If someone asked you to lie for them or be their alibi.. would you do that?

[melanieeeB]

Generally I wouldn't! Especially with some serious stuff, like a cover up for a crime or something. I ain't going to jail for someone else smh

But my cousin called me, I met her just last year after my father passed away.
She called and asked if it's okay if she lies to her husband that she is staying with me for the weekend but in reality she is running away to a hotel to clear her head, cause he is cheating on her again.
She said she just needs space, without him calling her all the time and threatening to kill himself if she goes... I said yes, cause that one I can definitely understand lol

[zeitgeist057]

Most likely I would.Everyone lies all the time, somewhere between 10-200 times per day, according to research.

I am a very honest and genuine person, and I have learned my lesson over the years that being honest is not always a good idea. It’s how you go about it. And people who act all high and mighty about being honest are sus for having the potential to be the biggest liars/deceivers. Especially those who don’t “technically” lie, but manage to avoid the truth. It has been shocking to me how much people lie, I’m very trusting. But slowly I learn.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/onLPDegxXx8

I’m not going to help one person hurt another with lies, but I would certainly help my friend for example being a reference for a job application and saying they worked for me or that I worked for them and they were great, &c.

[Guy13]

To ask someone to lie for you, in my opinion, is clearly wrong and borderline ignorant. Does one not realize what one is conveying to either the spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, and/or family member?
I will do anything to avoid blame, I never err, and can never be trusted to be speaking the truth at anytime on any topic.
The Ends does not justify the Means. If one does this in a Courtroom and is not an Elite then he/she goes to jail. Such a request forces me to to slowly and carefully back out of this relationship. Who KNOWS what you will do to me if I “ghost and block”…

[Account]

For family or friends, I would. I am not a good liar when it comes to covering for myself, but when it comes to covering for others, I can be persuasive.
I do not excuse myself for lying to cover for myself, but I am able to excuse myself for lying to cover others.
There are not many things I wouldn't do for people I consider my family.
Of course extreme situations such as rape or sexual assault or anything of such sorts is excluded in that scenario, but I guess the question is not aimed at something like that.

[CrazyGirl2]

Well yeah in the situation you described of COURSE I would help my friend, if she needs time to think about what to do about an emotionally manipulative cheater!
But Alibi is basically a legal term that indicates they could not have committed the crime because you vouch for them being at YOUR home during the time the commission of the crime allegedly took place! Would I do THAT? Hell NO!

[Screenwriter]

Lying in general is not a good thing. However, I'm wondering why this woman has to lie to her cheating husband. Why can't she go to a hotel or whereever it is she'd like to go to be alone to think?

It seems there is all kinds of wrong going on here and lying for her is supporting this woman's staying in a marriage where her husband has not cheated once, but multiple times and for some reason, she stays and suffers more abuse.

This is truly a slippery slope problem in a messy situation.

I'd say you need to judge carefully before laying down a lie and lying for someone else, especially in a job recommendation situation, is always a poor choice. Be responsible for your OWN lies and if caught, you're burned. Don't lie for someone else. You have no idea of the repercussions, no matter how small they might appear at the time.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Screenwriter If a family member is married to an abusive cheater, I would happily hide her location from him, my family always comes first, however… If that situation WERE to arise, I would tell him she was with me, because she would be! I would head to that motel, and spend the night talking to my family member and making sure that she does not EVER go back to that cheating SOB, I’m NOT a liar, and im not starting now! That’s why I gave my answer. If anyone thinks that I would be okay not telling a man that his wife is in a hotel room, before I am SURE that she is not there with another man! (Again, by being there with her.

[CrazyGirl2]

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Then they are crazy! I’ll lie to protect my family (if they are in danger from an abusive spouse). But I would wonder WHY she wouldn’t just come to MY house, and just ask me to lie and say she did!) I would say “either you come to me, or I’ll come to you”

[Moose304]

NO! Absolutely not in this life, a past life, or a future life. A friend that would ask this of another friend is NOT a true friend. The cousin needs to be upfront and honest with her cheating husband. When a person starts this they are in actuality starting down a slippery slope they can never recover from. Under no circumstances is a lie ever justified. What this cousin needs to do is get tested for STDs and give that cheating husband a choice. Me or her. Then I would still divorce his ass and clean his clock! I'm wording this very strongly because I am telling everybody reading this that a lie will beget more lies. Don't go down that path. There is no such thing as a "little white lie" or a lie to allow someone to make an easy or painful choice. Give this some serious thought before doing this 100% dishonest thing!

[Chris_u006]

It depends on what the situation was to be fully frank.
When a former classmate from groundschool/elementary school murdered another classmate I even got the question to hide his body, ofcourse I turned him down and calmly told him that he would get caught, this is a few years ago the murder took place.
Reason my other classmate got killed? Drug debt and he did never forgive his bullies from school, I have never used any illegal substance, I was too bullied, but I did as Jesus/Jehova and turned my other cheek and personally forgave everyone and also said for whatever I might have done myself I genuimely was sorry for that.
What I earned by doing what I did? Deep respect even from some of the worst bullies and apparently my life since I am still alive.

[Chris_u006]

After the murder I even got pernission to help the deceased classmate to the light, which I somehow found strength to do. One day I will be able to be the light worker I am meant to be, my destiny is written in the stars.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Probably not, but I also have no issues saying "None of your business" if people ask questions... in your case I wouldn't lie if her husband called me to see if she was staying with me, I'd just say... None of your business.

Technically helping without lying.

[Kaneki05]

If my best friend came to me with a dead body I would bury it with them and create the alibi.
So it always depends on whom and what but short answer yes. Plus you'll find ya don't get in much trouble anyway if one day you decide to admit you lied.
Because they care more about shutting the case than the innocent who lied thinking they were doing the wrong thing.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

There is a hard line there for sure. But I think you made the right choice. Likewise I would only lie for an alibi if it was a life or death situation or if it was a family matter like that. But I mean I do need to care about the person to do it too. Like I wouldn’t lie fans pout myself at risk for most people in my life

[Anonymous]

As a single father, no. My kid's success depends only on me. If my name is being dragged through the mud, the person sets me up; then my kids are screwed. All my savings and investments they will get when I die are all gone.

I am sorry I can't care more about you than you. I don't want to compromise my life's work.

And, no woman would ever do the same for a man.

[DCowboy4747]

Secrets always come out, if he is cheating and she needs to be alone for a while she needs to tell him and tell him why she is doing it. It is a tricky situation, you need to take care of family, but when it comes out you will be drug into the middle of the drama between her and him.

[Weapon77]

Nope. Fuck them.

Now if I know FOR A FACT that they are innocent, I'd help prove their innocence or help them flee to another country, but that's all I could do. Why should I lie for someone whonis probably guilty?

[SnowedIn]

It's situation dependent. Mostly no, but you gave an example of when it's best for all concerned. I won't do it if the thing is illegal, though. I'm not getting myself into legal trouble on their behalf.

[pewter_moon]

I suppose it depends. There is always the off chance it’s more helpful than hurtful. I like to be honest though as it’s how I’d want to be treated myself.

[NathanDavis]

nope... and there is no use to it either, I work for two governments so we would all be caugth anyway

[Mangospacho]

Uhh. In your case, your friend needs to just woman-up and tell her husband she wants to have a sleepover with you, which he should gladly appreciate. Otherwise, if you’re just covering for a friend, it’s not a problem.

[exitseven]

It depends who asked, If it was my best friend I would back him up We have provided alibies for each other before

[humanearth]

Done it, I protected someone with a car they stole

Cops came to me and everything. I'm not a snitch

[anon1903]

It depends. In general I'm all for lying, unless the crime is heinous like rape or the incident is nasty like cheating on your partner.

[Summeroflove]

No. I would cover for someone if they were in the right. Otherwise. I would stay out of it

[Summeroflove]

It’s not good to lie to someone. Her and her husband seem to have serious relationship problems if she can’t be honest

[CateM]

No, even though I might burn bridges in doing so, telling the truth is the right thing to do

[Heolurt]

Depends what I'm lying for and how close the person is to me. However considering I don't have a single person in my life I can call a friend or family, I'm gonna say I wouldn't do that at all.

[FunkyMonkee]

MAYBE, if I could get away with half truths and the outcome wouldn't be harmful to anymone

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, I can't lie for someone