How do I gently tell a guy that he's creepy?

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TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

Subtlety DOS NOT 'work'. You MUST make it unequivocally clear that his belief that his attraction overatures he believes are 'smooth'... YOU find 'transparent' and UNWELCOME.

Back in the early series there existed a series of male seduction 'how to' books which preyed upon most female's reticence to be tactful in their rejection to male preliminary seduction. They advocated that even in the face of an overt rejection... the would be 'Romeo' should exploit his advantage basically advocating an insidious progressive 'date rape' sexual assault. "Rushin hands and roamin fingers"... sought to irrevocably waken the damsel's sexual responses. While she would say 'No! Stop!' ... with sufficient tactile skill he could motivate HER own 'animal nature' to at least passively endure, if not eventually concupiscently actively-respond and participate. His goal is to make YOU feel you want him as much as he's physically aroused by You.

Especially with inhibitions numbed by alcohol and/or drugs, MANY a female has gone farther and faster sexually than she would ordinarily have agreed to.

HiveBee · Accepted Answer

Depends on what exactly makes him creepy. If a hot guy did the same thing would it be creepy?

If a confident guy did the same thing, would he be creepy?

Dont say anything unless he's the kind of creep that is universal. The behavior is unacceptable for any kind of guy. Then you say something.

If you say something and he's just trying his best to be a better man, and our only method for that is interacting and flirting with girls. Well you can see how a man trying tobetter hinself can quickly get beated down for "being creepy."

BakedBeanieBabie · Accepted Answer

There's no benefit to using the words you're being creepy.

What's more constructive and gets the point home is pointing out when people are crossing your boundaries and asserting that you need them to back off and respect them. If they don't... well, then in that case, do what you gotta do.

CMeow · Accepted Answer

Tell him he is making you uncomfortable. Tell him your interactions are awkward and you prefer that he avoids doing _______ behavior that you don’t like. You can start off by saying “sorry to bring this up, but...” and THEN tell him you are uncomfortable, if you’re trying to be gentle.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why do you need to do it "gently?"

Ronald_25 · Answer

If a guy is genuinely a creep, you may not want to tell him straight up, if it hurts his feelings or if relishes in your contempt for him, this may spur him on. I'd advise having a chat with him in the first instance about how he makes you feel, he may be being creepy unintentionally or may not know that you are creeped out. If this doesn't work, speak to someone that knows him that is unbiased and that can talk to him to dial it back, that he may listen to.

That's my two pence on the matter anyway. 💷

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Some people have said to be blunt and not worry about his feelings. Other people have said to not say it at all. My position is more of the middle ground. I think you have the right idea with what you're thinking. I think you should explain it to him gently. Chances are he may not have a clue that he is coming off that way.

Just say, "Hey, ______. I want to tell you something. You know that thing you do sometimes? Well, I think it's kinda creepy. No offense! I just wanted to let you know."

TurboKid · Answer

"Stop being such a creep!" I think that's polite and nice because it's like you're suggesting that it's something he can work on and improve, not like he's destined to be a creep for the rest of his life. You know, constructive criticism. Whereas if you said, "You are creepy!" that might be taken personally.

RACSKC0B · Answer

Look if you don't tell him, the next girl is going to have to, but she's going to pass it on to the one after her.
But he still won't know.
Trust me, as someone who is generally regarded as "creepy", you don't need to be genital about it.

JackSmy · Answer

Be polite, at first, and say no, and "I am not interested".
If he persists, on here, block him, and report him.
In real life, if he persists, a solid kick to the groin, and then another to the chin, before you run away, and call the Police!

Dragonpurple · Answer

I'd say there isn't a way to do it gently, but if your friends you could say, "stop being creepy" in a joking way to try to offset it.

If not friends and he is bugging you, might have to be more assertive to tell him to leave you alone or something.

Chances are, he doesn't even know he is creepy.

Billyscotter · Answer

Don't pay attention to the people here who say you have to be direct and honest and be tactless. "You're a creep" and "you're creeping me the fuck out" is a personal attack. If he's ugly or awkward, hearing that can be devastating.

You can say that what he said makes you uncomfortable, or say "dude, inappropriate". Or say "don't talk like that".

Anonymous · Answer

Just politely tell him he’s being inappropriate and making you uncomfortable. Do it in private and not in front of an audience. Sometimes people aren’t aware that certain things they do are perceived negatively by others. If he doesn’t respond to the polite approach, then I’d go the not so nice route.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Raise your hand a little, make a fist but put your index and thumb in the shape of hooks, turn your hand over and bring it down a wee tad (now facing towards you) and bring those two fingers and stink out your pinky also in the form of a hook. (This means Fuck Off)

jennifer_bloom · Answer

You could say “I appreciate your kindness but your making me comfortable. I don’t think we should continue to talk because I don’t feel right about this and it would be wrong for me to lie to you and lead you on.”

Blueeyes81 · Answer

You remind me of Jeffrey Dahmer. But in all seriousness there is no way to do so without offending someone. The best I can come up with is tell them to "Stop being weird" when they become creepy.

teachsex2girls · Answer

Just text him message telling him that your friends don't think you should be near us anymore as you are really creepy bye

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Tell him straight out Dude Your Creeping Me The Fuck Out!

Waldoe · Answer

why do you want to say that to anyone? why do you think he cares about your opinion? Do you need more enemies? in the future, you may need him, FIRST... Don't be a bitch, you need to work on yourself... obviously

williamHD · Answer

Just say your making me uncomfortable. It’s honest and quick. How is he making you uncomfortable?

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Ok, so take a deep breathe in then Scream your lungs out make the scared face and run the opposite direction. He will get the hint 😈😄

ChiTown33 · Answer

You don't. That's women's biggest problem. Just rip the band aid off. It doesn't hurt less pulling slowly I promise you!

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Being unattractive to a woman is illegal now, how him arrested and prosecuted.

DJB72 · Answer

That's like saying you want a "subtle" hurricane Just tell him.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Just make nervous duck noises when he acts like a creep.

stefan1985 · Answer

Just be like I'm not trying to be mean, but you're really a creepy bastard and get far away from me before I scream at the top of my lungs.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Probably just tell him what he does that is creepy.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell him how his behaviors make you feel. Be upfront. If he doesn't get it, tell him your boundaries. And if he doesn't respect it move on and don't look back. If needed block him, ignore him, etc.

CrypticViper · Answer

Just tell him, quick and to the point that he creeps you out. Don't sugarcoat it.

monkeynutts · Answer

Most girls just drink a bottle of wine, I think it makes us more attractive.

OddBeMe · Answer

Oooh, tough. Because us guys can get dangerous. I’d say play friendship without ever seeing him again. Ease the pressure in the pipe slowly…

NightHawk99 · Answer

Don't tell him he's creepy. Demand he leave you alone. If this doesn't end his behavior, all else is justified. :)

friendzoned4life · Answer

You don't tell a guy he is creepy. That is an instant self-esteem killer no matter how u say it

Mangospacho · Answer

“Gently” telling a guy that he’s creepy is like “gently” beating someone to death.

anylolone · Answer

No one can inform another that the other is a creep gently.

mrkdvsn · Answer

By telling him - "Uh, it's been fun, but I have to go THIS way now"

Better_off_here · Answer

just tell him that woman would like him if he changed his approach.

Anonymous · Answer

You should scream it in his ear while he's banging you in the anus.

Anonymous · Answer

there is no gentle way of doing it. just flat out tell him

Anonymous · Answer

Tell him or just don't talk to the loser.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

"Dude, don't be creepy".

Leavesbound · Answer

You don't need to be gentle.

faye_girl · Answer

I love this question 🤣🤣

Yanagi_Kaze · Answer

Like this: "dude, you're creepy"

EnglishEuropean · Answer

You don't. You tell him to fuck off.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Be straight forward. Being nice won't stop him

JosyJosy · Answer

Why would you? Just tell him you're not interested

jspl90 · Answer

just say hey that yhing you do is kinda offputting

Iron_Man · Answer

Just chill Don’t bring it up

Browneye57 · Answer

"You're a fucktard. Get the hell out of here." :)

RHK36 · Answer

What makes him creepy?

Wise4myage · Answer

Don't be gentle, but do be honest.

Still-alive · Answer

just block him, drop him or ignore him.

princeofromance · Answer

Tell him straight out.

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

Tell him bluntly DUDE YOU ARE FUCKING CREEPY!

7771999 · Answer

Just stay away from him

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Just tell him your not interested

JustMe62 · Answer

Why be gentle. Just spill it and be done with it.

baretone · Answer

dude your creepy?,,  usally works...

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Tell him not to behave like hotboy_booblover lol..

Anonymous · Answer

What is the behavior that you find creepy?

Anonymous · Answer

Be straight forward with him.

Nicegirldaqui · Answer

" you're creepy "

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