My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now. His son is 14 and I have only seen him twice the entire time we've been dating. The first time meeting him, when my boyfriend/his dad kissed me goodbye, his son got mad and went outside. The 2nd time we went to dinner and an arcade and the son sulked the entire time and wanted to go to his mom's house as soon as we got to their place. The mom said that the son didn't think I should be sleeping over and possibly having sex when I'm not married to his dad. He will immediately leave whenever I am at my boyfriend's house or if his mom can't pick him up right away, he'll hide in his room until then. He told his mom that he feels uncomfortable around me. H hides in his room with the door closed. I figure he wants to be left alone when he does that which is 100% of the time that he has been there when I was. I don't know what to do or how I'm supposed to get to know him and vice versa. I feel like he's automatically not liking me just because I'm not his mom or maybe his mom is jealous and making this stuff up since everything is coming from the mom telling my boyfriend what the son allegedly said. They've been divorced for 6 years. We're engaged and supposed to be moving in together next month. We were going to do a trial run, try to go out to dinner, have me play videogames and board games with them as a family. As soon as he came home from school and saw me there, the boy went to his mom's for 11 days and refused to come back home until I left. I'm worried that his son might never come around and that we're going to eventually end up breaking up if his son keeps leaving like that. My boyfriend tried talking to him to find out why or what exactly is making him uncomfortable and he refuses to talk to him about it. I'm at a loss.
What can I do about boyfriend's son?
