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The percentage of autism in the world these days is pretty high. Having worked with the disabled for decades, I know this is not a weakness nor bad. It doesn’t make a person less intelligent nor friendly. Some people are just trying to get through their day. I think ‘slight disability’ before I think ‘rude’.42
I don't like to view it as a weakness or a strength thing. I just would have a hard time trusting them depending on what other vibes they're giving off. But if they weren't giving off and untrustworthy vibes, then I'd think they're kinda like me. I have a hard time thinking when looking into someone's eyes.20
I wouldn't say weak, but certainly a sign of interpersonal and intrapersonal issues. Probably self esteem and confidence issues. It can also be a sign of dishonesty.
Or maybe the other person has a really ugly mug and they just can stand to look at them 🤣20
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A lot of people do this. Sometimes eye contact is overrated. I’m thinking of all the wonderful discussions I’ve had with people over the years while sitting side by side, watching our children play, or fishing, or sitting around a campfire. For me it’s more peaceful to talk WITH someone rather than AT someone. This can’t always be the case of course, but no, it’s not weakness or a bad sign in my opinion.30
Don’t look me in my eyes when you talk to me peasant. I’m the queen.
nah. I personally wouldn’t take offence. Some people just don’t make eye contact and that’s perfectly fine.41
I don't see it as a weakness, and there could be many reasons as to why people would do this... I should know well, since I've been on both sides... growing up as a painfully shy kid through my childhood and for pretty much half of my life, and now being absolutely confident and comfortable with myself and others
now, I like staring/gaze contests... and I've never lost one yet, I can also -not blink- for the longest time10
Watching them talk distracts from hearing them talk, in my opinion.32
I don't think it's a bad sign or a weakness. I think it happens unintentionally to people. I'm guilty of not always making eye contact when I talk to people or when they talk to me. But now I should really try to make more of a conscious effort to look people in the eyes when I'm talking to them13
It's disconcerting but it could be due to mental illness/personality disorder. I know about this stuff but anyone who doesn't will see you as weak or untrustworthy.
Here's an interesting thing to try. When someone is talking to you avoid eye contact completely and see how long it takes them to trail off.
One tip I heard for maintaining eye contact is if you look at the bridge of their nose they will think you still have eye contact.10
It is a sign of not paying attention or not listening.11
I don't see it as a bad sign as such but I would think at best they are not interested in getting to know you25
I don't think it's a sign of weakness but it's strange. We can't always make eye contact but if someone I'm talking with doesn't look at me, I started wondering if they got a problem with me.20
I dont like looking into each others eyes for long unless we’re having a romantic moment and professing our love. Otherwise i break eyecontact quickly30
No. Too much gazing can come across as aggressive or an attempt to dominate.30
Got a magnetic and deep stare... they get nervous and scared
but generally yeah its a sign of weakness and vulnerability to me...10
It is a common sign of autism. I don't think it necessarily shows weakness. But def not strength.20
Some people get scared cause I hold my gazes for such a long time10
Depends. If we're talking and neither one of us are working, then you should look at me as we talk.10
It means the person doesn't fear me and this is a mistake.10
No i dont see it as a bad sign20
Well a little bit yes10
I have anxiety, so I get it20
You could be shy thats all30
I don’t think is anything to do with weakness. If somebody will not look you right in the eye when they’re talking to you, they are either just plain rude, they’re autistic, OR they’re lying to you, and they know that they’re lying to you, and they know that you likely know that they know that they’re lying to you… THAT’S why they won’t look you right in the eye. (unless, like I said they’re autistic! In which case, awww poor thing, he tries so hard, but he just doesn’t get normal inter-personal behavior.).
I just get a bit anxious is all. No hiding or lying
Really? I would not have pegged you being the type of guy that doesn’t look a girl right in the eyes when he’s talking to her.
Well if i knew she liked me i would otherwise yeah I struggle with it. Its not just girls too, guys as well.
Wow… Color me shocked! You just seem so open, friendly, and outgoing. , I never would have guessed that you were nervous around strangers.
Yup im socially anxious in real life lol. I can be more open on here without the awkwardness… as much anyways lol
I’m the total opposite! I’ve never met a “stranger”! I can go up to anyone and just start a conversation!
Neither have i. I even get a bit weirded out when strangers try to talk to me
Oh, no sweetie. That saying means the opposite of what you think. “Never met a stranger” means that if I meet a “stranger” that I treat them as if they were my best friend… thus “never met a stranger.” Get it?
Oh ok i see the punctuation there sorry lol
NP, sweetie 😘🥰💋
or maybe they have social anxiety?
@siegetiming Yeah, we’ve covered that, hun.