What do you fear the most about getting older?

[Desconhecida]

[NamerOfStars]

Fortunately, I don't really have to fear the loss of appearance, both because I'm not that good looking to begin with and because the genetic evidence of my male relatives (who I very closely resemble) shows that yes, my hair will go gray fairly early (it's already started), but it won't stay that way for long; it'll go white, and then I'll be Santa Claus. So no problems there. On the mental front, well, Grandpa's going to be ninety this year, and he's still doing fine.

Of course, he's the only grandparent I have left; none of the others made it out of their sixties. Mom didn't even make it IN to them. But dying doesn't scare me so much as some other things. At one point, Mom and I went to see a neighbor in the hospital who was undergoing cancer treatments. Mom noticed that the glass of water on his bedside table was very near the edge, and (conscious of that sort of thing as someone very prone to spilling things herself), she reflexively moved it further back. He snapped at her to move it back, and she did, wondering why. It was only later, on the drive home, that she figured it out: the position of that cup was the one and only thing he had control over. He knew that he probably wasn't going to make it out of the hospital, and didn't want to give up the tiny bit of power that he still had. I never want to find myself in that situation.

[pass_the_celery98]

Being an old grumpy senile man. I want to be young at heart and be happy around others and not bitter. I want to be able to be 80 and still active, going on walks with my wife and seeing my kids get married and have wonderful careers. It's really the whole aging process, wrinkles and potential ailments and diseases. I want to eat right and exercise and to see, hear, walk and talk coherently.

[Anonymous]

Getting weak, getting tired more, having health problems, having to depend on someone to care for me. Becoming absolutely hideous and depressed because of it. Feeling like I missed out on opportunities for love and Romance and money and work-job opportunities. Opportunities for adventure.

This is why I hope to die as soon as I hit 50. Once I’m 50 I no longer have a sex drive. Once I’m 50 I no longer can make babies. Once I’m 50 I already am deteriorating. I’m 24 now, and I’ve been through countless close call deaths. I’ve been in car crashes, motorcycle crashes, almost getting ran over.. and so on.
Also someone told me that my hand reading says that I’m gonna die early. Can’t wait because death is a beautiful thing.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't want to be isolated or bored when I'm older - I want to have my own kids or adopt so that if I'm dying I have people visiting me and caring for me during my last days. So isolation and being homeless because I'm too weak to work and earn money - those are my two biggest concerns. I see happy seniors all the time but back then saving for the future was possible because inflation was slow and property was affordable so a person could buy a lavish and big house for a modest price.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't know. I'll tell you when I get old. :)

[devoygf]

funny guy

[OlderAndWiser]

@devoygf Oh, I try to be!

[Medicalbug]

Getting sick and feeling my body just degrade. They say that if you transported a 20 year old into the body of the average 70 year old, they would probably just scream in pain. Fortunately, you "get used to it"? But yeah, there is no benefit to aging - it just sucks and means you are rotting. People are always like "oh be thankful you are even here, some people never have the privilege of growing old". Umm okay, sure, it's better than being dead? Your point? It still sucks and it would be nice if medicine advanced enough to fix it.

[ohshee]

Nothing at all it's the cycle of life as we get older we're still the same person on the inside because we will always be that person we are that energy we are that light the outside of a body changes all ourselves inside of our body increases we start out as one cell and we multiply each and every day after that that's what makes our skin look the way that it does but no matter what we are still at person on the inside if people only understood you need to eat the right Foods you need to exercise and eat healthy what you put in your body is what you're going to get out of your body and if you want longevity you have to start now I feel bad for all the kids it don't eat nothing but junk and food and junk junk food they sit on their butts and play video games all day the immune system is 0 they have no strength they can't do much and when they get older it's going to show they will fill it in their body

[ObscuredBeyond]

The women aren't getting any closer to getting their sanity restored. An old nutcase with experience can hurt you worse than some dumb college girl can.

At age 20, all they want is for some photogenic fantasy prince to screw their brains out. When anyone less approaches to offer them something more reasonable, you find out who the tire slashers are pretty quickly.

At age 30, all they want is their pack of Marlboro. And if they can't have it, you have hell to pay. Finding one who doesn't smoke usually leads to finding other reasons to wish she were institutionalized. So you're alone.

Then 40 hits. They're mostly fried from drugs and smoking. They've had more one night stands than they can remember. They have four kids. And if you blow them off, they are ready to bomb your house.

But being lonely sucks at any age. So it's a no-win situation.

[CT_CD]

Looking old. So far no wrinkles thanks to my intense anti aging regimen. I believe in taking care of myself, and a balanced diet and a rigorous exercise routine. In the morning, if my face is a little puffy, I'll put on an ice pack while doing my stomach crunches. I can do a thousand now. After I remove the ice pack, I use a deep pore cleanser lotion. In the shower, I use a water activated gel cleanser. Then a honey almond body scrub. And on the face, an exfoliating gel scrub. Then apply an herb mint facial mask, which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine. I always use an aftershave lotion with little or no alcohol, because alcohol dries your face out and makes you look older. Then moisturizer, then an anti-aging eye balm followed by a final moisturizing protective lotion.

[crimsonandclover2]

Well done for having a skincare routine, most guys don't do this. But why do you need a double cleanser and then an exfoliating gel scrub? Unless you're wearing makeup (I assume you don't, since you're a guy), you don't need a double cleanser. Also, I've read somewhere that you shouldn't exfoliate more than twice a week, because exfoliating every day can cause your skin to become highly sensitive and strip it off its natural oils

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am scared my boyfriend will not like me anymore… I am really scared will find some younger girls more and more attractive. That’s all. If anything, I’d rather die young than see my loved one not being attracted to me anymore.

I am also scared of losing my family…

[Mary087]

If he’s really a gentleman and cares about you he’ll love you regardless. Guys make age a big deal. Just take care of yourself and he’ll also appreciate that but mostly do it for you first

[dustybiker]

I wouldn’t have liked to get frail. You see young people get irritated at elderly struggling at a register. It breaks my heart as they often are sweet and know they are holding up the line and feel horrible.. and shouldn’t. I’ve had to remind those who make obnoxious comments that one day, if lucky, they too will get old.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

My health and arthritis.
I wouldn't like the idea of not being able to move around like I used to, especially being in pain every time I move or walk.
I don't want my health to be bad bad. I want to at least reach the age of 100 and die right after my 100th birthday because that'd be an achievement for me.

[StephBelsten]

Missing out.

That could take countless different forms, but I hate feeling like I could have done something but missed the chance. There are things I wish I did as a kid that sure, I could emulate now, but it just wouldn't be the same, you know?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

The losses that become more common with age. I'll never be ready to part with my older family members.

[NorthAfrican]

Seeing people I love especially relatives of mine pass away.

And ultimately my own death IF i didn't reach my full spiritual potential yet.

[TheAfrikan]

@NorthAfrican hey which North African country you from Egypt or Tunisia.

[NorthAfrican]

@TheAfrikan Tunisian

[TheAfrikan]

Just felt the taste and appearance of a Tunisian genes in ya. Hapoy to meet you though. And are you still in Tunisia @NorthAfrican

[alex687]

all the pain that comes with being old, i used to lived with my grandma and her boyfriend and go out to , lunch or shopping with my aunt and they would say dont get old and groan when they get up or say my knees hurt and everything else and talk about what hurts and happens to them

[Cerberus_1773]

Being old and alone
And also if I had to wear adult diapers 😖

[Agape93]

Nothing really. I get too old where I can't live how I want, I punch the time clock.

[Justneedtokno]

Not doing enough in my younger years to cushion my older ones especially if they take social security away

[jshm2]

Where I will continue to hide the rest of the bodies I drained of their youth?

More seriously though, getting old is nothing to fear. Death is something to fear, and it's not a given you'll be old before it happens.

[Horror_lover92]

I'm afraid that my body wouldn't be able to handle the size of my boobs. I'm already starting to have pains due to the size and I just think it will get worse as I get older.

[DamnSam]

One day I will not be able to lift my daughter anymore

To die poor

[Wester1967]

Nothing. Bring on the horror and terror. I'll blow weed smoke in the devil's face.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tU34EY7OhVo

[Jaximus-Lion]

So far! Nothing. I know i will go blind at some point in my 60's or 70's. Am already bald, started losing hair when i was 17. I feel at times some back pain so i keep working out.

[horatiohornblower]

Losing my mind is one of the worst. Such as with dementia or a stroke. Then it would be loss of control of bodily functions or physical deterioration causing constant pain.

[Amy10223]

I fear not having someone to share life with, getting lonely and most of all--getting sick too soon and not taking care of what I need to; mostly with my children.

[Lliam]

Living in poverty without enough retirement income.

[petitedollbabee]

My health. I already feel as if I’m 60 due to chronic illnesses, so I hate to imagine how poor my health will be when I’m actually 60.

[cookiecrusher]

Don't worry, at least you already have 40 years of experience🙃

[Xoxocutekitty]

Going to the dentist. I hate going now but I imagine you only hear worse things as you get older

[NathanDavis]

to end up connected to a machine that will keep me "alive"

[NathanDavis]

which I realize, could happen at any change but you know... chances are chances (knocking on wood)

[Puppystarfish23]

Not being able to do everything I want in my life before I get too old to. Not having children and being poor and ugly

[CaptainOverthink]

Healthissues.
It's what will restrict you from living to the fullest. Looks fade, that's inevitable. But you'd want to keep your health.

[MTC29]

I'm in good health, and I want to stay that way. Otherwise, there's nothing to actually fear about aging. You just get older.

[Cherry234]

My metabolism slowing down and not having as much energy

[TheLittleInnocent]

Everything tbh. Getting frail, weak and helpless? Count me out. Hope I die in my 30s lol.

[ChattyGuy43]

I'm sure you'll be fine, i didn't want to be in my 30s either
let it come, take one day at a time

[Genie23]

Losing people I love before I die and being dependant on people for everything.

[WhiteSteve]

Deterioration of my looks, for whatever they were worth to start with, haha

[Iron_Man]

Dying being stuck in a nursing home and being beaten by someone in their 20s when I know in my prime I could destroy them. Being alone on the earth
horrifying

[shaysh87]

you're already 42, you better hurry up.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 Well that’s a real nice positive comment

[shaysh87]

honestly if i were you, i would just settle for a woman, have some kids so I would stop worrying about it. Because reality is, finding someone only gets harder as you get older. And raising kids doesn't come easier as you get older too.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 🥲

[crimsonandclover2]

@shaysh87 that's not a nice comment. First of all, 42 isn't an old age at all. And Ironman is chased by women wherever he goes, because he's so handsome. Secondly, one should never settle in a relationship with someone they aren't compatible with. That's a recipe for disaster and leads to divorce and unhappiness

[Iron_Man]

@crimsonandclover2 Thank you so much you made my night I was feeling depressed when she left me these comments

[crimsonandclover2]

@Iron_Man you're very welcome 😊
Don't listen to them, you're the best

[shaysh87]

@crimsonandclover2

i don't think you're doing him any real favors. Because feeling good does not equal a good future. Its the people who are HONEST and tell you what you need to do, provide constructive criticism rather than those who will try to make you feel better but provide nothing that can actually improve his situation.

Just because it doesn't sound good, it doesn't mean its not good helpful advice. Not everything sounds great in life.

[shaysh87]

@crimsonandclover2

[Secondly, one should never settle in a relationship with someone they aren't compatible with. That's a recipe for disaster and leads to divorce and unhappiness]

Not everyone can find love in life. There are many people who die alone. But some people would think its better to have kids in life than to die with no kids, no wife, no family.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 I don’t know if you’re from what continent but you can’t come on here telling Americans this kind of bullshit look at yourself in the mirror old lady

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

Do you really believe you're still young? do you really think you have the next 10 years to find someone? I'm doing you a favor by telling you to hurry up. Because once you turn 48, your chances of finding someone is slim to none. Sure, take your time. Don't go out to meet women, just take a look at what your late 40s would be like.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 that’s a lie

[Iron_Man]

You are a hater and a troublemaker coming in my area starting trouble

[crimsonandclover2]

@shaysh87 I'm being honest too and offering my honest opinion too.. If you disagree with it it's your own problem. People can get married and find love at any age. Many women actually like older guys.
Also, I don't remember Ironman asking for your advice, so it's rude to come out of nowhere and say these stuff

[shaysh87]

@crimsonandclover2

you're not honest. because you would know it gets increasingly difficult to find someone as you get older. I'm just warning him. But apparently some people are too emotional to take constructive criticism.

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

I think you already know what is ahead of you. You're just arguing with me because you are in denial.

But regardless, good luck!!

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 typical person attacking a white guy I know who you are and exactly what you’re looking for trouble you’re the one that’s gonna grow old by yourself without any kids and So get the hell out of here before I get angry

[Iron_Man]

Hater..

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

Single women like me can have kids and a family. Single men can't. why do you think you're still single and childless at your age?

I'm not old. I'm far far younger than you.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 pound for pound you’re older than me that’s how it works also have you ever heard of COVID-19 I’ve had plenty woman in my life plus I’ve had COVID-19 myself so you know your role sit down and shut up

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

Its hilarious how you're 12 years older than me and you still call me old. If I'm old, then what are you?

I can have a family/ kids as a single woman. I don't have to die alone

[Iron_Man]

You don’t have a boyfriend you don’t have children you have five years left to have a child and then
It’s over for you not for me case closed

[shaysh87]

I can easily go to a sperm bank to have kids. Women can have kids up until 40 or even after 40 with IVF. I don't have to wait until I'm 42, depressed and still no kids in sight.

[Iron_Man]

most normal women have kids in their 20s what are you waiting for it sounds like you’re the one that’s depressed and upset and you’re taking your struggles out on me, it takes a long time for you to find a man to get to know him years in the making so you don’t have a lot of time left

[Iron_Man]

Of all the people that posted in here you came to my area why?

[shaysh87]

For the First Time Ever, Thirty-Something Women Are Having More Babies Than Their Twenty-Something Counterparts

slate.com/.../...than-women-in-their-twenties.html

[shaysh87]

More American women are having babies in their 30s than their 20s

www.marketwatch.com/.../american-women-are-having-babies-later-and-are-still-conflicted-about-it-2017-05-19

[shaysh87]

how am i taking out my struggles onto you? if im just giving you some advice?

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 The last dance is getting pregnant at the age of 34 right after your birthday anything after 35 is very risky and very dangerous you don’t want to put yourself at risk so you better start getting after it right away and just settle for any Tom Dick or hairy

[shaysh87]

The risk is not high until after the age of 36. But there will always be a risk of birthing issues or problems at any age. I know a woman at 21 who gave birth to an autistic baby. And your sperm quality doesn't get better as you get older either.

I can opt to have kids at 31, 34 or 38. I can pick whenever I want to have kids.

[Iron_Man]

Because you’re trolling me because I’m the best looking guy on the site I can understand why you would wanna do that for my attention

[shaysh87]

I don't need a man to have kids, hun. Unlike you, you need a wife to have your kids. I don't need to be afraid of dying alone.

[shaysh87]

I'm 30, i don't date guys over 40.

[Iron_Man]

You could have said hi and been friendly but now every time we argue you put my account at risk

[shaysh87]

hey, i just came on here to offer some advice. i never came on here for a fight either. you just turned it into a fight

[Iron_Man]

I hate to break it to you many women love old man

[shaysh87]

haha take a look at marriage statistics, they will prove you wrong.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 I’ve already seen with my very own eyes

[Iron_Man]

You woman are basically on the clock with beauty and children

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

Its very uncommon for a young woman to go for an old man. And even when it does happen, young women typically go for men in their early 40s, not late 40s or 50s or 60s. But marriage records show that vast majority of marriages are less than 10 years apart.

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

Empirical evidence has also accumulated in support of women's preferences for older men, and as you might expect, the data often overlap with those data supporting men's preferences. As this sample of Conroy-Beam and Buss's (2019) review suggests:

Cross-culturally, women report wanting partners who are (on average) 3.5 years older than them.
In online dating, women make the first contact with older men at a greater than rate they do younger men.
Marriage records show that women are marrying men who are older than they are by about 3 years.

www.psychologytoday.com/.../what-we-know-about-age-gaps-in-dating-love-and-marriage

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

Muslims have the widest spousal age gap (6.6 years between men and their wives or partners), followed by Hindus (5.6 years), Christians (3.8), Buddhists (2.9), the religiously unaffiliated (2.3) and Jews (2.1).

www.pewresearch.org/.../

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 I see it every day everywhere man 30 years older or more

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

en.wikipedia.org/.../Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships

overwhelming majority of marriage age differences are less than 10 years apart.

[shaysh87]

For me, I'm personally not attracted to old guys with wrinkles, weight gain, hair loss, erectile dysfunction, sagginess, white hairs. The vast majority of women aren't either. Because its not a sign of healthy sperm.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 Good gracious girl I’m going to eat dinner now give me a break

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

well according to studies, only 1% of marriages are 20+ years apart.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 we definitely talked before and you’re hurt by the other questions that you’ve seen on the site

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

sorry dude, I didn't mean to hurt you. But you need a reality check.

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

well bullying of women is sure rampant on this website. you clearly know that

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 What the heck you’re the one that’s giving me trouble my page not me on yours

[shaysh87]

I don’t know what guys like you are saying a lot of young women like old men. I’m not attracted to old guys. Neither are any of my female friends in their 20s-30s. Personally I wouldn’t marry anyone who I can’t grow old with. That’s why I wouldn’t even consider anyone over 40

[shaysh87]

If you’re 15 years older than me, do you really think I’ll be happy being married to a 60 yr old senior citizen by the time I hit 45?

[shaysh87]

I’m not going into the elderly home with you.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 You
are a hater and I’m not 15 years older than you As far as I’m concerned you’re old and I date younger woman then you. You’ll just slow me down. And who in their right mind goes to a nursing home at the age of 60 you’re very mentally confused

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

Most young women in their 20s are not interested in men in their 40s. Marriage records show. Plenty of women in their 30s aren't even marrying guys in their 40s. Most women in their 30s marry guys in their 30s.

I'm not attracted to guys in their 40s by the way. Sorry. but if you're not attracted to wrinkly women, why would I be attracted to wrinkly men?

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

and what makes you think you're not a hater. I've seen you around for a long time. You're said tons of nasty shit about older women. and now I told you that I'm not attracted to you and you're all butt hurt.

Maybe you're still single at 42 because you're shallow and picky. You only date women in their 20s. Until they run out by the time you hit your 40s.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 Of course you’re sexually attracted to me that’s why you’re all over me and you’ve known me for years. You just won’t admit who you are because you don’t have the balls to come forward. I don’t date women older than 29 so how does that grab you? Where is your picture what country are you from your very mysterious

[Iron_Man]

You can’t hide on a fake account and play catfish games with me how long have you known me I’m not gonna tolerate your trolling if you dance around my questions Im just gonna put you in timeout

[shaysh87]

maybe if you were less shallow and actually date a woman for her heart and not her looks, then you would already be married by now.

And no, I won't date you cuz I am not attracted to old guys. I'll date young guys while I still can.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 I am a young good looking guy and I know who you are now Alice. There’s a price to pay for insubordination and trolling on a catfish account

[Iron_Man]

How does it feel to be blocked for quite a long time after you get this last message that’s it for you

[shaysh87]

@Iron_Man

do you realize guys who are still single in their 40s are usually single for a reason?

one of the biggest reasons are being shallow. you only date women of a certain age. You only date 18 yr olds then dump them by the time they turn 30 for another 18 yr old. If you're not willing to date a 30 yr old, whats gonna happen once your wife hits 30?

[shaysh87]

do you realize that a 40 yr old guy insisting on only dating women in their 20s, says a lot about your character as a person? Most 40 yr old guys would have no problem with a 30 yr old woman. I know from experience.

[Iron_Man]

@shaysh87 you’re just a troll that has a crush on me Alice

[psychotictreehugger]

ecoming my mother

Being the last one

Not being beautiful

[Harleigh90]

Losing my nan. Or running out of time to have a child 🥺

[Carolus]

That I will die before meeting the girl of my dreams.

[Adam1978]

The body failing especially things like memory and movement.

[Malgaran]

Can't say I fear anything, just look forward to dying.

[sheikalana]

My appearance, low metabolism, afraid of not being as active as I am now, afraid of losing my independence and be dependent on others.

[Ian69]

It’s when you reach the age where life stops giving you things and starts taking them away.

[AncientWisdom]

Not being able to tend to myself. That sucks on so many levels.

[Elise888888]

Being put in a nursing home, and also dying, and having my loved ones die before me.

[andreasderjuengere]

I'd be worried to become the kind of person that I despise.
Many of my ex classmates had become ''good citizens'' even in their 30's already.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I don't fear getting old. I am too busy enjoying life to even think about it!

[Bel88]

Turning into someone ugly. Grey hair and wrinkles - no thanks!

[Fromdusktilldawn]

well I'm a pretty lonely person
I fear I'll miss out the fun that should be in a students life (fun with friends, travelling, party), having a girlfriend etc

[SHB84]

The chance of alzheimers or dementia... and my balls hanging so low that I can't wear shorts because they fall out... having to do an old woman or women kinda grosses me out too.

[Julyus01]

I fear of not being able to see and experience life with my future grand children

[Shayedd]

Nonexistence. (figuratively and literally)

Social behavior post-pandemic has only exacerbated this.

[ChattyGuy43]

I'm 44 and I have a lot of grey hair which is overtaking my brown/ginger hair, even my beard is grey, i'm embracing the saltNpeppa look now.

[humanearth]

Not being able to fight back, its gets to the point where you can't defend yourself

[SmolSlav]

Is there a reason you think people would want to fight you? People don't just randomly start fights unless you're giving them a reason to fight you.

[humanearth]

@SmolSlav how does someone in their 70s, 80s 90s or even 100 years defend themselves

[SmolSlav]

You don't really see many people attacking old people

[humanearth]

@SmolSlav thats my fear as I get older. I have heard and seen on Television of senior citizens being attacked.

[SmolSlav]

I don't think it's really that common

[Nagahime]

Being alone and realizing I didn't accomplish shit in my life

[HIlary48tgkgkgg]

You have your whole life to accomplish goals!

[Juxtapose]

Dying in some miserable nursing home all alone because I am younger and healthier than most of my friends.

[AnthonyJ01]

I don't. Getting older is just a part of aging and you cannot escape it. There are advantages and disadvantages to getting older, but you should never fear it.

[Kyle-Jackson78]

being utterly alone which i already am... so i have nothing to fear then

[Anonymous]

I don't like aging in general. Aging sucks.
i want to stay young for long.
i want girls also. They're so lovable ❤💙
and Getting older isn't working in my favor.

[magiusX26]

watching the world fall away yet no end in site for myself.

[Dchrls78104]

Being TREATED like something old---and thrown away.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

The loss of independence and freedom of movement. Once you become elderly you become dependent on others.