Do you see someone not holding their gaze while talking to you as a sign or weakness? Or even just a bad sign overall?

[Still-alive]

Cause i struggle holding a gaze. I just feel weird lol 😂

Yes its a sign of weakness to me

No but its still a bad sign overall

No i dont see it as a bad sign

It depends (please explain)

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+1 y

I maintain you can still be confident but not hold a gaze when talking to people :p

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+1 y

I have wondered if i was on the autist spectrum too but i never got tested for it though

[CrazyGirl2]

I don’t think is anything to do with weakness. If somebody will not look you right in the eye when they’re talking to you, they are either just plain rude, they’re autistic, OR they’re lying to you, and they know that they’re lying to you, and they know that you likely know that they know that they’re lying to you… THAT’S why they won’t look you right in the eye. (unless, like I said they’re autistic! In which case, awww poor thing, he tries so hard, but he just doesn’t get normal inter-personal behavior.).

[Still-alive]

I just get a bit anxious is all. No hiding or lying

[CrazyGirl2]

Really? I would not have pegged you being the type of guy that doesn’t look a girl right in the eyes when he’s talking to her.

[Still-alive]

Well if i knew she liked me i would otherwise yeah I struggle with it. Its not just girls too, guys as well.

[CrazyGirl2]

Wow… Color me shocked! You just seem so open, friendly, and outgoing. , I never would have guessed that you were nervous around strangers.

[Still-alive]

Yup im socially anxious in real life lol. I can be more open on here without the awkwardness… as much anyways lol

[CrazyGirl2]

I’m the total opposite! I’ve never met a “stranger”! I can go up to anyone and just start a conversation!

[Still-alive]

Neither have i. I even get a bit weirded out when strangers try to talk to me

[CrazyGirl2]

Oh, no sweetie. That saying means the opposite of what you think. “Never met a stranger” means that if I meet a “stranger” that I treat them as if they were my best friend… thus “never met a stranger.” Get it?

[Still-alive]

Oh ok i see the punctuation there sorry lol

[CrazyGirl2]

NP, sweetie 😘🥰💋

[Still-alive]

🥰😘

[siegetiming]

or maybe they have social anxiety?

[CrazyGirl2]

@siegetiming Yeah, we’ve covered that, hun.

[dustybiker]

The percentage of autism in the world these days is pretty high. Having worked with the disabled for decades, I know this is not a weakness nor bad. It doesn’t make a person less intelligent nor friendly. Some people are just trying to get through their day. I think ‘slight disability’ before I think ‘rude’.

[darkcloud1945]

Thank you... You said it better than I

[dustybiker]

@darkcloud1945 Oops. Sorry. Wasn’t trying to outdo you, I didn’t scroll replies this time.

[Sonorous]

I don't like to view it as a weakness or a strength thing. I just would have a hard time trusting them depending on what other vibes they're giving off. But if they weren't giving off and untrustworthy vibes, then I'd think they're kinda like me. I have a hard time thinking when looking into someone's eyes.

[DonkeyDan]

I wouldn't say weak, but certainly a sign of interpersonal and intrapersonal issues. Probably self esteem and confidence issues. It can also be a sign of dishonesty.

Or maybe the other person has a really ugly mug and they just can stand to look at them 🤣

[electromagnetic]

Don’t look me in my eyes when you talk to me peasant. I’m the queen.
nah. I personally wouldn’t take offence. Some people just don’t make eye contact and that’s perfectly fine.

[Still-alive]

*averts my eyes* :o

[PikNik77]

A lot of people do this. Sometimes eye contact is overrated. I’m thinking of all the wonderful discussions I’ve had with people over the years while sitting side by side, watching our children play, or fishing, or sitting around a campfire. For me it’s more peaceful to talk WITH someone rather than AT someone. This can’t always be the case of course, but no, it’s not weakness or a bad sign in my opinion.

[NathanDavis]

I don't see it as a weakness, and there could be many reasons as to why people would do this... I should know well, since I've been on both sides... growing up as a painfully shy kid through my childhood and for pretty much half of my life, and now being absolutely confident and comfortable with myself and others

now, I like staring/gaze contests... and I've never lost one yet, I can also -not blink- for the longest time

[Cherry234]

I don't think it's a bad sign or a weakness. I think it happens unintentionally to people. I'm guilty of not always making eye contact when I talk to people or when they talk to me. But now I should really try to make more of a conscious effort to look people in the eyes when I'm talking to them

[Cherry234]

I also wouldn't be offended if someone doesn't always make eye contact with me bc I understand. I wouldn't think that person has issues with me unless he/she shows other signs or lets me know

[Still-alive]

Id probly hold my gaze with you lol 😳

[Cherry234]

Good I'd like that 😊

[normalice]

Watching them talk distracts from hearing them talk, in my opinion.

[Still-alive]

Yeah i kinda agree

[DizzyDesii]

Right on. I find it awkward to just stare. I rather look at the ground as they speak 🤷‍♀️ if i stare at their face, im probably judging it rather than hearing them
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[karaspara]

I don't see it as a bad sign as such but I would think at best they are not interested in getting to know you

[Still-alive]

Im definitely interested usually but i just feel odd lol

[karaspara]

Why? Have some faith in yourself hun

[Still-alive]

I do :p

[karaspara]

We are all different I guess

[EnglishEuropean]

Just FYI kasparov some people have extreme difficulty making eye contact with people they're interested in.

[menina]

I don't think it's a sign of weakness but it's strange. We can't always make eye contact but if someone I'm talking with doesn't look at me, I started wondering if they got a problem with me.

[EnglishEuropean]

It's disconcerting but it could be due to mental illness/personality disorder. I know about this stuff but anyone who doesn't will see you as weak or untrustworthy.

Here's an interesting thing to try. When someone is talking to you avoid eye contact completely and see how long it takes them to trail off.

One tip I heard for maintaining eye contact is if you look at the bridge of their nose they will think you still have eye contact.

[serious]

It is a sign of not paying attention or not listening.

[Still-alive]

well i can assure them that i am listening

[DizzyDesii]

I dont like looking into each others eyes for long unless we’re having a romantic moment and professing our love. Otherwise i break eyecontact quickly

[purplepoppy]

No. Too much gazing can come across as aggressive or an attempt to dominate.

[15_Debo]

Got a magnetic and deep stare... they get nervous and scared
but generally yeah its a sign of weakness and vulnerability to me...

[loves2learn]

It is a common sign of autism. I don't think it necessarily shows weakness. But def not strength.

[Miss_Wats0n]

Some people get scared cause I hold my gazes for such a long time

[CallmeTheKnight]

Depends. If we're talking and neither one of us are working, then you should look at me as we talk.

[EssenceOfLight]

It means the person doesn't fear me and this is a mistake.

[Shamiah02]

Well a little bit yes

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No i dont see it as a bad sign

[Recurrence]

I have anxiety, so I get it

[Caramelpie]

You could be shy thats all

[darkcloud1945]

Could be on the autism spectrum

[Whatthefluff]

I feel the same.

[Fuentes]

No i find it SuS