Are you good at detecting red flags?

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Just judging from this site alone I have noticed that a lot of people just blindly pass red flags so now it motivated me with this question, I hope it's people just trolling but I have noticed that men are better on picking up on red flags on a woman than women picking up red flags on a man? Not all, clearly there's many women that know exactly how to detect them but I've noticed that the majority of the people that miss them are women, not trying to start a gender war here, I'm genuinely curious

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The thing with men is they see red flags when no red flags are present. Like I did a mock up interview meeting with a friend at a restaurant and sometimes I would avoid eye contact with my trainer to focus on my food and he basically concluded I was mentally retarded for looking at my food 30% of the time instead of the person interviewing me. That is a behavioural extra, not an essential trait. Essential traits are honesty and respect and loyalty.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

1. I think red flags are personal and individual (in many cases at least).

2. I don't know if I can give an accurate answer to that as I don't know EVERY woman or man on earth. I think both can be good depending on how astute or in tune with their wants and needs are regarding having a partner.

PizzaDaddyo · Accepted Answer

I was just mentioning this in another comment but not how I felt all these red flags. This girl I met on tinder thought she had the best day ever. I didn’t. I ghosted her. I normally wouldn’t do such a crime but I just had to because unreasonable amount of red flags. Starting with her tinder, she was attractive! in real life, she is a tractor. She didn’t know I wasn’t feeling the vibes like that. It is..

asphaltrhymes · Accepted Answer

I'd like to say I read them easily as a man. Unless I'm my own red flag ahahaha 😁 uhh 👀👀👀 lol nah I'm sure I'm fine but I'd like to say I'm good at seeing women who aren't "my type" most likely or "oh know she'd be a gold digger, uh next." Next please instead ahaha 😃😃😄

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Feelings make us hope for the best. Its easy to spot when we are not invested and most can, but when you click with someone thats a different story. Some people get blinders and brush it off or try justify it because they are already emotionally invested.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Oh I pick up red flags 🚩 easily. But sometimes when I like a person way too much, I sometimes ignore them hoping it’s a one time two time thing 😂.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

After all the narcissistic girls I've been with, I got good at detecting trouble. I think it's all about experience. The people who have been through this with others know when something isn't quite right.

Narcissists are good at hiding everything from someone who has never dated one before. They are good at suckering people into lies and games. If you end up dating another one, the next time it becomes clearer.

hsshannah96 · Answer

Better than I WAS. but now I have been single for 2 years. So this is not going well  I am outgoing and many kind men are just too shy for me

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Yeah most people here are like... My boyfriend cheated on me and tried to kill me three times, Do you really think it can't work? 🥺🥺🥺 LOL... For me though, I can see red flags from miles away...

inhua · Answer

I could write an entire book on detecting red flags including ones people don't even know could possibly exist

thatshydork · Answer

Having an older brother and sister really helps you to notice the red flags (especially when your sisters ex was an absolute shithole).

DizzyDesii · Answer

I tend to notice them but set them aside because I assume I’m being paranoid or overthinking 🙈

Anonymous · Answer

i think i could spot the obvious red flags but i also think i'm kinda oblivious and could put up with stuff that other people may see as red flags so it'd seem normal to me, i don't know depends on the red flag

Anemone978 · Answer

A lot of times I see the red flags but I choose to ignore them.. because I want them 🤣🤣

Nikki1989 · Answer

I can sense red flags from a mile away.

runnerboy · Answer

I am new to GAG so thanks for the heads up. What kind of red flags specifically do you mean so I can know?

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It takes a while for some of them to surface. But once I see them, and smell them, there's no turning back. Dating is like a game of Minesweeper.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I'm good at it, grew up around all that is red flaggy.

belle_kai · Answer

Yes I can suss out body language, tone of voice. I can spot a liar too. Very easy to read people

msc545 · Answer

I am very good at detecting them and professionally, dealing with them. Personally I am getting better at NOT ignoring them.

PointTaken · Answer

It seems I miss them. Big time. I'm trying to be more careful now.

Anonymous · Answer

Women usually miss them. Younger inexperienced women miss them. Thankfully my Dad was strict and taught me about all the red flags during HighSchool and after HighSchool.

Anonymous · Answer

Detecting and possibly creating. In other words if it's unclear I just say "red flag" and move on.

Anonymous · Answer

There are some red flags that are very obvious to me. For example, it's easy to spot a feminist after interacting with her a little.

jshm2 · Answer

Yes, but I don't care, as they are easily dealt with.

sheikalana · Answer

Generally yes. But sometimes I choose to ignore them.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes, women talk much and I hear very exactly what they say and I slightly direct their thought into topics I want know about them.

es20490446e · Answer

Thinking about red flags all the time is a big red flag.

genericname85 · Answer

you're talking about red flags as if they were objective facts. dating preferences are highly subjective. and how hard they are to "read" highly depends on which red flags you have.

LegendaryArkham5 · Answer

I agree with you man, women don't take accountability seriously and go for the red flag ones.

cocobellass · Answer

Yes, buy do I do anything about it, no not really

Ur1local2bisexual · Answer

I don’t know them well

slatyb · Answer

I am now. Once bitten, twice shy.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Usually..

Molly1997 · Answer

Yes .

Lavitadifarfala · Answer

Huh? 😳

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes.

justabuddy · Answer

I eventually see them.

TrillXHippy · Answer

Perhaps

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