Why do you believe you are single?

[ChicoFromThe305]

I struggle finding good women around me cause many don't seem the proper material but when I do find a good woman which I know this has sabotaged me several times which is one of the reasons why I still struggle, I believe that my hypervigilance and paranoia kinda ruins it for me but at least I only need one woman to put up with my shit so it builds hope lol

If you are single and self aware you should know why, why are you personally single?(If you are single) 🤔

[Anonymous]

I’ve been broken up with my ex for over a year now, and I think I’m just not ready for commitment with anyone. Like, I’ve gone on a good amount of dates but I haven’t found anyone who’s willing to make me say I see myself long-term with them.


The reason I’m single is because I haven’t found a good person. I’ve worked on myself a lot since this breakup and truly think I’m relationship material now. So now I have boundaries. No one’s met my expectations yet. :p Of course I won’t lie, the one person that did wasn’t interested in me.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well at least you know what you look seek for and you've made changes to improve on yourself, good for You, I'm proud of ya anon 🤣💯

[HighlyQuestionable]

Ok, I had to answer this one.

Single for 35 years.

I live in the upper midwest in a rural town.

I am single and women here enjoy pretending to be interested in me, then calling it harassment when I reciprocate (show interest, chat with them, maybe ask them out, nothing offensive)

It goes from one extreme to the other.

I've learned a few things; NORMAL women don't behave this way.

"Gypsy" and "Traveller" women do!

Gypsy and Traveller women do this for sport, and guess what... many towns in this country have become overrun with racist extremist Gypsies/Travellers/Hereditary Criminals.

This apparently includes my town. It's about time someone learned about what is actually going on behind the scenes in this country. "Gypsy" against Non-Gypsy racism and discrimination in USA is all too real.

Men out there who can't find a date, consider that this might be your problem: Hidden Racism

[MustafaAl]

Ohh yeah, pretty much
When they call you smelly, disgusting, greedy shits

But were intelligent
if you're a smart girl choose me over some local gangster that might beat you up whenever they wanted

We are very good at doing business and are pretty much civilised and rational although we tend to be deficient in social skills

But if you made the first move and accept us for who we are good luck gonna have a smart family

[Joshydavid25]

I just haven't put myself out there enough.. I always get half way interested in the wrong types of women, and then get all down and mopey when things don't eventually work out even though I knew these women weren't great for me in the first place.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep, gotta avoid them red flags no lie

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I always ask my exes respectfully why they choose to break up with me to see what I need to improve on but all my exes have took the read only and ghosting route. I get abandoned all the time without an explanation. I did notice a pattern with my exes which was that they weren't really good at expressing or communicating. Maybe I was too boring? Maybe I was too clingy? Maybe I loved them too intense that it was overwhelming? I don't know. I'll never know. I'm just tired of being the only one that loves too much. If I love someone, not once have I ever given up on somebody. I want someone to do that to me too.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well but something you seem to have learned from this pattern is that if they can't communicate, it's a waste of your time, you should use that

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah you're absolutely right about that, thank you

[ChicoFromThe305]

👍👍👍

[SlightlyBurnedPizza]

Well this post reveals 2 things your exes are terrible at communicating and you picked guys who are terrible at communicating. Ghosting isn't a good thing to do without a solid reason. If you cheated on someone I can sort of understand it but if its little things the right response would be to ask 'hey can we talk?' This is the right response for both girls and guys. If you would like to know what went wrong and ask yourself how many times a guy said this to you or how many times you said this to a guy.

Communicating is the key to a relationship and if one or both sides can't do things will not work out. It's not shameful to ask a guy 'what do you like or dislike' and its not shameful to answer this honestly either.

[PrincessBunBuns]

The first problem is asking why they want to breakup lol. Like if you have any respect for yourself, don’t ask. Move on. Sometimes no reasons are needed.

[Sonorous]

I just haven't sought out relationships. I've never been the type to value them very highly. I even turned them down when I was younger in grade school.

[Sonorous]

How I'm a relationship influencer is beyond me 💀

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[MustafaAl]

I am not yet matured?
I have no social skillls?
I am too focused on my initiatives?
(Jobs, hobbies...)
But if a girl that i liked played the role of a man asking me out sure id date her

[ChicoFromThe305]

Oof.

[MustafaAl]

Yeah, I tend to focus on the things that in good at do you have a suggestion bro?

[ChicoFromThe305]

You should work on all the things above

[MustafaAl]

Hmm i guess but i try, My jobs/hobbies kind of occupy the majority of my day i could go coding for 8-10 hours straight or read for 4-6 hours my focus is crazy i guess i have aspergers.

I tend to get jealous when i see people who are not that smart and good looking get so many girls while im just here grinding for my job/hobbies.

Do you have discord?
Can i add you as a friend?

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't got discord

[MustafaAl]

Here bro. 😉

[ChicoFromThe305]

I replied

[MustafaAl]

Bruh Ohh i didn't see sorry? Im bored i was hoping that we can talk about any stuff here but since i dont know if this app had DMs

[ChicoFromThe305]

It does but I'm good

[MustafaAl]

Ohh ok bro

[Little_Bumblebee]

Currently because I don't try ro date. I haven't been ready to get back to any relationships.


And right now my current situation isn't really... ideal to date in.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's understandable

[Iron_Man]

It takes a really long time to get to know somebody to find the perfect woman no drug usage. No body counts no smoking non-drinker straight moral values things in common. Are you a good girl are you a Christian etc. etc.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I felt that bro, I thought you were dating someone tho, I am disappointed to see you on this question, I thought you had someone already

[Iron_Man]

No I do and me and her are good. I’m just trying to tell you that it’s really hard to find the perfect woman

[ChicoFromThe305]

Ooh okay good, had me stressing bro, but yea I've realized that on my own lol

[Iron_Man]

Yeah you know what’s going on

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep same ol Miami bullshit 😂

[bolverk]

I'm single by choice, my work used to take me overseas for extended periods, so being single was less hassle and allowed me to take on contracts at short notice.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's good

[bolverk]

If I was starting my career now I'd be totally focused on that career until I'm in my early 30's, at that age a man is just coming into his prime, If you want to date in your 20's do it but don't get serious, there's time enough for that later.

[Yannae]

When I was single it was because people don't take the time to truly get to know you. They just want the relationship.

[ChicoFromThe305]

People smh

[Yannae]

I hope I don't have to date ever again.

[Yannae]

But I will not settle for less just for the sake of not dating.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I can assure you that you'll know when to jump back in dating til then just be alive I guess lol

[Anonymous]

Being self aware isn't enough. You work on your issues. “At least i only need one woman to put up with me” if a guy said that to me id stay away from him.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's a good I'm not interested In you then, I'll work on my issues tho

[ChicoFromThe305]

And since we are in the topic of issues I think I know yours, you seem highly judgmental and high maintenance, I assume you believe you deserve the best man but the chances of you not having anything to offer to the table are probably high, if this is true, you work on your issues as well.

[laurieluvsit]

I have Bipolar Mania.

I do not want to subject anyone to that on a permanent basis, it can never end well.

[Dnice1]

The right one just hasn't found me yet and good guys are hard to find plus I don't really get approached by guys in person

[ChicoFromThe305]

The dating world is indeed hard when it comes to the right people but I do wish you well on your journey repunzel 🙂💯

[Dnice1]

Likewise mento 😊

[ChicoFromThe305]

Thank you 🤗💯

[Dnice1]

You're welcome 🤗

[Anonymous]

Men want perfection. Men want to be cool and young. My ex the asshole.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I wouldn't say perfection but sure your ex the asshole

[Kingofkings1992]

Women are the ones who want perfection. Lmao

[Still-alive]

Too focused on my financial issues atm to worry about dating.

[Still-alive]

could lose some weight too lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

I forgot to mention, we share the same issue, well it's one of them for me lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because most of the women I'd like that are in the US, are in their homes glued to a screen and not socializing with new people, so its difficult to meet them.

[Heolurt]

I do know exactly why I am single and why I have always been such. I could explain my reasons for being single but people always invalidate my truths and experiences, so I figure why continue to explain when no one cares in the first place.

[Sasha0426]

There’s no one for me. Plus, I’m not great to get along with.

[Anonymous]

If I want to date them, they don't want to date me. If they want to date me, I don't want to date them. Not too difficult.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

I be single, cause 'M a "little picky".

[leahzrc]

because people think I am unfriendly

[ChicoFromThe305]

Not necessarily, kinda, I know why you are single Leah, I've easily realized you have a very hard time opening up in general, you keep people in the dark for so long, they lose interest, It's okay to take precautions, I get that, trust me but whatever inner beauty you have in your soul, you are hiding it from everyone and the reality is that without expressing your personality, no one really knows you, cause you don't let them, im sure at times you've blamed your physical appearance correct? If so I can assure you that's not the case, you are a beautiful woman but like I've said before, your worst enemy is yourself, you talk bad about yourself and you shouldn't, there's nothing wrong with you besides the fact that you talk yourself down all the time so stop it? 🤷🏽‍♂️😂

[leahzrc]

That was the sweetest thing that I needed to hear! Thank you and I see I am secretive and borderline a paranoid schizophrenic. I will unleash my inner beauty

[ChicoFromThe305]

You are more than just a paranoid schizophrenic, I can assure you God didn't make you so you can walk around and believe that's all you are, but that unleashing the inner beauty sounds like a good idea lol

[leahzrc]

I appreciate that greatly like a glowing hand that shines at night

[ChicoFromThe305]

I believe God wanted you to hear that, I don't believe we are having this discussion coincidentally, don't let the lies of the enemy fool you and don't let those lies warp the way you think about yourself, the devil is an illusionist and he is a liar, mixing those can create a false reality and you don't want to get stuck between that.🤗🙏🏽

[leahzrc]

I agree and as for you, you are a really great man. have a genuine heart and a genuine faith. God bless you chico from the 305 <3

[ChicoFromThe305]

Thank you Leah, I appreciate the kind words 😁

I knew you were hiding a bright personality behind that wall, that wall was like a firewall protection software no lie 😆

[leahzrc]

you brought out the good in me

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well it was always there, I just had to knock down that wall of lies Satan planted in you, and nothing beats lies more than facts 🤓☝️

[allaboutyou2]

I'm single because I choose to be, I enjoy the single life.

[constantine15]

I’m too short, girls do not like short guys.

[Sasha0426]

And men don’t like fat women. But….. whatcha gonna do? 🤷‍♀️

[constantine15]

@Sasha0426 let’s not compare apples to oranges here. Weight can be lost. A man can’t grow taller. Not really comparable

[Sasha0426]

Whatever 🤷‍♀️