The thing with men is they see red flags when no red flags are present. Like I did a mock up interview meeting with a friend at a restaurant and sometimes I would avoid eye contact with my trainer to focus on my food and he basically concluded I was mentally retarded for looking at my food 30% of the time instead of the person interviewing me. That is a behavioural extra, not an essential trait. Essential traits are honesty and respect and loyalty.
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1. I think red flags are personal and individual (in many cases at least).
2. I don't know if I can give an accurate answer to that as I don't know EVERY woman or man on earth. I think both can be good depending on how astute or in tune with their wants and needs are regarding having a partner.
I was just mentioning this in another comment but not how I felt all these red flags. This girl I met on tinder thought she had the best day ever. I didn’t. I ghosted her. I normally wouldn’t do such a crime but I just had to because unreasonable amount of red flags. Starting with her tinder, she was attractive! in real life, she is a tractor. She didn’t know I wasn’t feeling the vibes like that. It is..
I'd like to say I read them easily as a man. Unless I'm my own red flag ahahaha 😁 uhh 👀👀👀 lol nah I'm sure I'm fine but I'd like to say I'm good at seeing women who aren't "my type" most likely or "oh know she'd be a gold digger, uh next." Next please instead ahaha 😃😃😄
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Feelings make us hope for the best. Its easy to spot when we are not invested and most can, but when you click with someone thats a different story. Some people get blinders and brush it off or try justify it because they are already emotionally invested.
Oh I pick up red flags 🚩 easily. But sometimes when I like a person way too much, I sometimes ignore them hoping it’s a one time two time thing 😂.
After all the narcissistic girls I've been with, I got good at detecting trouble. I think it's all about experience. The people who have been through this with others know when something isn't quite right.
Narcissists are good at hiding everything from someone who has never dated one before. They are good at suckering people into lies and games. If you end up dating another one, the next time it becomes clearer.
Better than I WAS. but now I have been single for 2 years. So this is not going well
I am outgoing and many kind men are just too shy for me
Yeah most people here are like... My boyfriend cheated on me and tried to kill me three times, Do you really think it can't work? 🥺🥺🥺 LOL... For me though, I can see red flags from miles away...
I could write an entire book on detecting red flags including ones people don't even know could possibly exist
Having an older brother and sister really helps you to notice the red flags (especially when your sisters ex was an absolute shithole).
I tend to notice them but set them aside because I assume I’m being paranoid or overthinking 🙈
i think i could spot the obvious red flags but i also think i'm kinda oblivious and could put up with stuff that other people may see as red flags so it'd seem normal to me, i don't know depends on the red flag
A lot of times I see the red flags but I choose to ignore them.. because I want them 🤣🤣
Women usually miss them. Younger inexperienced women miss them.
Thankfully my Dad was strict and taught me about all the red flags during HighSchool and after HighSchool.
I am new to GAG so thanks for the heads up. What kind of red flags specifically do you mean so I can know?
It takes a while for some of them to surface. But once I see them, and smell them, there's no turning back. Dating is like a game of Minesweeper.
I'm good at it, grew up around all that is red flaggy.
Yes I can suss out body language, tone of voice. I can spot a liar too. Very easy to read people
I can sense red flags from a mile away.
I am very good at detecting them and professionally, dealing with them. Personally I am getting better at NOT ignoring them.
It seems I miss them. Big time. I'm trying to be more careful now.
Detecting and possibly creating. In other words if it's unclear I just say "red flag" and move on.
There are some red flags that are very obvious to me. For example, it's easy to spot a feminist after interacting with her a little.
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