What is your toxic trait/s? (we all have them lol)?

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Weapon77 · Accepted Answer

No, not everybody has them. As a psychologist, I absolutely LOATHE this obsession social media has with everyone having one or more toxic traits. Only mentally unwell, willfully bad, or ignorantly bad people have toxic traits. Most people do not have toxic traits. Most people have FLAWS. I'm sick of people spreading the idea that our flaws are toxic when they absolutely are not. They are learning opportunities. We are all flawed and all can learn to work on our flaws and better ourselves. Why is it trendy to hve negative traits? We shouldn't be ashamed of our flaws, but we should always try to improve. Why do we talk about these flaws as if they are these tragic heroic flaws we can never change whrn we obviously can change them? Or as if they are funny when they are serious? It's not funny to knowingly have flaws and act like others should just have to deal with them without you trying to improve at all.

We've been calling ghosting, texting days later, pursuing relationships with people we know are not compatible, and getting jealous or envious toxic traits when all they are are FLAWS that can be worked on. Actually toxic traits are things like physically stalking people, theft, assaulting people physically or verbally, using people for sex when they have feelings for you, addiction, and other serious things. And those things need serious counseling and/or prison time. And they aren't the kond of thing people readily admit to.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

I think the term “toxic” is overused to the point of being misused. I’m an alcoholic. That’s me at my most toxic literally and figuratively. Of course, the snowflakes would likely describe me as extremely toxic for some other reasons. My worst habit socially is i tend to interrupt, a lot. Like a child, when i conceive a thought i find it difficult to contain; even when someone else who is STILL talking inspired the thought to begin with. Say something awesome in my presence and then TRY to finish your thought. Ell oh ell! I hate myself so much when i do that.
I’m also a word nerd. I’ve been accused of being a “Grammar Nazi”. I think that’s harsh, but i understand. Ell oh ell! And i’m more than a little of a “know-it-all”. What can i say? I read a lot. I retain and recall information well. And as most of us relate to the world in terms of self, i too often assume people are like me and will find information interesting and useful. They so often don’t! Ell oh ell! Especially when new information seems to contradict what they think they already know. Yeesh!!!

likelyOK · Accepted Answer

not toxic but:

In the past I found myself obsessing over an ex’s ex because I knew he was comparing me to her and I felt he treated her better.

excepting red flags 🚩 in a relationship hoping to “make up” for or fix their psychologically unhealthy flaws like (but not limited to) verbal outbursts, belittling and unhealthy hang ups.

curiousaboutthis · Accepted Answer

There are too many to list, so I listed just a few.

-I am stubborn

-I turn everything into a joke to protect myself ( not necessarily a good thing)

-I burn myself out after trying too hard to be better than everyone else

-I love arguing for some unknown reason.

Sonorous · Answer

It really depends on what someone means by "toxic," but I notice I struggle with expressing empathy. I feel it. So I'm no sociopath... But showing it feels so foreign to me. I tend to prefer to go the problem solving/logical route rather than appeal to emotion.

MCheetah · Answer

I don't take the term "toxic" seriously. It's such an idiotic feminist/Progressive buzzword.

But my most negative traits are that I'm:

Pessimistic
Cynical
Easily irritated/hot-headed (especially by human stupidity)
and "Too hard on [myself]," according to everyone who knows me.

To work on some of these, I've been spending more time in my day to be grateful for the few good things I do currently have in my life, and meditating more and reflecting on how to be a calmer, better person and improve who I am, as a person.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I am way too defensive. I've been working on it for years, I catch myself sometimes and it's gotten to a point where people who know me well can laugh when I catch myself. It can be incredibly embarrassing sometimes though.

I grew up without a whole lot of support and a lot of people doubting me and trying to get in my way so I'm overly sensetive to thinking people mean me harm. It's a trait that on one hand is useful but also right now does more harm than good so I'm still trying to balance it in my life.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

I have alist lol it's more like harmful to myself than anybody else.

I am very self centred person

I cannot feel empathy for everyone equally but it's intrensic and i don't have control over it.

For some i go to very extreme levels sit and listen to them try to sort it out but for some i feel nothing its weird.

Same goes with my conversation skills i am a blaber mouth with some and a silent douchebag with most people my silence haunts them 😂.

If i focus on one person its like i leach on to them they become my one source of happiness and pain that a tough one not good at all
I tried to change this but doesn't work i end up being alone

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

I'm going to list a number off the top of my head.

impulsive
Egotistic
Disagreeable, argumentative
Stubborn
Distrusting of others
capricious, moody

To some degree, I find it funny. I've taken personality quizzes before and they usually all tell me the same thing.

TroyDT2 · Answer

I despise broad brush bullsh*t. It is one of the few things that can make me rage. It infuriates me when someone justifies hating or slamming entire groups of people because of a few bad experiences or because a small % of people who share those physical traits do something. That's what the KKK and every other hate group does. It is the primary reason I have blocked people on this site.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I have a constant desire to shitpost. IRL, I crack jokes that piss people off. I feel good inside when I trigger someone and they go into rage mode.

nolabels · Answer

Moody, moody, moody, and sometimes moody.

Many times, explainably moody, but, yeah, sometimes inexplicably so.

Inclined to angry outbursts when a subject has been shelved and closed to further discussion by 'the adversary' for no logical reason, followed afterwards by moodiness.

Gee, go figure.

Just tryin' to be real, here.

Succeeding, I guess.

loveslongnails · Answer

That would depend on who is judging me, wouldn't it? If you ask a right-wing girl, I'm pretty sure she'll think I'm toxic because I'm a moderate liberal. I think she'd be toxic for the reverse reason. It obviously applies to other personality traits too, not just politics, religion or your views on the world, but as many responders have said, we have flaws and they're not necessarily "toxic to everyone" or even ourselves.

Marklaw12 · Answer

I'm cold at times without knowing it. I'm called a romantic but I'm also called iceman.

She could be telling me all her issues and my response is "always remember what you're going through isn't that bad when you see what others have been through"

She responds, "I know that but this isn't about them but me"

I fxxked that up a lot of times

Anonymous · Answer

Suspicious

Clingy

Distrustful

Blow my top when triggered for small things.

Unstable emotions.

But I am loyal, thoughtful, affectionate optimistic and push myself and others to reach their full potential.

I love withbmy full heart. I guess that's why the one's who get that bloke stay through the craziness.

whirled_up_girl · Answer

I have too much imagination for how things could go wrong in too many situations, my friends and family tell me "you worry too much".

ShellyB · Answer

My ego can be a problem if I do not control it, fortunately I know that and have created rules for myself that keep it from getting out of hand. I can also be selfish sometimes but I am working on that!!

LaBokaChula · Answer

As soon as I am disrespected you're gone.. I don't give second chances anymore.. I get very annoyed when people disrespect me and I'll tolerate it for a bit before I snap and they're gone.. I don't think this is very healthy.

Steamnir · Answer

I get my nose in things thats not my business, but i hate seeing the other person suffer so i get involved

Anonymous · Answer

Too many. I warn guys that I’m broken and that they should stay away from me. I fall in love too fast and will do anything for a guy. I’m impulsive and promiscuous. I have cheated on every boyfriend I ever had. Smart guys know I’m not girlfriend material and that they should just hook up and forget me. Some people deserve love but I don’t think I’m one of them.

AsaKyo · Answer

- Worry too much  - Kind of say what's on my mind  - Have extreme anxiety  - Very self-critical  - Low self-esteem  - Have a hard time believing people

Wolfynight · Answer

I am an over-thinker, and tend to be really low in confidence, and I think negatively if I think that a situation is going bad. I also tend to be extremely attached quickly

wittymilf · Answer

I try to push people to just get over it when they’re not ready, I don’t listen long enough to their problems to actually be able to give them peace.

Account · Answer

- Inability to express emotion. Difficulty identifying complex emotions. - Difficulty trusting people. - Overly critical. - Defensive. - Gloomy.

chocolatesinpockets · Answer

I have my moody moments, or if I feel sometimes like I'm an uptight person over little things that annoy me, I shouldn't care lol like the similar sentiment as who cares what others think.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Sometimes I have difficulty remembering the things God has taught me

soulbabe · Answer

I'm secretive I can't take criticism I can't tell you what I'm feeling unless I write it down and will be angry that I can't explain it. kinda clingy/ jealous

Bethany22 · Answer

I'm the friendship police. In other words, I'm secretly critical of how friendly other people are.

Koalamate · Answer

I swear way to much like at work around my 15year old coworkers and customers. Honestly don't know my toxic traits, I know that's not a good thing.

moonpie89 · Answer

I let people run me over. I go above and beyond for people that literally don't deserve it. I keep trying to see the good in some people in my life when I should actually cut them loose. I care too much unfortunately when I shouldn't.

Tina19 · Answer

I can be very selfish at times  I am short tempered

Sisters_Of_Time · Answer

I am socially awkward when I don't want to be!  When I don't care it just flows, but when I overthink it I just tumble and fall back into the social awkwardness!

Kusz76 · Answer

I’m too nice to people that take me for granted and use me, it’s only now I’m 46 that I’ve realised this and am now making a stand. Not exactly a toxic trait, I wouldn’t say I have one

Reddy4it · Answer

Impulsive, hyper sexual, unable to connect emotionally a lot of the time, which goes hand in hand with guarding myself, I guess being suspicious of other’s motives…the list goes on

FreyaRed · Answer

I'm not evil, if someone gets hurt due my deeds it's their fault and they deserve it.

BlueScorpio · Answer

I can be pretty tired and lazy, sometimes I am suspicious of others.

Noahzaid · Answer

I’m not short when it comes being toxic but the main trait is being impatient and my tongue beats my thoughts.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I think my toxic trait is I can a bit paranoid

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Earlier in life, I was a perfectionist and far too critical of people that I felt didn't meet my "standards."

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I keep thinking of the good memories in the past. If you’re depressed, you’re living in the past.

Avicenna · Answer

I'm too patient in some situations where patience is not useful

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I a very low tolerance for immaturity and stupid bs. Some females hate this apparently.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I am too honest and have a big heart so try to help too often.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Indifference is a major bad trait I have.  Can be stubborn sometimes. Selfish with my time. Not a good listener. Those are the 4 major bad traits I have.

Anonymous · Answer

Slight Impatience.  Can get cranky if I don’t get certain things that I want.  That’s about it, I am trying to fix that though.. but generally I’m not always like that.

Guardian45 · Answer

I don't have any. Ask people who hate me, if you can find their bodies. LOL!🤣

rienna888 · Answer

Extremely jealousy and possessiveness in relationships or when I’m liking someone

Subarugirl · Answer

That I can be stubborn to a fault and that I refuse to take shit from anyone.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Overthink and procrastinate Impatient and too straightforward

Lucifer_666 · Answer

I wouldn’t say toxic, but I can’t handle rejection very well.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Probably to easy going people think don't take things seiresly or care. But I do

Legion696969 · Answer

I like to be alone sometimes to meditate and practice Qi Gong and Tai-Chi? And recharge my batteries. It, s healthy to be apart sometime, s.

Anonymous · Answer

I love bad b! tches that my f*cken problem. And yeah I like to f*ck I got a fucken problem

MadClown · Answer

I’m extremely judgmental and to some extent racist.

OddBeMe · Answer

lack of self awareness. Actually no... its everyone else who's wrong.

Zolly99999 · Answer

My biggest complaint I get is I work too much and never around

Ryfyle · Answer

I am hate perfected, passion given corporeal form. I'm flawless in this regard.

MrTaboo · Answer

I'm a Dom and DD that is into taboo kinks. Not to many girls match.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Arrogant, narcissistic, extremely impatient, quick to anger. I could probably go on but those are the first ones that come to mind.

Anonymous · Answer

Toxic or just toxic to women? I won't kiss thier ass.

desidoll · Answer

Can be grumpy under certain situations.

Agape93 · Answer

I have a major temper

SoIcyGang · Answer

I like to be alone. I need space.

SnowedIn · Answer

- Worry - self critical - self esteem

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