This question was inspired by thinking of the time I opened the door for someone and their face reaction was shock, I said you're welcome after they thanked me but their reaction had me in my head like I just opened the door for her
Guys when was the last time you did a gentlemen gesture? Women, when was the last time you met a gentleman?
On the last date I was on, which has been a little while now. I brought her flowers (She liked orchids and daisies the best, so I flipped a coin and got her orchids), I opened the car door for her, and when we got to the restaurant, I opened the car door again (She was fixing her hair, so I had time to beat her to it! lol), I let her put her order for food in first, she dropped her fork, so I have her mine, (She felt bad and asked the waitress to give me another one, even though I told her not to worry, lol),
I paid for dinner (I kept the receipt as a memento), I took her for some ice cream (I never met a girl who didn't like ice cream!), we went for a walk in the park (I read her a poem I wrote), and when I took her home, I walked her to the door, I let the kiss goodnight decision up to her (I'm shy anyway, so that's a win/win for me).
Chivalry is something of a bygone these days. Many men love to be the gentleman or chivalrous but then they're often times put in the "friend zone" for being too nice. The flip side is these chivalrous men are scolded for thinking a woman can't open her own door. The current culture in the USA is "strong independent women who don't need no man" and it for sure has contributed greatly to the demise of chivalry and the gentleman. But hookup culture has also played a massive role in this decline. There's so little in the way of kindness and gentleness these days. What's the motivation if the man is gonna get pussy regardless?
If a man isn't a gentleman or chivalrous, he's not worth it.
If a woman doesn't like a gentleman or chivalry, she's not worth it.
It was my cousin. We were texting recently and he was talking about how much he wants to experience true love and those fairytale like things like running on long grasses, gifting roses and books and sky sighting together in night. Well, I thought such guys existed in books only but there is indeed a guy like this in real life and he's my cousin. You can see half of his qualities inside me, he is a good elder brother.
@Sunssong yes there are but I don't see them. Also the question was when was the LAST TIME when you met a gentleman. The last time it was my cousin so yeah.
Just yesterday! A gentleman offered to let me get ahead of him on the bus. He even said, "Ladies first."
Actually it's common for the men down here to act that way: open doors, let women walk ahead of them, address then as ma'am... Because they're raised thar way. Shame that's rare in other areas; I feel bad for y'all.
"Chivalry" is a sugar-coated word for "subservient". Chivalry degrades men to be expendable butlers and servants used for opening doors, etc... and elevates women to the status of semi-gods, which is just ridiculous. It is good it is dead. Making men believe that chivalry is good is just one of the biggest scams in history. It is same as persuading slaves that slavery is good for them. Since chivalry is trying to set itself as a norm, it takes away genuineness and replaces it with compulsion.
Chivalry isn't the problem, tradition is. Tradition because it impedes freedom of those who do not wish to accept it. Chivalry itself is not bad, in fact I'd say it's good. I wouldn't limit it to treating females well though. We should treat all people well, leaving an impression of increase. Although, I think some aspects of it are a little too much; like opening a car door for someone. That completely has nothing to do with courtesy, unless the person has trouble getting out on their own.
The #1 weakness and flaw of humans is that we continue to impede our own freedom. We prefer everyone to be the same and deter uniqueness. @_piotr Is this not what you just said in your last sentence? Chivalry is not the problem, tradition is.
My boyfriend is a gentlemen because one-time last year we were both on a college tour and our group stopped in this room so we could listen to people talk about the school while we had lunch and I started getting cold and my boyfriend who at the time was my best friend noticed I was shivering and he gave me his jacket so I wouldn't be so cold
I try to be a gentleman in everything I do. For example, on a recent bus tour, I stood aside and let the ladies board the bus first, and helped a few up the steps. No one gave me an ugly look, and several said "Thank you".
I think it was... like just a few months ago? Some guy actually opened the door for me to dairy queen? I think he was on the phone too, that was nice of him
Memorable. If you don't mind us (the internet asking), had the some guy been someone you'd might fancy, would've you been taken aback enough to strike up conversation or flirt? ☺️ Or just smile and walk on, even if he had been quote unquote hot, your type, your generation, etc ^_^
KFC chips and gravy or anything with chips, gravy, is sometimes a delicious treat 😁😋 but I'm more a salt guy than a gravy guy. Rarely gravy. Salt or chicken salt 🧂 😋
I open and hold doors several times per week. It just seems common courtesy rather than watching someone struggle to open a door while carrying things or letting it close on a couple when I have it already open.
Several times at social / work gatherings that ran late at night, I've made an excuse to walk a woman back to her car or hotel. Not that I'm some sort of macho protector, just that in some areas a woman alone at night is a risk of getting harassed.
This evening holding the door for a group of ladies going into the restaurant. Wife did go in first about 5 seconds before the group. Let did let us go in front of them to get seated since the wife was already in there.
I didn't ask out a woman neither flirt with her. And this has been with different women on different encounters lately. Sure I may have given a glance (no stare) but I've never acted on flirting or never acted on asking anyone out 🫤👏
It's funny how many people claim to be a gentleman when they're selective about who they treat better. Only respecting women you find pretty is not called respecting women.
All I know is that I treat all women the same, with kindness and respect and based on how they treat me I can say a lot of them don't deserve it but I still do it, maybe you are right tho, I should treat them how they treat me.
Over the weekend I wad driving and it had started to rain when I saw someone walking with her groceries on the sidewalk. I offered her a ride home and got her there before the downpour.
I broke myself free from that. Usually when I open the door for someone and there's a line, the next guy will get it for the next. Decency can be contagious
I do gentleman things all the time. I open doors and hold them open for women all the time, I did it 4 times today. One lady in front of me today was $5 short for her order. I gave her the $5.
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