What's the loneliest you've ever felt?

[Anonymous]

I've done quite a few pathetic things just to feel like someone's paying attention. I'm not a virgin, and I'm not an incel. I don't even flirt or expect them to say much more than small talk or hello.

At one point I used to sit down in dine-in restaurants. I didn't have many friends so I just started going alone. Eventually I realized I liked when waitresses would check on me. Even if it was just their job, I appreciated it. Even if my food was wrong, I wouldn't ask them to have it fixed. I'd just lie and say it's fine because I didn't want to upset anyone. And then I'd tip generously. Because I wasn't really there for food, I was just there to see a stranger smile and talk to me for once.

Or perhaps the times I've gone to get my teeth cleaned and the dental assistant would basically be close enough to feel like they're hugging me.

I never made anything weird. I never wanted anyone's number or to see them past whatever I'm paying for. Anyone else gone through any similar mindsets?

[exitseven]

I sort of had a fight with my girlfriend. I was not sure if we were done. I went away for the weekend with my friend to another college to visit his brother. He met some girl and went with her and left me by myself. So there i was in a strange place by myself and wondering what was going to happen. I was really lonely.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Iron_Man]

This past year

[Asker]

I hope better days are ahead for you man

[Iron_Man]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

you’ve been with other women? you got hard for other women? you’ve been sexually interested and INSIDE other women? you just broke my heart this right now right here is the loneliest i’ve ever felt

[Asker]

Yes I've dated a few times. First was when I was age 20 and I was touch starved and enjoyed a forty minute cuddle.

I've had sex with three different women. One of them pretty much forced herself on me on the couch and blamed her pregnancy hormones and my teasing.

I'm sexually shy and usually like to wait. I've been dumped twice for not putting out enough.

But yes, sex isn't my goal. I've had that I don't care about it unless I'm in a serious relationship.
I don't get the honor of dating very often, and I just miss having a partner.

And I don't think I'm alone or unique for feeling this way. I'm just interested in other's stories.

[Asker]

Regarding the pregnant lady, I should mention I have no kids, and she was 7 months along when we got together.

[Opinion Owner]

you keep breaking my heart 😭😭 can’t believe the loml has seen and touched and felt other pussies oh my heart can’t i’m suffering

[Asker]

I mean, I'm really not that great. I'm a 5/10 and working a dead-end job and live with my mother.

However, I'm still going to take your comment as a compliment of sorts even if I haven't technically done anything impressive.

It cheered me up a little, so tyvm Anon.

[Opinion Owner]

ily bae always here for you now erase the image of other girls from your brain 😘☺️🤪

[Asker]

Sure thing. Do you have a basement I can live in? I'll even pay rent. *Shrug*

[Opinion Owner]

for you i’ll build a house with my own bare hands baby you don’t have to worry about a thing

[Asker]

Build me a house?
In *this* economy?
I'd idolize anyone who did something like that forever.
In fact I'd idolize you SO much I'd friendzone myself on your behalf because I think I have an inferiority complex and cannot accept anything "too good" for me.
While I appreciate your fun comments, I am probably too mentally unwell to date right now. I'd just end up self-sabotaging or something. It's a shame because I do miss dating, but also I kind of need therapy because I'm my own worst enemy. It's a conundrum.
You don't have to keep replying, I'm starting to feel bad taking too much of your time.

[Opinion Owner]

i can fix you

[Asker]

You're gonna get me fixed?
Well, yes, I guess I don't exactly need to ever pass on my worthless genes. I'm on board if you're paying. My insurance would probably decline it for some reason, so be prepared to go out of pocket. Ask them to do it the irreversible way, too. After all, misery is fun when you lean into it and embrace it.

[Opinion Owner]

lmao you’re so depressed it’s hot i bet you fuck good 😊

[Asker]

It's been years but yes. Usually my game plan is to cuddle, let the lady take the lead. If everything goes well I'm very happy to assist her with my hand or with oral until I'm convinced she's happy, and then that's it. I generally like to keep my pants on with the belt fully left alone. I'll try to make sure my partner has a nice time, but I refuse to get off for the first month or so. Something about "giving back" because other men tend to only take and leave their partners unhappy.

[Asker]

Not everyone waits for my consent, and it's a shame.

[Opinion Owner]

thank you baby 💞

[Asker]

I really haven't done anything worth thanking me for. But I suppose you are welcome.

[Opinion Owner]

nerd 😂🥰❤️