Can you help me choose between two colleges?

[bunnyboo364]

The first one is very beautiful from the outside. I haven’t looked inside the actual university. It’s only 30 minutes from my house. The only downside is there’s lack of diversity. I’m black which definitely plays a big part in that. I’ve also heard how the students are extremely racist. I don’t know them personally, but when I was looking at them; I got a very “snobby, rich popular kid” vibe from all of them.

The second one is beautiful outside and inside, not as beautiful as the first one. The people all seem to be very down to earth and nice. There’s a lot of diversity and support. They have these food delivery robots. I also have a friend who goes there. But the only downside is it’s 3 hours away from home. My grandma said she could take me home every weekend if i’d like. But I’m afraid of missing my baby sister. She’s only one years old and yeah i’ll be able to call, but I don’t wanna miss her growing up. But I also don’t wanna go to a college close by and encounter racism

[AviatorTom]

Your descriptions of the two colleges are very superficial, and you don't mention cost. Most colleges are picked using primarily two criteria: the field you want to study, what degree do you want to get that's going to help you in your future career; and cost, can you afford the college (include any scholarships, work-study programs, etc.)

When my 3 kids were electing college at your age, they picked 5 colleges that they would like to attend. All had the programs they were interested in, and were affordable. Each of my kids had great college experiences that led to the careers each is in now.

[bunnyboo364]

How is me making sure i’m comfortable and not being mistreated superficial? I agee but I have that stuff figured out. That’s why those two colleges out of the 8 I was accepted into were the ONLY ones I was asking about because I narrowed it down.

[bunnyboo364]

Agree*

[AviatorTom]

@bunnyboo364 Maybe "superficial" was too strong a term, sorry if it offended you.. What I meant is that your descriptions didn't mention at all the education side of the colleges, and as I pointed out, that's probably the most important thing in going to college.

[bunnyboo364]

No you’re all good! Sorry for not mentioning that part too😭💞

[AviatorTom]

@bunnyboo364 I should have mentioned the reason for applying to 5 colleges that have the programs you're interested in. School counselors suggested that. Apply to 3 colleges that you should (but might not) be accepted at (excellent education), 1 college that it's unlikely but possible (the "stretch" choice, usually the best academically), and 1 college that you definitely would be accepted at (okay education).

[exitseven]

You sound like you had a good handle on it. Glad you had a good outcome. I had a similar experience.

[DaveJord]

Your black, well then nice profile pic... that's the pot calling the kettle black. Is this a real post or did you cut and paste some bullshit and read it through? Or do you have insecurities about race?

Honestly it doesn't matter what college you go to as long as you get the degree... so I would chose the cheapest one that allows you the most affordable housing options... your hung up on some things that I think you need to get over. If you have some insecurities about race you better confront that early on in your life or it will haunt you every where you go.

[DonkeyDan]

I think you are looking at the criteria of the college's the wrong way, you need to choose a college based on how well it is going to educate you and provide for you needs. I doesn't matter what the place looks like if it's a good college and will serve you well. I do think going to a college with diversity is important for everyone, and the issue with your sister, well I understand that it would be difficult but this is your future your looking at here. Most people are only going to have one shot at getting a good college education, choose your college for the right reasons.

[RealMarek]

Connections with wealthy people are very helpful in business. It sucks, but the reality is that the people who control where investments go don’t treat people equally, but tend to pick their friends and contacts. This is why the school near your home is perhaps the better choice. I doubt racism will be as much of an issue as, if it is the case, that you are not rich. But there are probably a lot of nice people there too. You could save on rent (which is rising fast due to inflation) by living at home too.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would suggest going to the college where your grandma could get you but take turns visiting your little baby sister, too bad you weren't in Pennsylvania there are colleges that are not allowed to have racism it's a crime.. Sorry you are up against this :) 🤗

[jamesgoldman]

I picked between 2

One was a 30 minute train ride but it was too glossy and smelt new but felt superficial

The other was close to 2 hours away by train in the opposite direction but was a dated tower block and I fell for it the moment I set foot on a carpet made of chewing gum

I picked the second and met two of my longest standing friends in the process

[exitseven]

You do not look black in your pic. Maybe nobody will notice.

[bunnyboo364]

that’s because my pfp is a french singer 😭 not me

[exitseven]

okay- sorry. I will be serious now. I would check out the close school again. Maybe you just got the wrong impression. However if you are uncomfortable there you should go to the other one. You do not need distractions when You are trying to pass your exams.

[MCheetah]

If you're focused on "diversity and racism" when it comes to college, you might as well flush your money down the toilet now and major in Gender Studies.

[RealMarek]

One would have thought it is flushing money down the toilet, but the gender studies people are in high demand in HR and diversity departments now. But this won’t last long if the economy continues to go to hell.

[bunnyboo364]

I’m focused on it because why would I want to go to a college that I don’t feel comfortable in and get mistreated for 4 years? It’s common sense

[MCheetah]

@bunnyboo364
Do you seriously think people go to college just to be racist to you? Do you also seriously think an entire student body of thousands of students are there just to "be snobby to the black girl" there? Also, do you not see how discriminatory that is? Accusing an entire group of (white) people of being "racist" while claiming to be the "non-racist one?"

[bunnyboo364]

clearly you can’t read and you like to assume stuff? when did i say people come to school to be racist? because i didn’t say that at all. other black people FROM that school, shared their many experiences of being mistreated because of their skin color? now don’t sit here and try to make it seem like i’m in the wrong for making sure that i’m in a safe and comfortable environment. how are you older than me but can’t simply understand that 💀 i’m embarrassed for you

[MCheetah]

@bunnyboo364
Okay, I don't have time to sit here and listen to you whine. Have fun being a victim.

[Danny_dan92]

Pick whichever one has the best programs based on the fields of study you wish to study.

[Anonymous]

here's a wild and crazy idea but have you actually looked into the cirriculums at each college? you still need the 120 credits to graduate with either a BA or BS or some other undergrad degree. did you do research on the teachers/professors there and how they are with the students? instead of worrying about your liberal ideas and racism and all that bullshit how about focusing on the actual classes and what they consist of and who's teaching them

[Iron_Man]

You’re gonna have to tour the schools from the inside to. I thought you were a white girl the whole time. The girl in your pic

[bunnyboo364]

oh no! it’s a singer, i probably should’ve made that more clear😭

[Iron_Man]

Oh ok

[WhitneySnow]

Definitely pick the second one

[bunnyboo364]

okok

[FunkyMonkee]

If that's your picture, you sure don't look black to me!

[driven159]

you won't miss out if you are home every weekend and you will have all summer and spring breaks and holidays

[SignedAutographs]

Unfortunately, no, I can't. That's something you'll have to decide on your own

[Anonymous]

If you’re concerned about diversity just go to a black college.

[Selena1987]

I’ll choose the first one

[msc545]

Find a third alternative.