Is jealousy a deal breaker for you?

[TheMajesticKing777]

Personally I actually like jealousy in a partner, it just shows the person cares and if they are confrontational about it, I actually enjoy making the person feel better and watch their mood change but I heard many people find it a deal breaker or don't like it, why?

[NathanDavis]

not quite, no...

but that depends on the level and extreme of the jealousy, lol

one my ex-girlfriends used to be very jelly, and she would act upon those feelings as well... but we worked on it, and we worked quite actively on it so we made it to a point in which she was able to control it and eventually it went away, and that was possible because most of it came from past and bad experiences which, were just not present in our relationship so, it all got better sooner rather than later

now, if the someone was jealous but not willing nor capable to control and adjust their jealous ways, then I would never get into that kind of relationship because it can get unhealthy and toxic AF

[TheMajesticKing777]

I said jealousy not toxicity 😂

[NathanDavis]

jealousy can turn into toxicity... that is for sure, and have no doubt about it... lol

[TheMajesticKing777]

You pour soul

[NathanDavis]

hopefully, you won't find out by yourself... lol

[TheMajesticKing777]

Yea hopefully not 🤣

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

It’s a blurry line… Lol. Because there’s normal, healthy amount of jealousy in a relationship/partner, and then there’s an obsession, unhealthy about of jealousy…


I would like if my partner had a healthy amount of jealousy in the relationship. Getting jealous about things like hanging out 1:1 with the opposite sex, or getting jealous of others flirting with you… Those are more mild jealousy factors, to me.


An unhealthy amount of jealousy in a partner, is someone who gets jealous about you even talking to someone of the opposite sex (doesn’t even care if it’s a boss or coworker), getting jealous of an animal who licks you, getting jealous of a family member giving you a hug, getting jealous if someone new of the opposite sex follows you on social media.. Things like that, are unacceptable. I do not want that.

[belle_kai]

It depends, there's levels to it. Some jealous is good but some people take it overboard. If the waiter was too attentive my ex didn't like it, a guy couldn't look at me for too long. Even when I spoke highly of my hairdresser! And my hairdresser is gay (male) nuts really

[TheMajesticKing777]

Agreed

[jahaims]

Jealousy is immature. It has nothing to do with caring about someone.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Jealousy is a human emotion, calling a human emotion immature because you believe it's a negative emotion is immature

[jahaims]

It is immature because it is selfish

[TheMajesticKing777]

Having an emotion is selfish? I would agree that some people can act selfish responding to their emotion but simply feeling it isn't selfish

[jahaims]

Selfish -concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.

Jealous- feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages.

Envy-a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities, or luck.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I'm talking about in a relationship, not with peoples accomplishments, then that would mean everyone is selfish

[jahaims]

A relationship is an accomplishment. Not everyone is only concerned with their own profit or pleasure. Sorry if that is all you have had a chance to experience in life.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Jealousy only happens when you care about something or else there would be nothing to be jealous about, agree to disagree tho

[jahaims]

The something is theirself. Jealous when your s/o is spending time with others is caring about yourself because you aren't getting what you want in that moment from someone else. That has nothing to do with caring for your s/o.

[TheMajesticKing777]

If you didn't care about the person you wouldn't be jealous tho

[jahaims]

You just don't understand what jealousy is then bud.

[TheMajesticKing777]

And you do? You are the one acting like you've never been jealous before

[TheMajesticKing777]

Either you are a hypocrite or you yourself don't know what jealousy is

[Anonymous]

no i lıke it when he is jealous its a sign that he cares for me

[TheMajesticKing777]

I agree

[bakajana]

I think the same way as you, as long as it's not toxic

[Kkoalalita]

To a certain extent. Like u said it shows they care but if it goes to far they look insecure

[TheMajesticKing777]

Makes sense

[JoyGirl]

No….

[TheMajesticKing777]

I finally gathered enough slap points to kick you to the moon, I was saving it

[TheMajesticKing777]

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[JoyGirl]

Chris, you still think you are stronger than me, huh? 🤔

[TheMajesticKing777]

Yes cause I have invincibility now 😌

[JoyGirl]

Indeed. 😏

[Passing_by]

Too much of it, yes

[TheMajesticKing777]

Fair enough