How do I let go of stuff that’s hurting me? How do I know that it won’t happen again?

[LaurenM1997]

I need to tell you guys what fully happened for you guys to understand so a few weeks ago I was pulled into the ladies toilets by my carer saying she thinks I’m unhappy and I should go and get a new carer! I mean it just came out of the blue out of nowhere also we were at the bus stop waiting for the bus and she said these horrible words “I’m glad my Thursday chap has died” I just stood there in utter disgust that poor chap can’t even defend himself cause he died! I am opening up to you guys so you understand my situation and now I’ve got to wait on another career as I’m not going back with this one and also on social worker waiting list it may take months to wait for one 😕 but yeah that is my story

[SolitarySolace]

No one likes waiting… patience is a difficult thing to have, even for me. I just tell myself at least my name is on the list and it’ll get to me eventually. And when it does they’ll let me know one way or another. As for the things that person said, they’re clearly a bad person… there are bad people everywhere and they’ll always do and say bad things because they can. I know because I deal with those kinda of people on here every day. That’s why I see a counselor to talk to and let it all out so I don’t keep it bottled up inside and eventually explode on someone at work. Don’t want that…

[LaurenM1997]

Do you think I should go see a counsellor?

[SolitarySolace]

I think everyone could benefit from seeing a counselor/therapist. Even if you don’t think you’re dealing with anything, there’s always something to talk to a counselor about. Their advice could come in handy sometimes. It’s up to you though. And I’m not sure how much $ other counseling offices charge… but mine is covered by my health insurance.

[LaurenM1997]

I’ll have a look into it thanks for your advice 🙂

[SolitarySolace]

You’re welcome. If you do happen to decide to start seeing one I hope it all works out for you.

[LaurenM1997]

Thanks

[Squatting_Slav]

That sounds like an awful position... and to hear someone say that.

I would often in these situations know that whatever happens I WILL be okay, sort of self soothing approach it calms me down at work, in sports, with friends and bad events. I think for me I rely on my own self confidence because i can trust it

[LaurenM1997]

I had to give my carer up cause she was just negative and harsh

[Squatting_Slav]

Yeah I wouldn' waste my time with people like that, a red flag right?

[LaurenM1997]

I agree

[VV3ZZY123]

I'm in a similar boat. I keep getting fired because someone makes up lies about me. (5x this has happened) you would think I would learn right? Except I did nothing wrong. Nobody even talks to me. No Accountability, No Due Process. No wonder these people keep doing it. Because they can.

[LaurenM1997]

Omg im so sorry that happened to you 😕 people are dumb and cowards

[VV3ZZY123]

And Dudes likes to pretend they are alpha when they probably just had easy lives.

[LaurenM1997]

I’ve seen a lot of alpha male questions and all the rest of it and I think to myself ugh not this again but yeah it’s a topic of discussion at times