How does a girl deal with a totally non jealous or non possessive boyfriend?

[kriskiss]

OK so no girl I imagine wants a real possessive jealous boyfriend at all...that's likely to drive a girl away which is understandable I guess. but what if she's with a guy who does not show the least bit sign of possessiveness or jealousy like if she's flirting with another guy and he does not look or care one bit...would a girl be slightly at all offended by this. Does she expect or like her guy to sometimes act a little jealous or possessive or not. I read and hear that some girls like it a little bit Because it shows the guy cares...but what if a guy does not show any at all...is that a deal breaker for a relationship with a guy for a woman or no...do explain...thanks

[heartsong]

Its okay to show possessiveness over someone you're dating, its NOT OK to be obsessed. You have to find the right balance between sitting back and watching her flirt with another guy and freaking out when she does something without you. A girl wants to feel as though she's cared about. The next time sed girl is flirting with another guy and he flirts back, come up behind her and put your arms around her, like " Hey she's mine but there's no reason we all can't be friends." The girl WILL be offended if you act like you're not even together.

[elliesaur]

Wouldn't the guy be offended that the girl's flirting with other dudes in front of him? Who the hell does that anyway? If your boyfriend would do that right you'd probably slap him and walk away.

[heartsong]

Lol.. I thought about that a few minutes after I hit submit.

[elliesaur]

Perhaps he trusts you enough not to make a scene about it? Guys don't really show emotions, especially in public, so why would you assume he'd open up about it? A lot of guys feel that jealousy is a sign of weakness, and they're not really into admitting they're vulnerable to your actions and most won't put themselves up for being hurt if you decide to play with their heart to teach them a lesson.

I think if a guy tells you "i want you all to myself" and "you're mine", that should be enough.

[EnslaveMenForever]

It depends on the girl, but you shouldn't mold yourself to the person you are with if you have balls, but...you know...if you don't just do whatever she wants. After all, co dependence is super attractive...

[Anonymous]

Life is what it is. It's short. Why spend your whole life worried about her talking to other men. I would rather never be jealous. It's not fun for me. Only for her. I might even lose intrust since I want to be excited when I see her as much as she is in me. Like in my dreams. Trust her instead is fun. Maybe he hates games as much as I do and he doesn't want them in his head or his stomach and fights in the future. Respect his care in a way that makes him excited like he loves being around you without the stomach aches.

[DS4L_]

Either he was shot down by his ex because she didn't like it, so now he's insecure, or he isn't that into you. If a guy really likes you, he doesn't want to share you. That's just how it works. But if a guy thinks you won't like him if he acts that way, he won't show anything.

[kriskiss]

perfect point and good advice but really didn't anser my ?

[DS4L_]

Either talk to him or dump him. That isn't a relationship that you'll be comfortable in.

[Anonymous]

It would be a deal breaker for me. A little jealousy is healthy, normal, and let's me know he cares for me. Plus I'm not the type of person to hide my jealousy so it'd feel weird being the only one jealous. Even tho that's not possible, everyone feels it at some point.

[Lavichan]

I asked my boyfriend one time about why he doesn't get jealous (actually many, many different times) and the deepest answer I could get out of him was that he was afraid of losing control to the point of hurting someone, so he's always maintaining his cool-headed composure to prevent that from happening. If it's a healthy relationship, and the guy never seems to be jealous or possessive, it's possible that he just has awesome self-control.

[twilover1]

As someone that's in a relationship with a man who is not jealous or possessive at all, hell he barely shows emotions lol.. I can say that its a relief... But I would like to know every once in awhile that the something I did made him jealous.

I got jealous of one of his friends that's a girl and he got totally pissed about it.

I would much rather him show a little something. But just because he don't doesn't mean its done.. because like I said the non jealousy is nice :)

[LonelyandInTheDark]

actually, I would be a little turned on by a possessive significant other.

hope this doesn't make me sound weird or anything...

[kriskiss]

not at all

[Anonymous]

an immature and crazy bitch yes she would. but relationships with mature people do not need these stupid mental manipulations

[Anonymous]

perhaps your boyfriend is an easy-going friendly socila type that loves to hang with his friends...