A lot of people - colleagues, friends, etc. - have told me I'm a nice person and even "on a different level of nice". This is because dad raised us kids it costs nothing to treat others kindly - and yeah being respectful, etc. isn't costly.
However in today's day and age being nice / thoughtful seems to make you a target for people who are users and abusers. I've had a few situations of this with colleagues, bosses and even lately (6 months ago) a boyfriend.
It's not that I am a pushover - cross my boundaries and you're going nowhere. It's more, having worked in the military, my patience is long and it's hard to get me agiated. But it seems abusers & users take this as a weakness.
So how do I stop these losers from focusing on me.
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I know I am quite young but I have faced similar things. I have been bullied most of my life which caused me to have very severe anxiety for years and years at a young age. But after recovering from it, I realised that there is no point wasting any thought on these people! If you focus on yourself and people you really like hanging out with, then you will automatically start blanking these people out. You will not give them a second thought. I have learnt it takes time and progress to get away from these manipulators, so start by surrounding yourself by people who you like and love and things you also love to do. Every now and then, 'losers' will come and go but they are not worth your time, so do not think about them. People like them just want to rise to your level or push you down to help ignore their insecurities. You seem like a nice person so just do what you know best, be kind to people who deserve your kindness! (Sorry for the long answer)
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