This happened to me at work. In short, a colleague who was one of my closest work friends totally stabbed me in the back in dealing with a supervisor who has been targeting me. This colleague was supporting me in trying to resolve the issues, then became nervous about the supervisor and threw me right under the bus and then ran me over. I presume he didn't want a target on his back too.
It was a few days ago, but ever since, he's been super nice to me, giving me compliments, praising my work, telling me how much he appreciates me, that I'm the best person in my position that he's ever worked with in 20 years (my position is very specific and I'm the only one in the building), he enjoys our collaboration, etc., and it makes me want to scream. It all feels very hollow and somehow all the compliments and praise sting just as much, if not more, than the knife in my back. This person hasn't addressed the backstabbing, but somehow he can look me in the eyes and that stings too. The supervisor who has been fabricating events to target me and clearly wants me gone can't even look me in the eyes, but the colleague who claims he values me and my work and then stabs me in the back can? I don't know that there are words to describe how I feel right now.
I have half the mind to tell this colleague to stop being nice to me to make himself feel better about being such an ass because it's making me feel worse.
Has anyone else had a similar experience and felt this way? How did you deal with it?
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I've had a situation almost identical to yours, I killed them with kindness. I just continued to be nice and acted like nothing ever happened, that pissed them off a lot.
You may be able to spin it in your favor, just continue to better yourself and that won't sit well with their spirit.
Those people are fake
Ask if it’s true