did you come from I want to go there

katyfromflorida · Answer

Omg I'm so glad I just read this ! Im just the same I'm not attracted to my race and people freak I mean there's better rraces  If you dnt mind me asking what ethnicity are u?

lord_chilled · Answer

Wait , hold on... You think of your own dad as impotent? Whose nutsack do you think you came out of?

ihatework · Answer

it's a preference, nothing wrong with that.

Anonymous · Answer

Date who you want no one really cares your insignificant. but there's no reason to put down men of your race and call them ugly. Just very rude and immature but to each their own.

Phoma21 · Answer

its not self hate its a preference

john5246 · Answer

I can tell you're indian/pakistani hahaha

Dom163 · Answer

It is just preference

larry69 · Answer

Its is not wrong to be attracted to other races

SweetestSin_xXx · Answer

yeah I think its self hate.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it is

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