What will be your solution to this case, Fire the person, deduct the money off her salary or what else?

[Anonymous]

There is a situation at home. We have a madi taht comes to the house to do house chores 3 days a week. This maid had been with us for more than 10 years because first she assisted my grandmother at my house while my grandma was ill and living at my house for some years, so she was there to assist her but from time to time this maid also help around the house, then after my grandma passed away, my mom told her to stay at home to help us around the house doing house chores, the years went by (like 3 after my grnadma died) and my dad got sick so she helped us with my dad assistance as well. My dad died almsot 8 years ago and my mom told her to stay with us to continue helping us and also to help mom with house assistance besides doing house chores. This maid my aunts and cousins know her since the years she assisted my grandma. This maid , according to her she has fond of my relatives. For mothers day (only to my mom) for Christmas, this maid always give my sister my brother my mom or me gifts. But this maid has soem flaws, she is a bit of manipulative or like to win my mom heart by convincing of things beause mom is a soft and has a good heart. Also she has this flaw of when she cleans stuff in the house, she put things in another place different so we assume the thing is lost, stolen or where she put it, when we ask her she tells us where she put the item, but when she does it at the moment she does not tell us.

This is something my brother can't stand, that she has my mom wrapped around her little finger and my mom defend her for certain things. My mom is now an elder woman and even though she is independent in many things, it is important for someone else to be in the house to assist her, my mom always will thank her for assisting our grandma and dad at home when they both were alive. I think this maid has problem of try to understand things, and has no initiative I dont know if that is a mental issue.

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Well it turns out that my brother lost some money last Friday at his bedroom and he is 100% where that money was as he had never spent it and it has been there for a long time and told us he is not crazy or distracted, he is very sensitive when it involves money. He says he can't say she took it and call her a thief cause the maid can sue us as there is no proof if the money is misplaced or the maid really took it but does not want to say.

My brother is angry and he never really had trust the

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maid anyway but my mom never had wanted to fire her due to the years with us and the time she assisted grandma and my dad. He says one way or the other his money has to appear, if it was for him we should fire her long time ago but the house belongs to mom not to us, it is my mom decision. If we fire her we have to pay her a lot of compensation, moeny we dont have now, another option will be to deduct the money from her salary each week. The maid cleans my brother room

[Guy13]

I don't think she respects the kids-you too. She respects the Elders. Kids are brats and will not miss it...

[Asker]

What do you mean she does not respect th kids only the elders? My brother is not a kid nd neitehr I am

[Guy13]

you are to her. Not talking about your age BUT your position,

[Asker]

why my position

[Asker]

I do think I made a mistake or me and my mom made a mistake. My mom called the maid right after my brotehr found out his money was missing. And my mom over the phone first ask her if she saw any money when she cleaned the room. Obviously if she had taken the money she will never admit she took it, duh!!! So she told mom she did not. But my mom told her right away that she was going to be fired if hte money did not appear. The maid over the phone got immediately scared and afraid she may loose her job of something "she may had not done it", she told mom that when she came on Monday she will go and do a deep search at my brother room to look for that money.

I guess mom or me did not handle well how to tell the lady there was a possibilit she could get fired, Then I also over text I asked the maid that if she took it, she told me no and after that she started to tell me about some religious things that God will provide us, like she was not paying attention to what I wrote and went off the tangent. Also I told her that she could be fired. I guess mom or men should had not told her that just bluntly and wait for her to come on Monday to see how things could resolved before decide to fire her.

My brother who was the vicitm in all of this did not even text her at all even if he was that pissed. First he told us he could never mention her she was a thief cause that word could make her sue us as there is no proof of a money stolen but there is that possibility she could had stolen the money cause she was the only one in his room cleaning it and organizing stuff in his room.
My mom or me barely enter my brothers room. So how can this money had dissapeared just like that , ghosts in the house then? I mean the thread is always broken by the weakest and i this case the weakest is the maid, even if we have no proof.

[Asker]

My brother says that the last decision lays on mom, whether she will fire her or wants her to keep her but if she stays, we have to punish her in some way (even if there is no proof) like deducting part of what we pay her for a salary weekly. If it was for my brother she could be fired inmmediately, but we have no proof or cameras int he house for that and also we dont check the maid purse when work hours finish cause we suppose to trust her. It is a tricky situation.

If we fire her and pay her compensation, the amoutn of compensation is a lot, and we dont have that money ready or availiable now , if we do it we have to pay her the compensation by tracts like each month until we complete the whole compensation amount and that could take us like 2 years to finally pay her all the compensaton for firing her.

Or deduct her each week some amount of money for the same amount of money my brother lost ($190) but there is a catch of her contineu to work at home. My brother says we won't live in trust or in peace anymore int he house, we will ahve to live everyday in defensive thinking the maid will steal something again. I never had had any problem of her stealing me things due to I dont let her clean my room unless im inside the room and I have bedroom keys that each time Im not at home I lock it for the same reason.

[Asker]

I mean I know she clean the living room the rooms but she never touches my room just if I tell her. My room could be a mess but she does not clean my room, only the bathroom. My brother do ask her to clean his room because my bro never ever cleans his room so the only way his room is a bit organized and clean is if another person cleans it.